What's the oddest thing you know about your T?

We REALLY need a "this post made me laugh" button!!!

we all need a bit of humour sometimes, no??

Hugs all,
WB

Can't Explain.....lol....you crack me up! Well, I don't believe wolves.... but she was raised in a hippy commune. Is that the same thing?

Close enough

lol to that....

I know this may not be weird to some but it is to me.

T considers herself a recovering cigarette smoker. She loved smoking but only gave it up because of the health warnings. She LOVED smoking and has a deal with her pcp if she gets a terminal disease she will take up smoking again. When she does (MANY years from no haha) she wants to be buried with a pack of cigarettes.

PS I smoked half a cigarette as a teenager (25 years ago) and thought it was disgusting.

My T has never played any games on her phone. I told her she is missing out.

Hmm, there are so many random anecdotes I could share. I guess there was the time she said she got into a car accident the previous day on her way to yoga. She rear-ended someone who slowed to turn, but she was distracted and talking on the phone to her mother-in-law. Some old lady witnessed it and told her she was "going too fast!" and my T wanted to respond, "gee, thanks b****!" lol. I laughed so hard and told T she should have said that. Also, she was upset and had to be mindful to avoid crying and she didn't want to call her husband about the wreck. It was interesting to hear about her being human.

i know lots of odd things about my t but to protect her privacy since she is well known i better keep it private
everyone thinks my t is so awesome and perfect which she is but i tell her no one knows what a big oddball she is!

He secretly wants to be a broadway singer..he told me then I grinned and then he said.. Not many people know that, like he wants me to keep a secret! It was a fun moment!

She let's her sons forge swords in her back yard.

When she describes the village she lives in it reminds me of the one in Hot Fuzz.

I love that movie!!!

She forgets to go to the bank when she has checks to deposit!! I keep having to ask her "Um, have you received the last 3 checks I mailed, cuz they haven't come through my bank yet." I can't imagine not putting MY paychecks in the bank!

so picturing dwarves and elves from the Hobbit...lol
hugs!
WB

So does my village...

My T literally tells me nothing about herself... I mean, nothing. Ive seen her for 2 months and all I know is her name. Is this bad?
I always feel like it would be inappropriate to ask any questions about her... So i dont. Is this normal? Im so confused

It sounds like your T uses the "blank slate" approach, which is not uncommon. Overall, therapists vary in the amount of info they choose to disclose to clients, from nothing at all to using relevant self-disclosure as a tool in therapy. Their choice may be because of the type of therapy they practice and/or what they feel is in the client's best interest (and other reasons as well.) The most important thing to consider is, is her method working for you in your therapy?

I think you can ask questions if you'd like to (of course your T can refuse answering them) but in my case I am not extremely interested in my T's life. I only know that she's in humanitarian assistance project - that's why she has to travel often and that her husband is retired - that's why she takes more holidays. Apart of it, I don't know anything and I am okay with it.

Mine is the same way...she has somebody who does her billing...otherwise I think she would forget that too. There have been a few times that I forgot to pay her at the end of a session (happened this past week). When I realized it when I got home I sent her a quick email apologizing. Her response was that I had more important things on my mind at the appt so not to worry. She is never worried about the money part and has told me that many times. She always said she makes the worst business woman because of it.

To be honest I think her therapy style in general really does work for me, but the lack of self disclosure bothers me as here on the forum I see lots of people talking about their Ts hobbies and lives etc... And sometimes it just feels plain unfair that she knows EVERYTHING about me and I know ******* nothing about her.

The only things I know about my T are how long he has lived in this country, and that he likes his job. I have seen him for two years. I've seen two other therapists, for six and eight months respectively, and knew absolutely nothing more than their names. So to me, knowing things about a T's family and hobbies sounds out of the ordinary. (I know a little about T's tastes in music and books because we often use imagery from those domains in therapy, but that's different.)

What difference do you think knowing more about the therapist would make to you that would be beneficial? If the style works for you - what good would the stuff some others do be for you?

I personally think that it is always good to know things about your Therapist.

If something is working for you, then why work yourself up because others do it differently than you do is my point.

Oh definitely, I agree with that fully.