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This is how I was in my session and this is how I normally am. My t says I struggle to connect, I think this is true. As the session went on though I became even more locked out because I felt like I was seeing through the transference delusion for the first time. My t suddenly seemed very human and very imperfect. I could finally feel that for him I'm just a client, no one special. In a way it was good. The idea of being with him romantically seemed crazy, we're not even that close I realized! I've just been so drawn to him and his caring, all these qualities I cant even mirror back to him because I'm just a deer in the headlights. I'm too terrified to be me, so I'm no one instead. I'm a fantasy person living a fantasy life.
He went on about this while I was pretty quiet. About how I'm not what I show everyone, the outward me is in conflict with the real me. I thought I could cry. I felt like if I started to let go I would be incoherent and the tears might never stop. I didn't even know why I was so sad. I don't know anymore. But I didn't cry, I didn't say a word, I just sat there saying as little as I could. It's going to be hard to seduce anyone at this rate, who am I kidding. What's wrong with me? Why can't I live a life that's true to myself? |
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Sometimes, an internal breakthrough matters. You mentioned seeing T as an imperfect human, that's a positive observation.
Not sure why the mention of how can you seduce anyone? It's good to see qualities you'd desire in a mate. Getting that conflict resolved could help in life. ![]() |
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Every little bit, does eventually adds up.
Speaking from a point of view of having been in and out of therapy since the age of nine/ten years old. More so in my thirties. ![]() |
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I often feel like a deer in headlights in therapy. small steps
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BEHAVIORS ARE EASY WORDS ARE NOT ![]() Dx, HUMAN Rx, no medication for that |
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Its hard.
![]() Last edited by unaluna; Nov 08, 2014 at 11:54 AM. |
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Hey, good to hear about your new insight.
![]() Couldn't help but laugh about the image though...I liked your creative use of symbolism. |
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I understand where you are coming from, the struggle to connect (for me it's with men only). Do you have a diagnosis of social anxiety? Even if you don't maybe the next step is asking your T to help you learn skills to connect with men (or just with people in general)? He may be able to really help you.
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