[DocJohn]

Well, I'm amazed we didn't start this forum earlier, as people seem to have many questions about psychotherapy, how to get started, how to find a new therapist, knowing when to end therapy, etc. etc.

Here's a forum to share your psychotherapy experiences and help others understand what to look for in quality psychotherapy. Here's some background reading:

• How to Choose a Therapist
• Distinctions Between Therapists' Degrees

Enjoy!
DocJohn

[(JD)]

Thanks, this should become good reading! LOL I didn't get to tell you that my opinion of the then "new" PsyD has completely changed. You know how new things, change, are generally mistrusted? Besides, you are still working, and I am not... so I have to admire you!

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I don't know where to go. I have a relationship that has some abuse, but not physical, at least people that know me tell me he needs to be medicated, he's a control freak and I need to get help, but I truly don't see the abuse much. I do and I don't, there are reason's for my husband's behavior and I feel for him, but I want out and I am scare to do it. Therapist are expensive (no ofense) and I know I cannot do it alone. I am in St. George, UT.
Any help?

[robby]

I HAVE SPENT DAYS LOOKING ON EVERY WEBSITE I CAN THINK OF TO SEE IF A PSYCHOLOGIST IF LISCENCED IN A CERTAN STATE. I AM LOOKING TO SEE ABOUT ONE IN THE STATE OF OKLAHOMA AND IF HE IS NOT WHAT CAN I DO ABOUT IT?

[Rapunzel]

It depends on why it matters to you. If you want to go to him for therapy and have insurance, they might not pay and you might not be able to go to him. If you're paying for it yourself you can do what you like, but you might want to ask him why he isn't liscensed. If you have a complaint about him, that would be a different matter.

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[LapisRose]

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I don't know where to go. I have a relationship that has some abuse, but not physical, at least people that know me tell me he needs to be medicated, he's a control freak and I need to get help, but I truly don't see the abuse much. I do and I don't, there are reason's for my husband's behavior and I feel for him, but I want out and I am scare to do it. Therapist are expensive (no ofense) and I know I cannot do it alone. I am in St. George, UT.
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<font color="purple"> My situation is similar but not enough for me to think my husband would need meds for his problems which I know stem from difficulties I've had in the recent past as well as his own issues. The other thing is, I don't know where to start posting here. I've got very specific problems which don't seem to be covered in any particular thread. Also, I'm a victim of unwanted manipulations by coworkers that know me intimately and have abused this priviledge using certain stimuli that they know works on me. It scares me! I don't want my freedom stolen from me. Abuse at home has also been a problem in the recent past. I've got multiple anxieties because of rape etc.. What can I do that may help me out here as well as at home?? </font>

[jenjan]

The psychologist i used to see kept trying to put me on Paxil for deprssion even tho i'd been on it before & didn't like it. It worked a bit to stabilize my moods, but i felt in a daze all the time & still couldn't function. I seem to have symptoms of adhd, bipolar, & depression. I tried to tell him i thought i may have adhd, but he immediately dismissed it. My son has been diagnosed as well as 2 nephews & my daughter is being evaluated. I just moved and am getting ready to see another doctor. Any suggestions?

[FelineHeart]

Doc John,
I am desperately searching for a good psychologist and hope that he or she will be as understanding and sharp and on top of things like you are. Keep up the good work. We all need you here.
Sherri

[yiezeianna]

i was trying to get help with memory that i cant remember what kind of doctor would be remended for that job

[Rapunzel]

Since you said doctor, you might be thinking of psychiatrist. You could also go to psychologist (maybe ask for a neuropsych evaluation), or any mental health professional could probably help you work on memory and makd appropriate referrals as needed.

Welcome to PC.

Rap

[snowy]

hi:
I want to know ,what can I do, when i feel so bad with the life, and feel that everything that i have is not for me....and always i feel this i try to feel bad to other people

[domino]

Hi Snowy I hope you will stay here long enough to see how understanding people are on here.

[the_snumeister]

It's so cute how you guys call therapists 'T' here.

[foreverhope_]

Hi, Is anyone on this site tonight? Thanks, Jasmin

[ECHOES]

Jasmin, can you start new thread/topic below?

People come and go all day and night since they're in different areas of the world.

Welcome and looking forward to your post!

[amigos]

I asked a question approximately month ago but i am not able to relocate my question to check for answers if i received any. can i get any guidance.

[kim_johnson]

try doing an 'advanced search' (top right hand corner) then search for your username. alternatively try clicking on your username and viewing your posts.

[Katy1306]

how do you know when to stop therapy?

