We had a big conversation about it, and I told her a few of the reasons I want to quit, but then I left the session feeling that I didn't give the true reason. That I'm bored with therapy and that I find it weak and ineffectual.

Today's session was good because it was open and honest and T was talking me up, telling me how awesome I am, etc, but I am sure that if I decide to continue it will be back to the old boring routines again.

I think I'm just bored with therapy.

But then I question whether I truly am bored with it. I seem to remember that we have had some very good sessions recently, where i have been open and honest and was able to discuss some big issues.

So I don't know whether to quit or not.

I see T again next week.

[Fermata]

Oh, I had the exact same feelings with my former T who used the same modality. If you're unsure about quitting, maybe stay for a little while longer because it can be very difficult to return if you quit then change your mind. I spent at least 2 months deciding if I was going to quit or not. What are some other reasons aside from boredom that are making you want to stop? Financial reasons perhaps? It's a hard decision to make because you know you must hurt the T's feelings regardless of how good your reasons are.

Originally Posted by Fermata

What are some other reasons aside from boredom that are making you want to stop? Financial reasons perhaps? It's a hard decision to make because you know you must hurt the T's feelings regardless of how good your reasons are.

I don't think I am hurting T's feelings.

Reasons are that I just don't want to drive there, it's a hassle to get to.
Therapy is also difficult.
Idk what else. .

[freefallin]

I get bored with therapy really quickly, which is why I don't really stay with therapists very long and have given up on them. I can relate to what you say about it feeling like a hassle to go. I don't really understand how people manage to stay in therapy for years. The concept is lost on me lol. After a few sessions, I'm just sitting in there thinking, "I don't want to be here. So bored. There's nothing to talk about, and I am wasting time. Wtf am I doing here?!"

[Fermata]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

I don't think I am hurting T's feelings.

Reasons are that I just don't want to drive there, it's a hassle to get to.
Therapy is also difficult.
Idk what else. .

Hmm. The driving part would suck very much indeed. What part of therapy do you find so difficult?

[iheartjacques]

My T said to me I come back because I'm getting something out of it. If I wasn't, I would quit. Why do I go? It's a safe place for me to talk about stuff. But at some point you start running out of stuff to talk about and things in your life get better

[SabinaS]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

I find it weak and ineffectual.

This sounds as though you're a bit angry about something. What is about the therapy that you find weak and ineffectual? And does it have anything to do with your feelings for your T?

Whatever it is, it's good to talk about it in therapy, might shake things up a bit and make it less boring

Originally Posted by SabinaS

This sounds as though you're a bit angry about something. What is about the therapy that you find weak and ineffectual? And does it have anything to do with your feelings for your T?

I guess the fact that we don't do anything practical, I just lie on the couch and we talk.

Originally Posted by Fermata

Hmm. The driving part would suck very much indeed. What part of therapy do you find so difficult?

Spilling my guts to a stranger. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and shake my head at some of the stuff I say in therapy.

[HazelGirl]

Is it possible you're making excuses in order to run from difficult topics you don't want to face?

Also, therapy isn't supposed to be fun or exciting. Sometimes it's rather boring.

Personally, I detested psychoanalytic therapy. I need something more interactive -- more HUMAN. You just may need a change in style.

[tametc]

Originally Posted by iheartjacques

But at some point you start running out of stuff to talk about and things in your life get better

I look forward to the day when I run out of stuff to talk about. My life has gotten progressively better, but there's still a huge area of deep trauma that I was barely beginning to work on with former T.

[Lauliza]

Maybe you can cut back your frequency of sessions. I had a T many years back where I just wasn't that into it. I liked her but didn't feel like I was getting anything out of the sessions and didn't usually have much to say that I found interesting. It was also a pain to get to and it cut into my social schedule which I didn't like. I kept cancelling and rescheduling until I just never went back. It didn't phase me in the least.

So maybe if you aren't feeling any benefit from your therapy, cut down and see if anything changes for you. Unless there are some real functioning issues going on and you need treatment to get manage your life, I don't think it's that big of a deal.