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Just had my session after last weeks disclosure via phone-call about some abuse that took place in my childhood.
I felt really exposed and humiliated. Like she was seeing me for the first time, like she could see the dirt on my soul and on my body. I couldn't even speak or look at her for the shame of it. But I cried tons, like proper sobs of despair. She came and sat next to me and rubbed my back and talked gently to me. She said it sounded like my heart was breaking. And it felt like it was too. I just felt totally defeated by life. Before I left she gave me a long hug and I noticed she looked very teary eyed but I didn't say anything because I didn't know if she'd want me to have noticed. She's really the first person I've allowed to comfort me like that. I've never allowed myself to let someone touch me when I'm upset and I've never been able to tolerate long hugs. And somehow, that touch that I'm allowing is really healing, it helps put me back together for a little while. When I was growing up, for as long as I can remember I always wanted hugs, to cuddle into a safe adult but I never gave myself that, because I felt coming from me it would be perceived as sexual even tho it wasn't. Like it was something dirty and perverted. At that age I didn't know those words and wouldn't have thought in those terms but just that touch for me or from me was something wrong and dirty. So I never got the nurturing I wanted/needed. I suppose it's a testament to how far I've come and how strong my relationship is with this T that I allow her to touch me. Anyway, just thought I'd share.
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I hope you'll accept a cyber-hug from me. Well done.
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Yes I will except all hugs lol thank you
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Asia, I got choked up just reading this. You are amazing and brave, and I am so happy you are experiencing this connection and ability to accept care from someone.
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This is so touching, and it does show how strong your relationship with your T is.
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I can resonate so much with everything you wrote. I am glad your t reacted so compassionately. I feel the same exact way about touch. Good for you for being so vulnerable in session. There is nothing better than actually feeling the healing take place.
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It seems like the relationship is developing but it can be very up and down and I panic about it a lot. But I have a general sense of steadfastness from her, that she can take all my emotions, the downs generally come from boundary stuff and when she changes things in my therapy. But she seems to take everything in her stride.
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HazelGirl PTSD, Depression, ADHD, Anxiety Propranolol 10mg as needed for anxiety, Wellbutrin XL 150mg |
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It did help, I slept amazingly well and feel so much better today. I know that touch is a contentious issue for therapists and I can see why but honestly, I don't think enough value is placed on healing touch. It conveys so much about acceptance and empathy and safety.
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Yes, trusting that it's not all going to turn to dust unexpectedly is the hardest part.
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Asiablue,
I also am feeling moved by your experience yesterday in therapy. You showed a great deal of bravery and trust. Reading your words, I could imagine the relief you felt in getting it out in the open, letting that pain out, and receiving comforting touch from your t. I'm so happy for you, that you've developed that level of trust that allows you to do that. ![]() |
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I'm so happy to read how your session went. Thank you for sharing. And you are brave, even if you don't feel it.
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Very touching, I can so relate to feeling shame, everytime that subject comes up a bit I regress and I feel like im this little kid all dirty and grimy in front of my t.
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Well done Asia. Your session brought a tear to my eyes too. Thank you for sharing and many hugs to you. Your T sounds fab.
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What a touching session. Thanks so much for sharing.
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I told mine I felt like the top layer of my skin had been ripped off. Just so vulnerable and unsure of how she viewed me now she knows some really personal things. She told me she didn't find me disgusting or vile or any of those things, but it's hard to believe it sometimes.
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I am so glad you are taking this journey, and am proud to cheer you on. You've come along way, Asiablue. You've got a wonderful therapist to help you along. You clearly are one of the lucky ones.
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