T cancelled and made me feel like nothing

She should of just said, she had to reschedule the apt w/ you.

Here is a song I wrote a week or so ago, about a stressed out T who needs to terminate herself/himself I posted this awhile back.

I will dedicate it to her.

TERMINATION

Set your pace, and walk in the room
thought you'd get to my mind real soon

Just can't take it, anymore you thought
but found another case, you thought you never bought

Stuck with my thoughts, you just didn't buy
you shake your head, and wonder why

Take your place
a private office space,
sit in your chair,
do you really really care

Just another day
Does it really pay
Make it go away
I'm not here to stay

My sanity is gone, I hope it's not too late
I just wanna get out, I want to terminate

Just another day
Does it really pay
Make it go away
I'm not here to stay
Terminate today

Yes they do! I was bummed not to see ONE SINGLE review for my T on any of those sites. She's been practicing here for over 20 years! So, I took a leap of faith, and she's perfect for me! I'm so glad I took the risk. (BTW, she now has one review out there....mine!)

Oh, God I'd bill her for this cancellation... and than I'd find a new T- seems like she just doesn't care (not even a little bit to make up a decent excuse...)

Definitely send her a bill, for the cost of the session and for missed wages if you took time off for your regularly scheduled appointment.

My time is as valuable as my therapist's, and I rearrange my work and class schedules around that hour on Monday afternoons. I expect him to cancel if he is sick or an emergency happens (and he expects me to cancel if I am ill, as he has no paid sick leave in private practice), and I expect advance notification of vacations and professional conferences, etc. I give him notice if I will be away, so he can fill the hour I normally use.

You therapist acted very unprofessionally, and she did not respect your time. It was wrong, even before you get to the emotional impact of that behavior on a client. Just yuck. I'm so sorry.

She absolutely should NOT have done this.

It would be okay if she asked if you could reschedule, on the understanding that she would honour the original appointment if not.

It was not okay to say what she said. Please please find another therapist. You deserve so much better, I promise.

I will be getting a new t, I just... Oh heck with it, I need to cancel the appointment I made for two weeks from now. It's hard to admit when therapy isn't working out, but it isn't, and I'm almost as bad as I was now before iop. I needed to talk about my paranoia coming back, about how to deal with this toxic friendship I havd, about how I'm really doing bad. She started talking about herself and I could not inset a word in edgewise.
It went terrible. During my " rescheduled " appointment, she talked about herself 25 minutes didn't ask how I was doing, not even once. I spent the time watching her type out a letter she swore she had already typed but claimed she couldn't find. I'd expected it to take 10 mins, took the entire hour and I went home and cried, I was so depressed. I'm ready to give up therapy if this is the norm for this place. I'd heard she was bad, but to go to therapy abd hear your therapist cry about how her new teeth hurt when I havd 3 broken teeth just mDe me feel...so insignificant. Im dealing with paranoia and was begging to talk about it now I gotta wait to see if there's anybody who CAN see me, after bankrupting me with their bills for therapy I. Never. Received.

God help me, but I'm angry. I'm in crisis.Thank god for you people here, is all I can say.

I don't quite believe it. She did it again, at her last chance session, she called off an hour before to tell me I was her only patient and it wasn't worth going in for.

I was only going in to fire her, lol. During the call she talked about herself.... Again. Augh!!!!!

Just as well you're rid of her.

This therapist enrages me. Please stop seeing her and report her. Take care of yourself and I hope you are able to fins someone to give you genuine care and attention. She's something else...

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ugh. that's terrible! i'm so sorry. i hope you can find a professional t that cares about you instead of herself. sounds like she's in the wrong profession.

Please do report her. That is unethical behavior. You don't deserve to be treated that way, nor do any future clients. If a more vulnerable client were told it wasn't worth coming in for their appointment, I'd be very afraid to see what might happen.

Well, I did it, both reported and fired her. They were aghast.

I'm so grateful to everyone who replied. My self esteem is do low, I'm not always even sure when I shoukd be angry when people walk all over me.

I even told them, in all these months, I've never ever had an actual therapy session.

What great courage that took nummy! Well done, what an amazing thing to do, to standup for yourself like that.

I hope that you find a new and wonderful T soon, you surely deserve it after that experience!

I'm so proud of you, Nummy! Like Jane said, firing her and reporting her took a lot of courage! I'm so glad you stood up for yourself!

I hope you can find another T soon.

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The thing is, it's like she never wanted me as a client...

Nummy...please do no take this on yourself... This is about her not about you!

She didn't deserve you. There are fabulous therapists out there who would love to have someone like you... You know what's causing you trouble, and you want to work! After this bad one, I'm hoping that the next one is the best therapist ever!

i echo the above. it's not about you, it's about her. it sounds like she picked the wrong profession or has some unresolved issues of her own. i know it's hard to not internalize a t's missteps (or blatant abuses) but it's not your fault. i hope you find a new t soon that will validate that what this woman did was terrible.

Now you know. Don't give her a second thought (or even cancel any future appointments you may have tried to make with her), just move on. I would not even feel bad for what she said/her behavior, it's her words/behavior/problem, not yours. I refuse to feel unwanted by someone I don't respect or want to be wanted by in the first place!

Good for you!!!! I can't believe that anyone was aghast that you took this action. Her behavior is just outrageous.

I can promise you that all therapists are not like her. She's just shockingly bad.

This is soooooo not about you at all. It's about her not doing her job. This goes back on HER.

There are therapists out there that help us, and there are therapists out there that just don't. I'm sorry you hit a don't and that you feel bad.

Do something nice for yourself - reward yourself for not tolerating her one moment longer.

You deserve it.

Go nummy!

Very unethical, It is her loss and another T's gain. x

(((((nummy)))))