T's reaction when you dress totally differently?

I shaved my hair off a few weeks back for shave for a cure cancer fundraiser....my T did a classic double take of surprise, said WOW, then asked if I'd ever had it short before because it looked great.

Made me feel a little weird to get a compliment from him like that. I questioned it...he sid it was genuine. Hmmmmm

I dress the same way every time. She told me in the past she wanted to see me one time in the morning to see what I'm like. We did have a morning session, and she seemed disappointed that I didn't come in a mess...lol.

But I've done a lot of other changes since knowing her: cut my hair ~12 inches, got my forearms tattooed, changed my piercings, lost 40lbs. Those have all shocked her, but she liked it. She likes changes so long as it fits in my personality (if I were to wear pinks or extremely girly type clothes...that would worry her...and me too!)

Yes, it has been my experience that when non-gay men complement my outfit, it's usually their "proper" way of saying I look attractive. For example, the times I've worn tops that emphasize my breasts, I get "oh, nice top/sweater" from men. It doesn't bother me, but it would bother me if it came from a male therapist.

I compliment my therapist on her outfits (at times) and she has complimented mine. She has reduced her comments on my appearance after I told her I was also attracted to women. That has slightly upset me, because I would never misinterpret what she says.

This is what I've noticed as well. I had quite the crush on this psychiatrist, so it wasn't even that he was someone I wouldn't want attention from in regular life. I just didn't like that he said it at an appointment 1) because I had no idea how the heck I was supposed to respond to a doctor like 12 years older than me commenting on my heels in a clinical setting and 2) because it was kind of like, "If I'm going to respect boundaries, then you have to too." I'm probably just overthinking it, though. He never said anything overtly inappropriate.

The girly post struck me....lol....I'm NOT girly, nor have I ever been. But, call it a midlife crisis or something, I'm starting to find my inner girlyness. I made that comment once, and T has brought it up a few times since. Never in my life would I ever have owned anything pink, and just so happens right now I have black athletic pants on with pink stripes on the sides, and a white shirt with a lot of pink on it. Um....yeah. I just may be losing it. I don't really pay attention to what I put on when I go to the T, but maybe one of these days I'll wear something like what I have on now to see what her reaction is. I've been a bit of a tomboy my whole life.....but....that seems to be changing a little bit.

I'm usually in jeans and either a cute top or a t-shirt so it's pretty much the same every week.

I have however went from being a brunette to a deep burgundy red head this week. My therapist had not seen me yet. I'm curious as to what her reaction will be.

I have never been a tomboy. My personality is actually very "girly". I was the type of girl that would panic if I got my hands dirty...lol...still a little like that. But my dress style is kind of like a gothic Amish? I'm always wearing black...and I'm almost always covered up. So if I wore anything that showed my legs, tank top, reds, oranges, yellows, pinks, flowers, paisley, glitter, etc...my T would flip.

Side note: my tattoos are all flowers, butterflies, and ivy....pink and purple flowers!!! LOL

I always look like crap when I see him. In my clothes I am about to go workout in. Hmm.......I think I will walk in tonight wearing a dress. I am tired of looking frumpy anyway and feel like being feminine. It is 80 degrees out and I have cute sundress just sitting in the closet.
I will let you know any comments or lack of them.

I was a farm kid growing up, and still am. Oh....and the getting dirty part? I participate in mud runs for breast cancer.... don't get no dirtier than that!

One time when I saw my therapist I was wearing all black. He said, "You're not going goth on me now are you?" LOL

With my first therapist back in high school, I usually saw her in the middle of the school day, so I was always wearing my uniform. But one day I saw her during Spirit Week. It was Wacky Day, so I was wearing a bunch of clashing brighly-coloured clothing items with my hair in pigtails and about twenty bracelets on each of my arms. She was certainly shocked, haha.

My current therapist hasn't seen me dress radically different in any of our sessions yet, but every time I wear my glasses, she always does a double take and tells me that she didn't know that I wear glasses and that she didn't recognize me at first. She's done this several times, though.

As planned I went to group in a dress, with make up and a necklace. All first times for T. I was late due to very bad traffic and when I came in both a friend and t were really surprised and told me I looked great. T asked if I had dressed up for a job interview, told no, going to celebrate a birthday.
After group I had to talk to T to reschedule a session and she asked where I was going and wished me fun. So basically she reacted as I expected her to.

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Mine always compliments me when I come in wearing a cute little number. He told me one time when I wore my hair straight after wearing it wavy the entire time that I should wear it that way more often. And I have. Of course he noticed this and pointed it out; embarrassing!

“I’m good at loving books. I’m good at loving soft bed sheets. I’m good at loving coffees and teas. I am good at loving things that can’t love me back, that don’t have the power to leave. And maybe, that’s why I love them.”

My t says he used to read meaning into sudden changes in clothing at a session, now he just assumes it was the only thing clean unless it becomes a repeating thing.

Oooh! An opportunity to share my favorite 'picking on t' story. I worked at home for most of the time I saw her in person, so was almost always in shorts and a t-shirt of no specific design or color, just 'comfy'. T almost always wore black so much so I started calling her "ninja t". So this one time I went in dressed from head to toe in black. She opened the door, took one look at me, and said "Are you making fun of me?" I replied with a big grin "probably." I know I've shared this more than once. It just never gets old!! LOL

I've worn everything from yoga gear to a business suit for work. I think I crawled in wearing sweats on one of the first Saturday mornings after I started meds. I''m pretty sure he's seen it all.