[lozza89]

I saw my GP yesterday and it didn't go so well. We were just talking and then she brought up again the fact that she didnt like the centre I went to for therapy or the T I was seeing. She says they are not helping me at all and that they are just trying to keep me unwell and take my money.

It was bad enough the first time she said this (hence seeing a new GP but he wasn't working this week so I had to see her instead - they work at the same clinic) but hearing her say it again I just wanted to scream!!!

I really like the T I am seeing now and I feel like she has helped me through a lot. I also know its hard for her too cuz I find it really hard to open up and talk and at times even work on things..

The GP I saw said that she hasnt seen any progress and that the therapy I was receiving wasnt 'goal oriented' and that that was how all therapy should be.. she also said that they never contacted her about my progress and that that was just unacceptable.

This is BS though as I know my T contacted her on several occasions but the GP never returned her calls or msgs so she just gave up and only contacted her when she needed to!

I feel like I keep having to defend my T and I hate the GP for saying all this to my face cuz I know its not professional and if she has a problem with someone on my team then she needs to talk to the person herself and leave me out of it - I am NOT her messenger!!!!

I want to write the GP a letter explaining this and how it is stressing me out and not helping my recovery at all but I dont know if this is a good idea or what to say in it, or even how to put it all.

Any advice? I dont know what to do!

[Favorite Jeans]

Some ideas:

Tell the GP that you don't care to discuss this any further with them.

When they say something like "all therapy should be goal-oriented" you can add (with levity or not): "...in your humble opinion"

You can say that you're here to see GP about X, you're not actually asking your GP for their feedback about your therapy or therapist.

[CantExplain]

It is a sad fact that some medical professionals do not always respect people from other disciplines.

There a P-docs who think all Ts are frauds, and vice versa.

[ThisWayOut]

I'm sorry you are still having to deal south this gp. She sounds pretty unprofessional alone all this. It's one thing to express concern over cats, it's another to constantly disparage a person's support treatment team. I would suggest wiring the letter if you feel it would help you, even if it simply tells the gp how frustrated you ate with her continued disrespect towards your other providers. At least then you have something in wiring to her making note of her behavior and your reactions to it.

[lozza89]

Thanks guys.. I think I will talk to my T about this next week and see what she says, maybe even get the centres managers input - she already knows the situation from the last time the GP brought it up!

[Solepa]

Hi your GP is very unprofessional and instead of asking YOU how do you feel about your T she tries to push her opinions. I would not give her the idea her talk has any effect on you. Don't try to prove your point against hers because that would mean getting into battle with her.
I would just express the fact I am not at all interested in her opinion and she should keep it to herself as favourite jeans suggested.
Don't try to explain yourself in a letter that would give her words so much impact. Which might be the case but she doesn't have to know about it.

And if you are happy with your T and you feel like she is helping that is the most important thing and don't let your GP's personal views get into it. Just because she is your doctor doesn't mean that she knows what is best for you or is right. And you have no need to prove yourself either !

[Perna]

Since you have changed GP's and normally see another now, even at the same clinic, I would write a letter to the head of the clinic and tell them how stressful and unprofessional you find this doctor. Your GP needs to stick to your other physical health, blood work and the like and leave your mental health to the mental health experts.

[lozza89]

Originally Posted by Perna

Since you have changed GP's and normally see another now, even at the same clinic, I would write a letter to the head of the clinic and tell them how stressful and unprofessional you find this doctor. Your GP needs to stick to your other physical health, blood work and the like and leave your mental health to the mental health experts.

the trouble is, is that I have to travel a long way (2hrs there and back) to see my pdoc and I dont have a good relationship with him at all so the set up is to see a GP weekly to just touch base and make sure that I am getting the support/ help I need mental health wise and that the meds are going alright.. so in a way they do help treat my mental health when needed.

its a tricky situation I know hence being unsure of whether its best to just leave it, bring it to her attention, or someone higher up I dont know why but I feel like I have to do something, almost like if I just sit and do nothing then she could be saying the same thing or worse to someone else.. does that make sense?