[LifeIsCruel]

Does your T ever:

constantly yawn (I want to take my T a pot of coffee and a case of 5-hour energy!)

watch the clock (literally counting down the seconds...I engage and look at the clock with them! LOL!)

Google!!?? MANy times I asked my T a question...and they Google the answer!!! I told them repeatedly that "I" knew how to Google!

[HazelGirl]

Wow. Yawning can be forgiven. It's not a sign of boredom, and can't always be controlled.

But the watching of the clock in that way and the googling would make me feel like he wasn't really hearing me and that he didn't know what he was doing. Not a good message to sent to a client.

That doesn't sound great. My T has a clock placed behind my head somewhere I think, so I never see her look at the clock. She never yawns. I feel that she is 100% engaged in my session. We just talk, there is no computer inolvement.

[Bells129]

I would be mega pissed if my T did those things. She never yawns, even though that can't be controlled I feel like she's completely awake and 'there'. She doesn't check the clock, infact there is no clock in the room. And she definitely never googles anything.

[RedSun]

My t does glance at the clock now and then, - it is on the coffee table so we can both clearly see it. She never yawns, and no googling, or any devices, - though she did let me lean on her ipad to write some stuff down once. I think she regretted it when I got all shaky, and said to put it down carefully
I would be peed off if she yawned. She does sigh a lot, but sort of with me, rather than at me.

[sweepy62]

My t yawns, it's fine with me because you can't control it. And she is attuned to me. The googling would piss me off. If she doesn't know something she will tell me.

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[IndestructibleGirl]

The very obvious clock watching is really rude. The googling would make me a bit contemptuous. Nobody has all of the answers - far from it - but I would rather they had enough knowledge and agility to be able to discuss the question and unpick it, rather than turning to google.

[The_little_didgee]

One time she almost fell asleep. I bent down to look at her bowed head and she came to as I did. If she hadn't I would have just walked out. That really hurt.

Most people find me really boring so I'm used to getting less than favorable responses even here on PC. When I got that kind of response from my therapist I wasn't happy and I let her know it. It is hard for me to detect and interpret subtle nonverbal cues so it leaves me wondering a lot.

She doesn't watch the clock. Sometimes she goes over so I guess I am not always boring her to death.

[IndestructibleGirl]

Originally Posted by The_little_didgee

One time she almost fell asleep. I bent down to look at her bowed head and she came to as I did. If she hadn't I would have just walked out. That really hurt.

Most people find me really boring so I'm used to getting less than favorable responses even here on PC. When I got that kind of response from my therapist I wasn't happy and I let her know it. It is hard for me to detect and interpret subtle nonverbal cues so it leaves me wondering a lot.

She doesn't watch the clock. Sometimes she goes over so I guess I am not always boring her to death.

You're not boring, The Little Didgee. When I read your posts, I get a really interesting glimpse into you and your experiences - nobody who can do that in the easy writing style you have could possibly be said to be boring.

[someone321]

No my T has never done any of the above... And I wouldn't like it if she did. Okay yawning in the evening few times - this I could understand, I, for instance, yawn when I am very stressed (that's a pretty cool symptom as everyone thinks then that i am extremely relaxed), so I wouldn't be extremely bothered if my T did it but if it was often, I guess I'd suggest changing session time or bringing coffee...

[precaryous]

Bring it up to your T.

My T has yawned. When it happened several sessions in a row, I brought it up to her. I told her it made me concerned she was too tired. It made me wonder if she was hearing what I was saying. I wondered if I was not talking about core issues..boring her? She hadn't realized she was yawning and apologized.

The obvious clock watching and googling seem to me to be amateurish mistakes. I would figure out what these mean to me and tell your T.

[The_little_didgee]

Originally Posted by LifeIsCruel

Google!!?? MANy times I asked my T a question...and they Google the answer!!! I told them repeatedly that "I" knew how to Google!

What kind of questions do you ask when your therapist has to Google the answers? If it is used to look up community resources I can understand. Answering therapy questions in this way would make me wonder about competency.

[roimata]

She yawns every single session, often more than once. I never really noticed until she started bringing attention to it by apologizing/assuring it wasn't me making her yawn.. then I was like "wait.. hey!! yeah!!! what the flip!" now I notice it every time. Shot herself in the foot there honestly

Re: google: Are they diagnostic related? Resource aggregation? If your T is googling things like "client is asking about the small petting zoo in my office please help" then you might want to ask to see her credentials

[wotchermuggle]

Originally Posted by roimata

Re: google: Are they diagnostic related? Resource aggregation? If your T is googling things like "client is asking about the small petting zoo in my office please help" then you might want to ask to see her credentials

OMG. This totally put me into a fit of giggles!

I've never had my T yawn or Google. My T does look at the clock, but that's because he's keeping track of time.

[musinglizzy]

My T has recently started yawning during sessions. And still talking while she yawns, which obviously makes it more obvious. She does glance at the clock here and there, but I always thought it was a good thing...she was seeing how much time she had to bring up a particular topic that would take some time and perhaps make me emotional. But now I see that doesn't matter, (I posted about it last night). She HAS to keep her phone by her.... and I see her peer at it if it lights up with a message. I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND emergencies, but honestly, I would think that's what the ground line could be for. My T and I HAVE texted, but I don't think it's her preferred method of communication (for business) so I only Email. I don't call either.

She googled once, but I had no problem with it because she was looking for a kind of business she suggested that might be closest to me....

So googling in your situation....I'd be curious. Checking the clock, I see it as her keeping track of time vs. topics. The yawning. Well I know for a fact I can stifle a yawn, but if I do yawn, I don't make it well known by being loud or talking through it. I don't believe I have yawned in therapy. And I am one who doesn't sleep much at night.

[Chartres]

I had a T get on the Internet to shop for wine during my session - no joke! It was couples therapy and she had asked partner and me to take a moment to write something down. While we were doing that, she turned around and got on the computer. She didn't even try to hide what she was doing or what she was shopping for. I was so astonished that I didn't say anything.

This is the same T who also showed partner and me the rental unit in her house (she has a home office) and asked if we were interested in renting it. Um, no thanks, Couples T, I don't want to live with you!