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Sep 06, 2014, 01:33 AM
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I screwed up my courage and asked T today if he loves me. I was expecting him to deflect the question or answer evasively - like, "I care about you" or "Does it matter to you if I love you?" But right away he answered yes. Well, not "yes" the word - he used another word which I have already blocked out but I know it was affirmative. After he said this, I started crying. I can still hardly believe it. I'm still trying to let it in that he really does care about me, even to the point of loving me. Frankly, if his answer had been no, I don't think I could have gone back.
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#2
Sep 06, 2014, 01:34 AM
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That is awesome. I'm glad you did ask.
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#3
Sep 06, 2014, 01:41 AM
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Good for you for being brave enough to ask!! It's hard isn't it? And it feels so good to get the kind of answer you got, huh. I'm glad you asked too.
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#4
Sep 06, 2014, 02:17 AM
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I wish I had the courage to ask...how brave of you.
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#5
Sep 06, 2014, 04:06 AM
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You're really brave to do that. I'm so happy for you that he affirmed his care for you! I heartily wish I have the courage to ask mine but I'm too defensive and scared.
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#6
Sep 06, 2014, 05:25 AM
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That is brave and I'm glad you got the answer you did! Well done
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INFP Introvert(67%) iNtuitive(50%) iNtuitive Feeling(75%) Perceiving(44)% |
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#7
Sep 06, 2014, 05:28 AM
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That is really brave, and it's great your T is able to answer honestly and affirmatively
I'm totally jealous though 
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#8
Sep 06, 2014, 06:43 AM
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Good for you. It is difficult and scary to ask such a question.
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#9
Sep 06, 2014, 08:44 AM
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Im sure Ts cant say they dont love us. But its nice he says he loves you. Mine also said it in the past when he loved me...
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#10
Sep 06, 2014, 10:07 AM
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I didn't ask mine, but its lovely to hear it from her. Kudos to you for asking
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#11
Sep 06, 2014, 10:18 AM
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Awesome! How long have you been in therapy?
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#12
Sep 06, 2014, 10:39 AM
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Thanks, everyone, for saying I am brave. It is nice to hear that!
soccerMom, I've been in therapy with this T for about a year and four months. For much of that time I've been seeing him twice a week. I'm glad I posted this here because this morning I find that my brain has already gone into "don't believe it - that didn't happen" mode. Seeing my post and the responses is proof to me that it really did happen. It is amazing to observe the tricks that my mind goes through and to see the extent to which I have such a hard time letting love in. |
| Aloneandafraid, HealingTimes, lumisho
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#13
Sep 06, 2014, 11:08 AM
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That is the sweetest thing to hear. I'm glad for you to have such a nice relationship. There are not many like that.
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#14
Sep 06, 2014, 01:42 PM
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Sep 06, 2014, 01:53 PM
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This is so lovely to read. I am so happy for you.
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#16
Sep 07, 2014, 05:20 PM
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T's aren't meant to love you. And to say so is unprofessional. To ask that is wrong. They are meant to care for you but in a professional manner which is still quite removed to protect their own emotions & stuff & so they can do their job effectively.
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#17
Sep 07, 2014, 05:45 PM
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And I can't imagine how asking anything in therapy is wrong. That's the complete opposite of my understanding of therapy: a safe space to be honest. I like this article about love in therapy: Attachment Theory and the Healing Psychotherapy Relationship I don't agree with everything the author says throughout his blog, but I do relate to that one. |
| BonnieJean, UnderRugSwept
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Sep 07, 2014, 05:51 PM
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Sep 07, 2014, 05:55 PM
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"Take me with you, I don't need shoes to follow, Bare feet running with you, Somewhere the rainbow ends, my dear." - Tori Amos |
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