Waning "is this malpractice?" is inaccurate

ScarletPimpernel · Sep 29, 2014, 09:40 PM

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In the previous thread, there were posts splitting hairs between boundary "crossings" and "violations", which to me is confusing nonsense. I have no problem with someone saying, "I don't see any malpractice here at all" I just consider that answering my question.
But there were posts that could be summed up as "You should be grateful, just pay the woman!" and five people thanked the writer for that post.

Opinions are just that. The only type of person who can give you a direct yes or no is a lawyer.

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Other people assumed I wanted to sue or get revenge, when I never mentioned anything of the sort.

Umm...malpractice = lawsuit.

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I just want to get on with my life as soon as possible, I don't see that as a victim mentality.

What can we provide you with to help you move on?

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The gifts I bought for her family are worth more than triple what I owe her.

A gift is not a gift if it comes with expectations. If your gifts had no expectations attached, then why does it matter the monetary value of the gifts? You choose to give, you choose the gift, and you choose the money amount.

I give my T gifts. I'm just happy she accepts them. If she decides to throw them away, re-gift them, use them for target practice, etc....that's her choice.

Petra5ed · Sep 29, 2014, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Person66

In the previous thread, there were posts splitting hairs between boundary "crossings" and "violations", which to me is confusing nonsense.

I think it would be in your best interest to just grasp the reality of the situation. I know you don't like my opinion, but I don't think she's committed "malpractice," no. Malpractice is a punishable offense, defined as "illegal, or negligent professional activity or treatment."

There is a huge difference between a boundary violation and a boundary crossing, just like there's a huge difference between rape and a hug. A HUGE DIFFERENCE. It's not splitting hairs, and it's not confusing, it's just simply reality. Boundary violations are harmful to clients and they are a way therapists exploit clients, boundary crossings on the other hand are often helpful things like therapist self disclosure and hugs.

Malpractice is a legal term, so when you ask is this malpractice, the implication is that you will sue. You're obviously just looking for people who support your opinion that your therapist is wrong and you are right. I think what I find so offensive about your posts is there are people like me dealing with therapists who are terrified to self disclose and terrified to get close to us because of people like you, who, you were not hurt by your therapist... you are just angry she wouldn't see you for free... what I find so freaking ironic about it is that seeing you for free at all was a boundary crossing, and had she continued doing it, would have become a boundary violation. LOL!

UnderRugSwept · Sep 29, 2014, 10:22 PM

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For six years she was an excellent therapist and doctor, even if her boundaries were poor and her billing often erroneous, she more than made up for it in other ways.
It's just very painful seeing her change like this, and heartbreaking.

Poor boundaries do NOT equal a good therapist...you can't "make up for it" in other ways...and she has had terrible boundaries. She made several mistakes with you...certainly a huge one being accepting your expensive gifts. Agreeing to officiate your wedding was so problematic as well.
Erroneous billing is also very troublesome. And am I understanding that insurance reimbursed her for sessions that you also paid her for in full? I saw that on another post, so please clarify for me. If so, that's extremely unethical.
Also, I read somewhere that you are taking 8 mg of Klonopin a day...did she prescribe that much for you? That is an insanely high amount. I was taking Klonopin for awhile because I had terrible nightmares and the most my pdoc would prescribe was 4 mg.

Person66 · 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Petra5ed

I think it would be in your best interest to just grasp the reality of the situation. I know you don't like my opinion, but I don't think she's committed "malpractice," no. Malpractice is a punishable offense, defined as "illegal, or negligent professional activity or treatment."

There is a huge difference between a boundary violation and a boundary crossing, just like there's a huge difference between rape and a hug. A HUGE DIFFERENCE. It's not splitting hairs, and it's not confusing, it's just simply reality. Boundary violations are harmful to clients and they are a way therapists exploit clients, boundary crossings on the other hand are often helpful things like therapist self disclosure and hugs.

Malpractice is a legal term, so when you ask is this malpractice, the implication is that you will sue. You're obviously just looking for people who support your opinion that your therapist is wrong and you are right. I think what I find so offensive about your posts is there are people like me dealing with therapists who are terrified to self disclose and terrified to get close to us because of people like you, who, you were not hurt by your therapist... you are just angry she wouldn't see you for free... what I find so freaking ironic about it is that seeing you for free at all was a boundary crossing, and had she continued doing it, would have become a boundary violation. LOL!

Malpractice =/= a lawsuit (it does not equal a lawsuit)

I have been malpracticed on many times, yet never sued.
-my pediatrician whom I started seeing at 10yo, misdiagnosed me with Asthma, as a result I took many unnecessary medications including harmful steroids.
-this same pediatrician sent me too an E.N.T. (ear, nose and throat specialist) who told me I was going to die of sleep apnea and choke to death in my sleep.
It turns out I didn't have sleep apnea and the reason I was referred to him was because the ped. Thought I had an abscess in one of my tonsils, at least he confirmed it was just that one tonsil was bigger than the other one

Thank God I finally found a good ENT who cleared everything up and gave me a clean bill of health, and this was as a minor!

My point is malpractice means malpractice, it's up to you wether to sue or not.

Yes the price of the gift matters because here I am buying $150 dolls for her girls then she accuses me of not caing about her family. A $15 shirt is not the same

JaneTennison1 · 01:03 PM

Her actions pushed some boundaries but it seems to have been ok until recently.

sweepy62 · Sep 30, 2014, 06:17 AM

Wow, getting back to the topic , without it turning heated , your t was not ethical in accepting accepting expensive gifts? A year to pay something back is a very long time. In the business world. She did cross boundaries.

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