Does your T talk about other clients?

brillskep · 04:49 AM

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Originally Posted by 1914sierra

I just remembered this. Had totally forgotten. Several years back, I became aware that two of my students were also seeing my T because we happened to run into each other there. It was really okay. It was bound to happen. I wasn't particularly worried about it, nor were they apparently, but T did take a few minutes to let me know what he had said to them pertaining to running into me at their therapist's office -- the proverbial elephant in the room

. They apparently were quite cool with it as was I.

That is the only time we ever discussed specific clients, and even then, it was only in the context of being sure we were all comfortable with the situation and were respectful of each others' privacy. He handled it so well that it was really a complete non-issue for all involved.

Any other references have been to completely nameless/faceless clients that were completely innocuous references.

Now you mention this, I had something similar happening too, when both I and another person I knew from group therapy with the same therapist, were seeing him individually too. We bumped into each other sometimes so we were aware of it. I didn't mention it to my therapist but I'm guessing she did. One time when we stayed over session time, he had the next client waiting outside and he told me by name that it was her. I would have found out anyway and I take it he must have wanted to spare me an awkward surprise.

I'm glad you and your students were cool with the whole situation.

JaneC · Jun 14, 2014, 02:48 AM

I never said anything to my T but the thought that he would talk to anyone about me would seriously p me off! And vice versa! Although when I ask questions like...how have your other clients found EMDR....he would answer generically.

When I learnt from another professional that I worked with whom he referred me to, that he refused to share any information about me with her when that would be the norm. I was really surprised and actually it helped me take a step or 2 towards trust.

Jun 14, 2014, 03:11 AM

Never ever about individual clients, even anonymously. He has said things like "I have seen this medication be helpful to other patients" when prescribing my meds, or "I have met with people ten years older than you who started doing that" when I've said that at the age of 40, it's too late for me to do this or that, but those occurrences are very rare. He has never mentioned anything that anybody else has said to him, thank goodness, and he never tries to suggest what I could do by using what others say or do. I could not trust him if he did.

ScarletPimpernel · Jun 14, 2014, 03:47 AM

Not really. If she does it's extremely general.

I don't like hearing about her clients, I don't like seeing her clients, I don't like seeing her interact with anyone, and I don't like seeing her anywhere outside the office. The only thing I'm okay with is hearing about is her family.

Jordy · Jun 14, 2014, 04:39 AM

She regularly does and most of the time it's absolutely anonymous, I also know that she must talk about me to other clients as she calls me her model BPD client as apparently I deal with it quite well.

The few times she has given specifics was about clients who were in my DBT group for a while and stopped attending. For one she said she was in a car accident, was ok but could not attend for a while. And two others she said they were hospitalized, she didn't give any more details about what had happenned, but as we knew they were in a bad place she wanted us to know that they were safe. So I was ok with that and would be ok if she told this about me if it happenned...

Jun 14, 2014, 05:42 AM

Mine does a lot, but only when it's relevant to an issue I'm having. He never says any major details or names though.

“I’m good at loving books. I’m good at loving soft bed sheets. I’m good at loving coffees and teas. I am good at loving things that can’t love me back, that don’t have the power to leave. And maybe, that’s why I love them.”

tinyrabbit · Jun 14, 2014, 06:02 AM

Only once. I said I always assumed he thought I was whining about nothing and his other clients were all worse off than me.

My T said: "Really? All of them?" Like it was a surprising thing to say. Then he said: "Well, I do have one client who's worse off than you," and then he started talking about how you can't tell whose pain is worse and comparison isn't helpful.

But the comparison WAS helpful. It showed me that he really didn't think I was just whining about nothing.

healinghearts · Jun 14, 2014, 01:24 PM

I had a t tell me of her 2500 plus patients my history of childhood abuse was among the the top 10 worse cases in her experience. I was stunned as I had GREAT difficulty even thinking about the things that happened as abusive.

Her words helped me to begin to see how messed up it really was. I am so glad she told me. It has helped me in accepting and to stop the denial.

Flyawayblue · Jun 14, 2014, 03:20 PM

T does express how she worked with clients in the past and how shes seen clients make huge improvements. Nothing in detail. It's more like general statements. I think it would be unethical for t's to discuss other clients with their clients. I wouldn't want T talking about me to other client.

kororain · Jun 14, 2014, 03:29 PM

Yeah... it was about a girl who had similar issues and inner struggles with talking to/not talking to people who weren't good for her. She gave me the specifics of the chick's issue and how she fought to overcome seeking out these dudes who weren't good for her.

Ultimately, I still sought out the dude I was supposed to be avoiding and got hurt. Again. So just because she has good advice and examples doesn't mean I follow them.

jerseygirl99 · Jun 19, 2014, 12:47 AM

Mine does, about one in particular. His star pupil I call her. I'm thinking of telling him next time to stop talking about her. I like to think I'm the only patient in their lives

Jun 19, 2014, 01:09 PM

Not in a way that I take particular notice of it.

But my Pdoc was talking about DBT a few times and mentioned it was usually for people with BPD, and that I didn't have that unlike other people on my unit.
I thought that was kind of rude because there was really only one person that could be.

Ford Puma · Jun 19, 2014, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by emptyspace

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Does your T talk about other clients to you... ?

And if so, in what context?

No not ever.
She [T] is very smart about things and never really strays from the rule book when it comes to telling me things.
Even if I were to ask I would imagine she would say that would be against the confidential side to things.

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