[ImNotHere]

I have been seeing my therapist for over 6 months now and while we have made some progress I am feeling like I have had enough of her. I don't feel like she understands me at all anymore, for example I told her I never felt like I belonged in this world and she said "too bad your too old for summer camp, summer camp makes you feel like you belong", I was honestly like wtf, I am not a child and she clearly doesn't understand how I feel after 6 months of working hard and talking to her. She knows I have social issues and I think I am just done with her.

However for some reason I feel bad and am not sure how to end this. I have already cut my sessions to only twice a month and I am not sure how to end this. I could call and cancel my appointment but for some reason I feel and and don't want to hurt her feelings. I try to avoid conflict and don't want her to question me or ask me why I don't want to see her because I don't want to hurt her feelings or something because she has helped me a little. How can I end this?

[HazelGirl]

Telling her is the best way, and then scheduling a closing session or two.

Also, schedule another appointment with a different T who might better be able to help you.

Remember, they are professionals you have hired and that you can fire whenever you want.

[stopdog]

The feelings of a therapist are not the client's problem. I doubt the therapist would have hurt feelings anyway. You could write or you could just go in and tell her you have decided to take a different path and leave. Even if the therapist asks you questions, you do not have to answer them.

[Mactastic]

You have every right to move on. I does sound like you have respect for her and I can understand why an abrupt ending would hurt. As Stopdog said, her feelings likely won't be hurt, this stuff happens. Would you prefer a termination session or two or are you ready to leave abruptly?

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[ImNotHere]

Thank you everyone for the answers, I am not sure about a closing session because like I said I don't want to deal with her questions and feeling guilty, I am worried she will make me feel guilty about stopping our sessions. I can't let go of the fact that I might make her feel bad if I go in there and say I want to stop. I know she will ask me a ton of questions and I don't know how I will handle that, would it be terrible if I just called and canceled?

[stopdog]

No it would not be terrible.

[someone321]

No I don't think that it would be terrible. The closing session if for you not for your T. Thus, if you don't feel like having it why would you suffer and even pay for it? I made a closure session with my exT when I told him that it was it - and it was senseless...

"too bad your too old for summer camp, summer camp makes you feel like you belong", I was honestly like wtf,'

Aint never heard that one before, but similar responses from a past T.

I wouldn't w8 another 6 months investment in her.

I quit 2 therapists in the past 2 years.

I'm comfortable with whom I have now.
Glad I found somebody else.

[InRealLife45]

Originally Posted by ImNotHere

I have been seeing my therapist for over 6 months now and while we have made some progress I am feeling like I have had enough of her. I don't feel like she understands me at all anymore, for example I told her I never felt like I belonged in this world and she said "too bad your too old for summer camp, summer camp makes you feel like you belong", I was honestly like wtf, I am not a child and she clearly doesn't understand how I feel after 6 months of working hard and talking to her. She knows I have social issues and I think I am just done with her.

However for some reason I feel bad and am not sure how to end this. I have already cut my sessions to only twice a month and I am not sure how to end this. I could call and cancel my appointment but for some reason I feel and and don't want to hurt her feelings. I try to avoid conflict and don't want her to question me or ask me why I don't want to see her because I don't want to hurt her feelings or something because she has helped me a little. How can I end this?

Any way you like. If you dont like confrontation, just shoot her an email or a text that says something direct or something passive but both mean goodbye:

1) I'll contact you if I want to schedule another session
2) Thank you for all your help, but I think it's time to take a break from therapy for awhile (maybe financial reasons?)

I sent my T an email like the first one basically saying I couldn't afford more sessions right now, but I'd let her know when I got more money and until then I needed to cancel any standing appointments.

[Perna]

Originally Posted by ImNotHere

because like I said I don't want to deal with her questions and feeling guilty

You already have said you feel guilty. Your feelings are yours, not someone else's/"out there". You can up and quit and feel guilty for doing it that way or you can do your best to deal with her questions and your feelings of guilt in a last session. We generally feel guilty when we do something we feel is wrong. It sounds like you feel it is wrong to quit seeing your therapist because you do not feel you are getting enough from the relationship. You have to decide what you want and stand behind yourself and what you want. It's your life and living it worried about the other person and what they may/may not think and feel and what they are doing (Can they deal with their feelings??? What if they can't, it will be all my fault!) means you are not respecting yourself and living your own life. Personally, I would stay and work with your feelings of guilt around leaving, with this T, since she seems to elict them so nicely?