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Old Oct 23, 2014, 05:13 PM
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So have you ever dressed little bit inappropriate? (For example with no bra or that he can see your underwear etc)
Can you tell me about it and your T's reaction?

I just wanted to know am I the only one who ever acted this way with T.
I know it may be wrong but if it's wrong it doesn't mean that it's forbidden to talk about it here.
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Old Oct 23, 2014, 05:29 PM
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I've never dressed inappropriately on purpose, but I have laid on the couch once and noticed my bare hips/bit of underwear was showing. I didn't try to fix it, either. I just let him look. Probably a dumb move on my part, considering my situation, but eh. *shrug* He can get over it. He didn't have a reaction (that I noticed), and didn't bring it up.
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Old Oct 23, 2014, 05:31 PM
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Define inappropriate. I think how we view dressing is sort of like art, subjective. So for you, what would inappropriate be? For Example, Mormons wearing a simple tank top is inappropriate and a Muslim woman without robe, even in a turtle neck, long jeans, boots, sweater and jacket would still be deemed as inappropriate.
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Old Oct 23, 2014, 05:35 PM
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Define inappropriate. I think how we view dressing is sort of like art, subjective. So for you, what would inappropriate be? For Example, Mormons wearing a simple tank top is inappropriate and a Muslim woman without robe, even in a turtle neck, long jeans, boots, sweater and jacket would still be deemed as inappropriate.
I just didn;t know how to describe it but as I explained I mean that he can see your underwear or nipples or maybe you have sexy tights, I don;t know... It can be appropriate and inappropriate at the same time. I have seen women dressed like this on a street or in a bus. Maybe it's just sexy but grandmothers would say that you look like a b****
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Old Oct 23, 2014, 05:47 PM
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I'm female, T is female, and we're both straight. I usually am dressed by covering most my body. My fiance's 92yr old grandma has told me I tend to dress as an old woman Well, I bought a new dress and decided to wear it for the first time to a session. I didn't realize that the front wouldn't stay in place over time, and it REALLY showed cleavage. My T didn't say anything, but I was preoccupied about keeping myself covered the whole session. I was so embarrassed. Last time I wear something new for the first time to therapy.
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Old Oct 23, 2014, 05:58 PM
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I've had my shirt ride up a few times, showing my hips and I've probably flashed cleavage once or twice because I wear tank tops - not that I have very much to show, I'm little
I don't worry about it, these kind of things happen all the time IRL. Hell, previous T bent over right in front of me one day and gave me a clear view down her shirt to her DDs (I'm bi and I had already disclosed it to her).

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Old Oct 23, 2014, 08:40 PM
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not that I know of... I usually dress professionally (especially one days that my appointments are right after work) I did once wear gym to clothes (I had not been to the gym) I felt very uncomfortable.
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Old Oct 23, 2014, 08:44 PM
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Old Oct 23, 2014, 08:50 PM
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Wish I had the body to dress inappropriately.
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Old Oct 23, 2014, 08:55 PM
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No. I sometimes worry my tank top is going to show cleavage. My fear drives me to zip my hoodie up to a ridiculously conservative level
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Old Oct 23, 2014, 08:59 PM
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I imagine in your case you would be treading on thin ice, due to your feelings of love for your T.
I dunno, just my opinion of course.
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Old Oct 23, 2014, 09:02 PM
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Accidentally once with exT. We are both straight women, though. Normally I curl up in a ball and hug my knees during a session. This day I was wearing kinda short shorts, didn't think about it, and did the same thing. I guess lots of my underwear was showing. ExT asked me to put my feet down with a strange look on her face. I was partially dissociated already and didn't think about the reason for her request, but just did as I was told. It wasn't until much later in the day that I figured out why. Mirror test on myself.... Oh. That's definitely why. Oops.
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Old Oct 23, 2014, 09:22 PM
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I go before work so I'm usually in my (nice-casual) work clothes. Once at the end of a session I realized the neck on my shirt had gotten kind of askew and was showing a bit too much (upper edge of bra). He didn't say anything; accidents happen. If it weren't an accident that would probably be an issue.

