[StressedMess]

DD1 had a T appointment at 9:00 this morning. Her last session was August 7, then T was going on vacation, then school was starting back, so this was scheduled loosely back then.

DD1 is 17, in counseling one or sometimes two visits a week since January. She was SI and threatened SUI and I didn't know what to do for her. She had another T last year, but she was horribly expensive and impossibly far away, she was perfectly nice but they just could not click. DD never spoke one word so after 12 sessions she convinced me to let her switch.

She and this T hit it off immediately, the bond formed quickly, they began to dig into DD's issues and within 4 months she finally told of her history of SA. Immediately T began Trauma Focused CBT, she taught tricks to handle panic attacks, helped the catastrophizing anxiety, and had a very strong safety plan in place. She predicted one year of weekly sessions would make a huge difference for DD.

Back to today, she was so glad to see T again, has been journaling things as they happen so she wouldn't forget to mention something, and has a ton of new things to talk about.

15 minutes past her appointment time the receptionist called me aside, confused why we were there today. T no longer works here. DD's case is being switched to another T but she doesn't have 5 minutes to meet you today, she will be in touch to schedule.

Whoa.

DD cried hysterically, really liked and trusted T, and can't see how she can continue TFCBT because it will take months to build up the comfort if they even click with each other.

I am beyond pissed off, but on second thought, I'm seeing my 3rd T and I just started in April. I guess they don't believe in advance warnings at our county MHC. This makes me question the circumstances of her leaving, although I would never doubt her integrity, she made DD's experience wonderful. So now what?

Thanks in advance.

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[HazelGirl]

That's not only horrible. That's criminal. That's called abandoning a patient, and it is against many codes of ethics. A T would know this, and unless she was fired or left very suddenly, there's absolutely NO excuse for this.

[StressedMess]

I agree but they will not give details as to what led up to her leaving, although they did say this past Friday was her last day.

She has all my contact numbers and DD's cell number, and both of our email addresses.

Why didn't they at the very least send us a reschedule letter in the mail with new T so we would have a heads up?

I'm very worried about DD and am checking on her frequently. I hate to ask if I can look at her arms and legs, because if she hasn't yet SI'd she definitely would after that breach of trust!

So beyond pissed off right now!!!

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[junkDNA]

thats really horrible. i cant imagine how she feels. (i dont know what DD1 means). im sorry you guys are going through this. this is very unethical.

[StressedMess]

Sorry, that's shorthand I learned on another board. DD = dear daughter. 1 is my firstborn, 2 is my youngest.

Is there any way we can turn this positive? New T had better be a rock star or a fairy princess, that's all I can think.

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[HazelGirl]

Can you just go in there, listen to her, and hug and comfort her?

[lostwonder]

If she has all your daughter's contact info, do you have hee personal contact info?

[StressedMess]

Originally Posted by lostwonder

If she has all your daughter's contact info, do you have hee personal contact info?

Nope, not even her extension at work. All calls routed through the switchboard.

I was going to Google her to see if she's still practicing in this area, but I'm not sure that's a great idea.

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[StressedMess]

Originally Posted by HazelGirl

Can you just go in there, listen to her, and hug and comfort her?

Yes, and she has had quite enough of "being smothered" and asked for time alone. I'm still annoying her every half hour, after all, what else are moms good for? Lol

She's quiet but not withdrawn, teary but not overcome with sadness, and has a headache. Poor girl.

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Oh goodness that is so terrible What a rotten thing to have happen! I am sorry she has to go through this.

[growlycat]

This makes me tear up. I feel so sad for your daughter!

Agreed this is abandoning a patient and I would raise a stink at the mhc--they may have set her treatment back!!!!!!

[StressedMess]

I guess I should have put "Multiple Triggers" due to all the horrible things I've dumped here. I'm really sorry but I knew if anyone would understand it would be my PC Gurus. Thanks!

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[StressedMess]

She went to school toady, so that's a good sign. I'm expecting a call for early release, as her pattern is to worry herself physically sick and need to come home with a migraine or stomachache. We did talk briefly about her feelings this morning, she told me it sucks but it will be okay, and asked me to schedule her with new T soon so she can see if they will click.

Fingers crossed I think she might come through this one. . .

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[wotchermuggle]

You know, you could Google this T and contact her if you find anything. You don't need to tell your daughter about it. If there is a chance she could still see her, I'd try to at least find out.

I think you're doing the best you can. Maybe something else you could do would be to to ask your daughter (or work on it together) to make a list of the qualities she'd like in a new therapist. I think anything you can do to help her feel like she has some control in the situation, would be beneficial.

[StressedMess]

Update, met new T today, I didn't dislike her on sight as I did DD2's T. She's friendly and not cold, seems knowledgable about my child's issues, and says trauma is one of her specialties. She and DD1 had about 50 minutes together today and will meet again this Monday for an hour.

DD says they were just getting to know each other today, but she feels positive about T and thinks she can learn to trust and open up to her as well as she did with old T.

I did google old T but only found mentions of her associated with our MHC, but I probably will keep checking in the future.



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