Is it important to hear that your T cares?

I clicked yes but misread the question... he hasn't said 'I care about you' but his care and concern does come across in the way he responds to me. Anyone can say the words but I think being able to convey it is more important. And it's important to me, to know that he cares about me, otherwise, whats the point?

I needed the word and the actions in the beginning, then I knew by just her actions. She does still say I love you on the phone and in emails. Given the close nature of a therapy relationship, and then comparing it to SO relationships, would we be just content to have actions with no words or words with no actions? Mmm...

I think that different people, even therapists, may show their caring in different ways and what one person will see as evidence of caring may not be what another person sees that way. I think this idea of caring may be a tricky and hazardous place to compare therapists.

I do agree that that kind of comparison can be misleading. I know that a therapist's caring is not something that is important (or even positive) for you, so I appreciate your reply very much. Thank you.

My T hasn't specifically SAID it, but she doesn't need to. I can feel it, and that's good enough! I would rather have that than have one who says they do, but their actions don't show it.

It's interesting that most of the written responses are NO, but the poll shows different.

Hm.

Yes, it is extremely important for me to know that my T cares.
If he didn't give a _____, than I would not want to be vulnerable with him nor trust his responses. I need to know that it is more than just a "professional interview" session...and that he is invested in the relationship too...within bounds of course...

WB

Not that she says it, but that I feel it.