Should We Expect T To Acknowledge Our Birthday?

I don't expect it, but T usually remembers and wishes me a happy birthday.

I don't expect it either, and would be surprised if my T knew. But once I did say something about how it had been my birthday a few days earlier, and she didn't wish me a happy birthday. I didn't really give her a chance though, because I purposely kept talking as a way to make it less awkward if she was not going to say it at all. And one time I had a session on my actual birthday, but I didn't tell her.

I know my therapist's birthday and she knows roughly when mine is (I know hers because of her personalised car licence plate )... for 4 years running our sessions ALWAYS fell on my birthday so she'd acknowledge it. It's not important to me one way or the other though

You know, I would say that I don't expect it. However, when my T does not acknowledge it, it kind of hurts! I think it would be a really good idea for T's to keep track of their client's birthdays. It's not much to ask with today's technology to just say "HAPPY BIRTHDAY!" And also, as an added bonus, to remember how old their clients are, as well. That would be just awesome!

I have expected it but none of my therapists have ever acknowledged it. I guess it's best not to expect it.

I am aware that for some people birthdays have huge significance, but this can cut both ways. Some people get very negative thoughts and consequences on their birthdays because of the significance to them.
Mine is not of great significance to me. Family occasionally remember it, but there is not any celebration or get together. A quick "Happy Birthday" text is likely from one or two who remember such things.
There is no way I'd expect my T to remember something my husband doesn't.
After my last "big" round number birthday, a friend asked what I had done. I had worked late.

I wouldn't expect it but sure would've been nice. Especially when I had therapy the day of and chose to see my T rather than go to a movie.

Heck this year I forgot my own birthday. Why would I expect someone else to remember something i don't? LOL

It would be nice. Not expecting anything but a few words to the accord.

I expect that from my therapist, but generally speaking I think a therapist needs to get to know how the client feels about the birthday, not just that it might be on a particular date. Some people may have issues with their birthdays. I think it's generally okay and fine to say a brief happy birthday (especially since in my language, that would directly translate to "may you live many years", which I think is a fitting wish from a therapist) and maybe some other good wishes. But I think the most important thing for a therapist to do is sensitivity to what the birthday means to the client and whether or not these wishes are welcome and needed. In my case, they are. For others, they may or may not be.

Ouch. Sorry to hear that. My therapist's birthday is the day after mine and it's similar for me, I always remember his and he doesn't mine. I'm hoping it will be different next year because this year it seemed to really, really dawn on him how close together our birthdays are.

I hope your T will remember yours eventually.

My t usually gives me a birthday card

I know I don't expect my therapist to remember my birthday, in fact I'm sure the only time she could have possibly found out was on my initial intake form.

My t put my birthdate in his I-phone.

Mine sent me long text in the morning wishing me happy birthday

I don't think she knows my birthday unless she pulled me up on our school's database. But no I don't expect her to remember or even know it. I wouldn't be hurt if she didn't unless I remind her every session when it is and she still forgets, but this (constantly talking about it) I wouldn't do, of course.

NO!

This is your therapist, not your friend.

I think I'm still shocked at the extreme wonkiness of the boundaries in this forum between therapist and client and the nature of the expectations of the clients. These people are paid to provide a service, not be your friend. If you want birthday wishes, go out and make real friends that you don't have to pay.

Egh, I wouldn't care if she did or not. If she did it would be fine, if she didn't I wouldn't feel bad about it. I can't expect her to remember my birthday!

Never got it from my mother :-/

Not necessarily expecting to remember, especially not so much my T, however, it's a more interesting twist, to see whether there's some acknowledgement from any of my doctors, pdoc included, when my medical chart is front and center. So far, not too shabby, albeit only one I've actually seen on my actual birthday, and I was quite ill with a staph infection. .oh wait, it was an assistant that day,even so.
I've had quasi acknowledgement a couple other times, closer to. But it's never actually an all out happy birthday wish..
Could just be like wishing happy holidays, triggering for some, and could be taken wrong, I'd suppose?

I've never told my T when my birthday is so no. I'm strange about my birthday anyway. I don't want anyone to remember it but then I'm sad if they don't and I get annoyed if they do. Mine and my mother's birthday falls on the same day. Maybe this has something to do with it.

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