[oneinleftfield]

Originally Posted by ;28582

I don't know where to go. I have a relationship that has some abuse, but not physical, at least people that know me tell me he needs to be medicated, he's a control freak and I need to get help, but I truly don't see the abuse much. I do and I don't, there are reason's for my husband's behavior and I feel for him, but I want out and I am scare to do it. Therapist are expensive (no ofense) and I know I cannot do it alone. I am in St. George, UT.
Any help?

I hope you find the help you need. You might try going to a college that could refer you. Someone who is learning how to be a therapist might be able to help? Before they get their degrees they take x amount of classes and have to do so many hours of work. They could point you in the right direction, even if they aren't super expert ya know? And by the way, psychological/emotional abuse is abuse. Take care.

[dwaynet]

Seems like a cool place, thanks for having me!

I just have a question relating to the 'how to choose a therapist' linkie. It says:

Seek out a therapist with specific experience with your issue -- you don't want to be any therapist's first time client for the problem you're grappling with!

Well I've been to 2 therapists already, and I want to tell my story to as few more people as possible if you get my drift. Here are my biggest problems:

- suicidal thoughts (for about 10 years, haven't told the 2 therapists this part)
- masochistic (both social and moral)
- terrible self esteem

So what kind of therapist would have specific experience with 'my' issues, one that deals with sexual addiction? Obsessive compulsive disorder, or self esteem issues? Hopefully someone who has had some success with these issues can enlighten me.

And I'll not be holding anything back this time.

Thanks

[MissCharlotte]

dwaynet,

You should repost this below in the actual forum. I'm sure you will get many replies!

Welcome.

[Berries]

Does anyone have Medicare? Just moved to a new state, California, from Kansas. My new T here is claiming that Medicare only pays for on appointment a week here. Not so in Kansas--they paid for as many appointments my treaters deemed necessary, as long as I didn't see a mental health pro more than once a day.
I am having a dysphoric manic episode right now and asked if I could see him twice a week for a while. So, now I am paying out of my own pocket for the second appointment. I have paid for 2 appointments so far. And I really can't afford it.
I got suspicious and on Wed 11/26 I called Medicare and found out they pay for as many appointments a week as your doctor bills--in every state.
I have an appt. on Mon 12/1 at 4 pacific time. I am going to confront him, then.
Does anyone have an opinion on my situation? What do you all think I should do?

[ECHOES]

Hi and welcome to PC!

If you repeat your post here in the forum below, I'm sure you'll get a lot of replies.

I'll reply here...yes, Medicare is a national program so it is the same in every state. Maybe your T was just misinformed? Definitely talk to him and tell him what Medicare told you when you called them.

See you down below

[Nanette]

Originally Posted by DocJohn

Well, I'm amazed we didn't start this forum earlier, as people seem to have many questions about psychotherapy, how to get started, how to find a new therapist, knowing when to end therapy, etc. etc.

Here's a forum to share your psychotherapy experiences and help others understand what to look for in quality psychotherapy. Here's some background reading:

DocJohn

I had a few bad experiences with therapists and finally in desperation flew to San Francisco to talk with someone I admire greatly, sort of just for the experience and to bounce some things off him, (because I could). Amazing to me that he consented to see me. He's a busy guy. In addition to talking about a bunch of existential stuff I was curious about, he recommended a therapist for me in my home city. That has worked out very nicely and I am so appreciative of that.

Seems like a long way to travel to find that right therapist but it worked for me.

[kittykins9]

Help,
I'm new to this forum but looked for it because I am encountering terrible difficulty letting go of a former therapist with whom I worked for 10 years. Circumstances made it necessary for me to give this therapist to my son who was dealing with major suicidal issues. At first, because we were down to maintenance work-- this really wasn't that difficult. But over the last few months it's gotten terrible, and I miss my old therapist constantly. He did make it very clear that he was unable to treat two members ofthe same family, so there's no going back, and frankly my son needs the work too much for me to ask him to find a new therapist.

Yet I hate the fact that I had to make this wretched choice. We spent so much time dealing with me recovering and gaining stability after diagnosis with bipolar II, and we did delve quite a bit into the transference stuff, which I really felt like I was over to a great degree. Now I feel like I've lost the central being in my life and I am in so much grief it's affecting every aspect of my existence.

I am working with a new therapist, as per my agreement with my old one, and she's pretty good. But there's nothing like the comfort level I had with my former therapist, and I feel so extremely alone, I just don't what to do.
This has made former destructive thoughts and feelings come to mind, that I spent a long time getting rid of.

If anyone out there has had experience losing a treasured therapist, or could offer any advice (I've read just every article online that I could find already), it would so help. I just did not expect the extent of my grief and I fell like I've lost me and my path to sanity in the process.

Help and thanks in advance