What is the craziest thing your T has ever said?

He asked if I would like a hug. He later disclosed that he is not a huggy person, and if I would have accepted the offer he didn't know how he would have handled it; yet didn't think that a hug would have happened. He stated that he believes that he had a desire to offer comfort, yet has never before or since offered a hug to any client.

You know, I practically ran out of his office at the offer. That is kind of how I felt about the whole thing.

WTF?!? This makes no sense!

Did I not communicate the incident clearly?

I make sense of it like the t room is make-believe land. Like when my t said he WANTED to give me a ride home from the hospital, and he WANTED to get me a birthday present. Or when i say i want to marry him because then everything will be alright. Our subconscious mind cannot be reasoned with - or maybe thats just mine? Basically, if i still feel so uncared for, then no, i dont even want to ask my best friend for a ride. But if i feel i have a choice as to who would pick me up, then its a different story. We are here because we would do anything for each other, no? At least we are trying to feel like that. Imo.

So like today when my friends came over, i wasnt feeling well, but we just sat for a few minutes til i did. Then we went to swim. I feel better physically tonight, and i dont feel weird for having needs and making my needs known. I think im still coming off the stupid prednisone and thats why i was illing. I just asked myself, what would t do? Answer - he would par-tay! So i did. Hope this makes sense.

Im sorry your t freaked you out with an offer of comfort, lostwonder. I was like, well wheres my birthday present for a long time!! Its like that commercial where the lady posts her vacation pictures on her wall. Thats not how this workd! I always think of t in that ad.

I think that he learned a lot about himself in that and who he is as a care provider. I was one of his first clients once he entered into private practice. Something tells me that this was not the first or last time he has sought supervision regarding something from my sessions. While it was a completely unwelcome gesture, looking back years later I kind of wish that I could see it for what it was then. I took it as a sexual advance (it so wasn't,) because at that point I held a strong belief that all men wanted with any interaction from me was sex. I am blessed to have a mental health provider who could push past the labels I carried into his office, could and still does see who I was under my hardened exterior, and has the desire to get in the trenches with me to help me sort it all out. The first mental health professional who has held the belief that I am worth the effort and have a shot at full life.

Oh no! I'm sorry! I meant that your T's actions made no sense. Why offer a hug if he is unwilling to actually give you one.

Ok. This makes your T's actions make a little more sense. He was new at all of that and he didn't really know how to handle the situation well. That is much more understandable. Still a little brainless on his part, but more understandable.

I'm not quite buying the idea that he wouldn't have if I would have said yes please. I think he would like to believe that he would have backtracked. I think that he would have and been very uncomfortable with it. He offered about four years ago and only brought it back up within the past sixish months.

After I told him I "thought about him", a few sessions later we got into a topic of conversation about masturbation, and he asked me how often I do it, and whether it's the morning or the evening... I swear it was relevant, but it also caught me off guard. Of course I told him. To me it's more awkward to talk about "romantic" feelings than sex.

“I’m good at loving books. I’m good at loving soft bed sheets. I’m good at loving coffees and teas. I am good at loving things that can’t love me back, that don’t have the power to leave. And maybe, that’s why I love them.”

Right, I think it was a careless slip. I think his newness was really a positive for for me even if it has been a learn together type thing. How often do you walk into a PDoc's office looking for a med change, and are told that the dx you walked in with is sooo far off base and recovery is possible? Love that young optimism!

Huh? Why on earth would a therapist who's not comfortable with hugs offer a client a hug he's not even planning on giving?? Just wow ... some people ... I'm talking about him, your reaction sounds normal to me.

During my second session, my T called my consentual teenage homosexual relationship "the trauma I suffered".

One T told me the root cause of my eating disorder and depression was my intense fear of spiders.

What?

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I think I would have left that t at that moment...

I thought of another "crazy" thing a t said to me. I was looking for a new t when I first moved down here. I sat down for a first interview with this woman, and within the first five minutes told me she would send me to residential involuntarily based on my history (I am in my mid 30's and the history she was talking about was 2 years prior at the time) if I did not comply with her recommendation to see a psychiatrist and go on heavy meds. She then said she had no reason to trust me and I had no reason to trust her. She said she was uncomfortable working with me, and was resisting baker acting me at the moment. She said that purely based on the history I gave on their stupid form, and not on anything current or anything I was saying (I had only been there 15 minutes at this point and she had done all the talking). I started shaking so badly, I was totally terrified of her. It took everything in me not to try to run out of her office in that moment (I have no doubt she would have called the cops on me). I was so relieved when she cut the session short and let me leave. I burst out crying once I was safely out of the building. My wife had to drive us home because I was so upset. She was wicked pissed at the dumb lady also when I could finally tell her what happened.

I'm pretty sure my actual therapists have said ridiculously funny things at some point, or off the wall things, but none sick it for me.

exT: I will not tell you if you can e-mail me or not because it doesn't matter as I cannot physically prevent you from sending me e-mails. If you send me any, it will be my business to read it or not so you don't have to know if sending e-mails is allowed or not....

current T (asking me): so could you tell me what someone321 thinks about... - and I made big eyes as talking to me about me is "a bit" weird in my opinion

i thought i was posessed by the demon of my grandfather and that was why i heard voices. i was talking to my T about this and he asked me, in all seriousness "Do you think you need an exorcism"..... i was like HUH?????????

My t is crazy (only in good ways)& she has said lots of crazy things She makes me laugh a lot.

Just this week, my T was telling me a story about an old client of hers who was biracial, in foster care, and living with a family that had a cat named ni***r! :O

I was in a deep clinical depression, tearful and a mess each session...and I had 'remembered' in the week prior to my appointment that I had been raped at 14(long hidden memory)....I was a wreck and so I finally told this T about it. His response was......."and what is your purpose in telling me that?"....then told me I should go to another service to deal with that as he wouldn't.

In hindsight, I wonder who was more crazy at that very moment....me or him?? Lol. It has taken me another 4 years, and 15 months with my current T, to even be able to consider discussing it and the other times that happened.

He was dumber than S H ! T is all I can say now. (Sorry, I don't often swear..but that T deserves it!)

my former T, before things got sexual, like a year or so before, (but it shows he was already thinking about it) asked me if my boobs have always been big. i was so taken back by it. and uncomfortable. but i answered honestly . i wish i could have seen that as a red flag then and stopped going to see him. if only i knew in that moment that things would make a turn into a very dark place.

Are you going to do therapy with me or are you going to therapy with the people on the to forums?

I would have told a therapist who said this to me that I will do whatever I want with any person or group I want. This sounds a bit too much like a therapist who wants to be the focus of things for me personally. (I get that it worked for you and I am not questioning its benefit to you- But I have a very strong response to therapists who say such things)

I would too, except for in the context she asked me. My stock repose to everything was " Well on the forum...." This particular time it was in regards to the dreaded *touch* two years ago. Touch on this forum was a trigger for many and I see that it is still an issue, except it seems like every few threads are about it now. I don't know if you remember stopdog, but when I first came on PC I was dumped on left and right. She was in my corner. Like you, and a few others. Thank you to believing in "to each his own," stopdog.