[DocJohn]

Well, I'm amazed we didn't start this forum earlier, as people seem to have many questions about psychotherapy, how to get started, how to find a new therapist, knowing when to end therapy, etc. etc.

Here's a forum to share your psychotherapy experiences and help others understand what to look for in quality psychotherapy. Here's some background reading:

• How to Choose a Therapist
• Distinctions Between Therapists' Degrees

Enjoy!
DocJohn

[(JD)]

Thanks, this should become good reading! LOL I didn't get to tell you that my opinion of the then "new" PsyD has completely changed. You know how new things, change, are generally mistrusted? Besides, you are still working, and I am not... so I have to admire you!

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I don't know where to go. I have a relationship that has some abuse, but not physical, at least people that know me tell me he needs to be medicated, he's a control freak and I need to get help, but I truly don't see the abuse much. I do and I don't, there are reason's for my husband's behavior and I feel for him, but I want out and I am scare to do it. Therapist are expensive (no ofense) and I know I cannot do it alone. I am in St. George, UT.
Any help?

[LapisRose]

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I don't know where to go. I have a relationship that has some abuse, but not physical, at least people that know me tell me he needs to be medicated, he's a control freak and I need to get help, but I truly don't see the abuse much. I do and I don't, there are reason's for my husband's behavior and I feel for him, but I want out and I am scare to do it. Therapist are expensive (no ofense) and I know I cannot do it alone. I am in St. George, UT.
Any help?


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<font color="purple"> My situation is similar but not enough for me to think my husband would need meds for his problems which I know stem from difficulties I've had in the recent past as well as his own issues. The other thing is, I don't know where to start posting here. I've got very specific problems which don't seem to be covered in any particular thread. Also, I'm a victim of unwanted manipulations by coworkers that know me intimately and have abused this priviledge using certain stimuli that they know works on me. It scares me! I don't want my freedom stolen from me. Abuse at home has also been a problem in the recent past. I've got multiple anxieties because of rape etc.. What can I do that may help me out here as well as at home?? </font>

[jenjan]

The psychologist i used to see kept trying to put me on Paxil for deprssion even tho i'd been on it before & didn't like it. It worked a bit to stabilize my moods, but i felt in a daze all the time & still couldn't function. I seem to have symptoms of adhd, bipolar, & depression. I tried to tell him i thought i may have adhd, but he immediately dismissed it. My son has been diagnosed as well as 2 nephews & my daughter is being evaluated. I just moved and am getting ready to see another doctor. Any suggestions?

[FelineHeart]

Doc John,
I am desperately searching for a good psychologist and hope that he or she will be as understanding and sharp and on top of things like you are. Keep up the good work. We all need you here.
Sherri

[oneinleftfield]

Originally Posted by ;28582

I don't know where to go. I have a relationship that has some abuse, but not physical, at least people that know me tell me he needs to be medicated, he's a control freak and I need to get help, but I truly don't see the abuse much. I do and I don't, there are reason's for my husband's behavior and I feel for him, but I want out and I am scare to do it. Therapist are expensive (no ofense) and I know I cannot do it alone. I am in St. George, UT.
Any help?

I hope you find the help you need. You might try going to a college that could refer you. Someone who is learning how to be a therapist might be able to help? Before they get their degrees they take x amount of classes and have to do so many hours of work. They could point you in the right direction, even if they aren't super expert ya know? And by the way, psychological/emotional abuse is abuse. Take care.

[dwaynet]

Seems like a cool place, thanks for having me!

I just have a question relating to the 'how to choose a therapist' linkie. It says:

Seek out a therapist with specific experience with your issue -- you don't want to be any therapist's first time client for the problem you're grappling with!

Well I've been to 2 therapists already, and I want to tell my story to as few more people as possible if you get my drift. Here are my biggest problems:

- suicidal thoughts (for about 10 years, haven't told the 2 therapists this part)
- masochistic (both social and moral)
- terrible self esteem

So what kind of therapist would have specific experience with 'my' issues, one that deals with sexual addiction? Obsessive compulsive disorder, or self esteem issues? Hopefully someone who has had some success with these issues can enlighten me.

