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Old Aug 11, 2014, 12:18 PM
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I have noticed that the day after a session I am extremely emotional. I want to be alone, push people away and can cry at the drop of a hat. I'll be mad, frustrated, sad, etc. My mom wasn't close to me and I'm having transference with my T. The feelings are almost like a longing? I have only told her I feel love towards her because I can't name the other feelings I'm experiencing and they are most intense the day after. So different than any other relationship. As the days go on, my feelings lessen. Then, the day before my session and the day of I get anxious/nervous/excited. Such a rollercoaster of emotions. What do you feel inbetween sessions? Someone once described it as a hangover.
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Old Aug 11, 2014, 12:25 PM
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I'm just like you after my sessions. I typically want to be alone and just have quiet time to myself. Sometimes I feel like I'm in a bit of a daze. Not emotional enough for tears....but it also depends on the session. I had one (I will never forget it, July 17th) session that was pretty hard on me emotionally. For about three days I was just "off." I was emotional, in that daze, and just kinda felt like I wasn't grounded at all. I needed to get a grip. It's sessions like that that make me wonder if I want to continue, but it's also sessions like that which will help me overcome the skeletons in the closet.
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Old Aug 11, 2014, 01:18 PM
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I have noticed that the day after a session I am extremely emotional. I want to be alone, push people away and can cry at the drop of a hat. I'll be mad, frustrated, sad, etc. My mom wasn't close to me and I'm having transference with my T. The feelings are almost like a longing? I have only told her I feel love towards her because I can't name the other feelings I'm experiencing and they are most intense the day after. So different than any other relationship. As the days go on, my feelings lessen. Then, the day before my session and the day of I get anxious/nervous/excited. Such a rollercoaster of emotions. What do you feel inbetween sessions? Someone once described it as a hangover.
Well, I feel withdrawal. All I want to do is contact T, and when I'm in the middle of my between session dry spell, I can go pretty off the rails. I'm working on remaining stable thurs-mon but this past weekend is the only weekend in recent history where I didnt lose my ****, and probably only bc AsiaBlue made me clean up on saturday and sunday, and I was too busy *****ing about that to cry about my T.
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Old Aug 11, 2014, 01:24 PM
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i just want to veg after sessions. and then i go through a period lately where i'm like 'screw you t, i never want to come back because IT'S ALL JUST HEAD GAMES' - i do a lot of quiet processing tho and email him what i'm thinking. and then by mid way, i'm looking forward to it again because he *is* helpful even if it feels like professional mind games :P
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Old Aug 11, 2014, 01:30 PM
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I start off feeling happy, relaxed, refreshed. Then I start missing my T. Once I fully process what happened in therapy, I'm upset, angry, confused, frustrated (I always find something). The day before therapy and the day of therapy, I'm scared and wind up being extremely sarcastic with everyone. Then when I see my T and sit on the couch, I relax. That's my cycle of feelings.
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Old Aug 11, 2014, 02:44 PM
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Just after the session I feel good and happy or pretty bad (depending on the session), next day I feel like with a hangover but I still can function pretty well but the day after... It's always the worst day for me, I want to stay alone, watch tv the whole day, am very numb or extremely anxious - it's always the worst day... Then it gets better till the day before next session when I start being anxious and the anxiety increases over time till ca. 1 hour before the session when I become extremely calm...
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Old Aug 11, 2014, 02:49 PM
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I usually wanted to destroy myself in an effort to relieve the enormous amount of frustration I feel until I started seeing the second one who I find less frustrating than the first one. With the second one I rarely feel anything.
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Old Aug 11, 2014, 02:53 PM
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I have left feeling "unfinished" lately, and like I still need to wrap up what was brought up in t. I can leave feeling ok at times, but it's mostly in a daze. I constantly want to contact t to finish up what was left unsaid in session.. I also go through periods of not wanting to return to therapy because the intensity of emotional upheaval is too overwhelming between sessions. I have a lot of trouble getting through the days between sessions. Mostly it's severe depression. With this new t, there is not often relief in session. With my old t, I would get relief during sessions (feel emotionally safe, have a break from the oppressive depression). That feeling would often last through the day, but fizzle soon after that.
I try to find things to help me get through the days. I try to expresses myself in writing or art. I try to connect with at least one other person outside of my family. Then (with this new t), I get incredibly anxious the last few days before session. I don't want to head back to therapy at all. I get into the waiting room and I want to leave between the time I check in and she comes to get me (often up to 20 minutes between me getting there early, or right on time, and her being late). It's something I hope I will be able to address with her this week...
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Old Aug 11, 2014, 03:23 PM
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Just after the session I feel good and happy or pretty bad (depending on the session), next day I feel like with a hangover but I still can function pretty well but the day after... It's always the worst day for me, I want to stay alone, watch tv the whole day, am very numb or extremely anxious - it's always the worst day... Then it gets better till the day before next session when I start being anxious and the anxiety increases over time till ca. 1 hour before the session when I become extremely calm...

I become extremely calm right before too!
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Old Aug 11, 2014, 05:24 PM
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The day after, and maybe a couple of days more, I feel emotional and also distant from my family. I feel like I want everyone to leave me alone. I feel sick, and this is a risky time for SI. Then, I feel okay, and perk up, and forget about therapy, la di da. Until the day before, when I get anxious and irritable, then in the way there i get nervous and preoccupied. Whilst I'm there I am all over the place.
Someone remind me why I do this?
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Old Aug 11, 2014, 05:31 PM
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Well this all depends on how I walk in. If I walk in a triggered mess then usually he helps pull the cement boots off, wipes the sludge off of me, peel away the cracked broken layers and I walk out with an airy light hopeful feeling.
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Old Aug 12, 2014, 07:29 PM
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I feel exactly as others describe it. I hate in between time. It gets worse when I go twice a week.
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Old Aug 12, 2014, 08:19 PM
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I usually wanted to destroy myself in an effort to relieve the enormous amount of frustration I feel until I started seeing the second one who I find less frustrating than the first one. With the second one I rarely feel anything.
Do you mind if I ask why you still see the first one?
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Old Aug 13, 2014, 01:47 AM
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I understand the frustration stopdog.
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