I do sorta want to look nice. Not so he'll check me out, though, I don't think. Because it's a way to get respect, maybe.
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Old Oct 23, 2014, 11:40 PM
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No--I'm very ashamed of my body and cover myself in a blanket he has in his office when I get there, in addition to dressing extremely conservatively.
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Old Oct 24, 2014, 01:22 AM
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I dress in comfy clothes, if I can help it (no work prior/after session). I normally wear a hodie (three sizes too big) and jeans. I have no romantic feelings for my T whatsoever = no motivation to seduce him (and even if I had, I am not the seductive type- boyish figure/no cleavage to speak of)
Though I can imagine it's pretty common for some clients to test their Ts this way... So Ts should be used to it and remain professional.
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Old Oct 24, 2014, 07:48 AM
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I had gained some weight after I begsn seeing my pdoc and suddenly had cleavage that is never had before. So a few times when I wore certain tops quite a bit of cleavage and/or bra straps would show. I was oblivious to it at first since for most of my life cleavage was never an issue for me, I was so small. I remember looking down, feeling pretty embarrassed and adjusting my top on more than one occasion. He was very polite and never looked or said anything, although I do remember in these occasions that he seemed to be smiling more than usual. Now that I have a job, I look nice but no more tank tops.
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Old Oct 24, 2014, 07:53 AM
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Never. I dress for comfort. None of my clothes are provocative. Most sexy outfits are made out of fabrics I cannot stand against my skin so that greatly limits my wardrobe.

I don't know how to flirt even with clothing.
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Old Oct 24, 2014, 08:04 AM
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I always wear something nice, that I like, though that's true pretty much everyday, except if I'm gardening! My t is female and straight, though she did say she liked my dress...old cbt t copped an accidental eyeful of (small) cleavage once and went very red
My t also flashed a bit of cleavage at me last week whilst leaning over...was a bit 'woah!' but she didn't notice.
I have worn low cut stuff at the beginning, actually. Think I was testing her boundaries/reactions. It hadn't occurred to me til now!
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Old Oct 24, 2014, 12:00 PM
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So it's ok for strippers to wear nothing but pasties and shaggy boots but when I do it it's "indecent exposure" and "you're in a waiting room, there's kids here and that is not acceptable apparel, put a shirt on or leave. I'm getting the hose"

Obviously kidding. Inappropriate in the sense that I wore a chunky knit sweater in the middle of summer, yeah. Never dressed sleazily-inappropriate. I'm too lazy for those shenanigans.
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Old Oct 24, 2014, 12:08 PM
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Not intentionality. I have a rather large chest though, so anything with a lower cut than a regular t shirt shows clevedge... I have only worn tanks maybe twice though, because I'm really aware of the revealing nature of them. Therapy is revealing enough, so I don't want to feel exposed with what I wear.
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Old Oct 24, 2014, 12:54 PM
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Well all a guy can do their is... aaahhhhh let me see now.... any ideas.... I wore a expensive suit a few times with an Swiss watch... showing off is about if from a guys point.
I would never have the nerve to show up cycle shorts and an ultra tight cycle shirt.
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Old Oct 24, 2014, 01:23 PM
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Nah I wear a school uniform. Only once did she see me out of it but I was still wearing a school polo tee with shorts since her office is on campus. A lot of times I cover up my arms with jackets if the SH looks bad...
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Old Oct 24, 2014, 01:35 PM
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Nope. I actually went through the longest stage of never taking off my coat, because I was so anxious to keep myself covered as some kind of placebo comfort.

I just wear the same variety of stuff I wear to work/ out casually with friends. I go for comfort in terms of fabrics, but with things that fit well and flatter my figure.
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Old Oct 24, 2014, 01:51 PM
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I have really big boobs so figuring out what to wear is kind of a challenge. This summer I was wearing a tank top with a sweater over it, and the tank top started to slide down so that a bit of my bra was exposed, I felt pretty embarrassed and awkward.

But in my fantasies I still like the idea of dressing sexy for her. But I get embarrassed so easily that I don't know that I could do it.
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Old Oct 24, 2014, 02:43 PM
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I once wore a dress that I thought was super cute but during session realised my cleavage was on display. Oops! I spent the session playing with my necklace so my hand would cover it up.
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