[emptyspace]

How do you really know your T likes you?

Can you really know, since they are trained to build relationships with people?

Is it a "little white lie" similar to "you look great in those pants" type like?

[HazelGirl]

I have asked if I am annoying or if my T would prefer not to work with me. She always insists she isn't annoyed or angry or wanting to give up on me. And she has also said she will never lie to me, so I have to trust that what she says is true.

I always figure that the fact that she's yet to hit me is enough of an indicator.

[stopdog]

I don't think it matters.

[kororain]

I don't think she does like me. Not particularly. But it's fine because I don't much like her. I mean, she's fine, just not somebody I want to be friends with. She's perfectly likeable, just not my cup of tea. I think we're just different types of people. We think differently.

What fascinates me though, is how other people seem to loooooove her. I saw her interacting with this family in the lobby before my appointment and they were all so warm with each other. Weird.

[msxyz]

My therapist told me.

[LesFleursDuMal]

He lets me stay even when I don't say anything or when I only pronounce a few words. He tries to make me laugh, and make me feel better about myself. I think that's enough.

[Willowleaf]

I don't !

[Leah123]

She said so and I've known her long enough to trust her sincerity.

[ScarletPimpernel]

Originally Posted by Breadfish

I always figure that the fact that she's yet to hit me is enough of an indicator.

My T actually has hit me...twice...but very gently.

I know my T like me. She could have ended our sessions after 16 weeks and been free of me. But instead, she pushed the insurance for more sessions. Now we are fighting the insurance for even more.

I also know she likes me because she said so I fought with her one session on why it was important that I know if she likes me (and not solely in the professional sense). I won that fight

Last week I asked her why she puts up with me. Her response was that she adores working with me.

There are also many other reasons...but I won't go on

We get along well, just like each other as people. Not really hard to figure out really.

That she graciously accepted my apology and agreed to continue working with me when I called her to apologize a couple days after I rudely hung up on her during a phone session. And, she has also told me that I have had a profound effect on her. I wish I had asked to elaborate how but I didn't.

[nottrustin]

I guess we never really know how people really feel. She may be like many other people in my life who said they cared about me but obviously didn't really. That being said, I believe T cares because I know she has a lot more relaxed boundaries with me than other clients (NOT saying I am her favorite. I have mentioned things about her that she has told me (her relationship, child, etc) in relation to her other clients, She told me that most others do not know anything about that stuff in the depth I do.

[SheHulk07]

My T has told me that I am their favorite client to work with and that they really like working with me.

My t tells me she likes me, and loves me. She has told me before that she wont work with people she doesnt like because she doesnt need the business that badly. Also, she does fun stuff like give me birthday parties and christmas presents, and when we are in the same country at the same time we do fun things together, and when we do we laugh a lot.

[scorpiosis37]

Because she says so. She has said many times that I'm one of her favorite clients and that the connection we have doesn't happen very often, even in therapy; it's deep, long-term, and comitted. She says that I make it easy for her to care about me, and that she'll miss me very much when I do eventually terminate. She said I better keep in touch with her because she wants to know about the milestones in my life. Anytime I've told her about negative things my family said about me growing up, she has said: "I don't experience you that way at all!" and then said something positive, like she finds me entertaining or engaging. She has said that I'm unique, interesting, funny, and always have a crazy story to share so my hour is never boring. She has said that when she says my name on the schedule, she looks forward to meeting with me... and that she does not feel that way about all clients.

For all of the above, I REALLY appreciate my T!

[tinyrabbit]

My T has told me that he likes me, that I have a wicked sense of humour, that he feels he can learn from me. And once I said something about how I must be an awful client and he said: "You can't see why I would cherish you as a client, can you?"

[clairelisbeth]

Because she told me that she does when I asked (um grilled ) her, and I trust her completely. She also told me that she is very grateful to know me. And just lots of little non-verbal things that make me believe that she does.

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[junkDNA]

T told me he likes me. i asked why. he gave me legit reasons.

[sweepy62]

Little things they do or say without you asking, like 2 or 3 sessions ago she got this little drawing thing thing, with a paint brush and water and easel and whatever you draw disappears within minutes, I forgot what it's called.

Anyway, she knows I love to draw so she said look I saw this and thought of you, how you would like to play in session with it.


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[lostwonder]

I really think that he finds me really frustrating. I am not easy to work with, and am really bad about chasing rabbit trails. Whether or not he likes me as a person I do not know, and I suppose it doesn't really matter. He treats me with kindness and respect no matter what I throw at him.

[deepestwaters40]

This gets me thinking. Next session I'm gonna flat out ask my T if she likes me. Done.

I'm curious now. I would genuinely like to know. Also, I think it would be fun to put her on the spot like that

[growlycat]

I know Main T loves me. Our relationship is long lasting and feels pretty good.

CBT T, hmm. I did end up asking him a month or two ago and he said "GC, not only do I like you but I admire you…" Which seems a little rich but I want to believe him

[Ford Puma]

I would not be brave enough to ask! as for whether or nor she likes me, I have no idea. I am not good a guessing peoples feelings on me on my own.

I know she doesn't like me. I try to make myself unlikeable, and that way I know what people think about me at all times.