And I'll not be holding anything back this time.

Thanks

[MissCharlotte]

dwaynet,

You should repost this below in the actual forum. I'm sure you will get many replies!

Welcome.

[rustyc]

Originally Posted by ;28582

I don't know where to go. I have a relationship that has some abuse, but not physical, at least people that know me tell me he needs to be medicated, he's a control freak and I need to get help, but I truly don't see the abuse much. I do and I don't, there are reason's for my husband's behavior and I feel for him, but I want out and I am scare to do it. Therapist are expensive (no ofense) and I know I cannot do it alone. I am in St. George, UT.
Any help?

You have the ability to face any challenge in life and come out a winner. Have you seen the movie Rainman with Tom and Dustin Hoffman? I was like the Rainman in real life, the only difference my mental state was so bad I had no ability to feel fear or think about something before doing it.
My mental state most of my life, going on 50 years, has been like a child. I never walked away from anything or stopped myself from doing anything just like a two year old.
You have the ability to make anything come to life once you stop going with the flow of what others are doing around you. People who know me never know what to expect from me once I'm rolling. I live life to the fullest and never for one second think of the risk of what might go wrong.
Except at the end of the day, I look back on it to see my mistakes and did I hurt anybody's feelings. This is when I become a better person and live a little more by calling up that person and say "I do care and I'm sorry for what I did, I am learning and will do better next time." So, the next time I get to have my fun and not hurt anybody's feelings. Its not my nature to be an adult. That is not who I am! I have to be myself! I don't act stupid! I live!
The other-side of me is nothing, something I don't want to be, there is no life sitting in a chair without thought or laying in a bed waiting for somebody to get me started. That life I don't want anymore.
I didn't get to where I am today by being passive. When I share my life with people, the things I have done they looked scared at all the challenges, ordeals, conflicts, and problems I faced to get here.
You have a life to live, its not what you make of it, its what you made of it. So, are you living? In your husband is a child, knowing how to tap into that part of him requires learning everything there is to know about him. Find him fascinating not irritating, find him exciting not boring, find him in his weakest moment and comfort him, but, before you can help him, you must know yourself. Start with exploring your five senses, by exploring earth as if there are no people on it, just you, he can come along.
Ask him "Would you like to explore the earth with me?" Rules apply, be open minded and have fun as a child would do.

[Alley80]

I'm no doctor but I believe we all deserve to be happy, if you are not happy in your life you should make changes

[kimpossible45]

Originally Posted by ;28582

I don't know where to go. I have a relationship that has some abuse, but not physical, at least people that know me tell me he needs to be medicated, he's a control freak and I need to get help, but I truly don't see the abuse much. I do and I don't, there are reason's for my husband's behavior and I feel for him, but I want out and I am scare to do it. Therapist are expensive (no ofense) and I know I cannot do it alone. I am in St. George, UT.
Any help?

there are many free or sliding scale therapists out there ,,also medication will help him.......but if you are in need of help local govt offices can direct you ..call 211

[mad mother]

Hi please dont make excuses for your husbands behavior, abuse is abuse whether it be physical or mental, I suffered in an abusive marriage/relationship for 28 years never got the courage to leave although I wanted to for many many years, he used to blame it on me say it was my fault, that I wasnt well (I have bipolar and borderline personality disorder)and that that was causing the problems, I see a psychotherapist I am in the UK so my doc prescribed 10 sessions that were free for me she really made me open my eyes see what was happening around me and that my disorders were not an excuse for abuse, I then see my husband for what he was, A controlling bully. One day out of nowhere I just told him enough was enough that I wasnt doing it anymore, any of it. That was 3 years ago I still am suffering from my disorders and am about to start a new course of psychotherapy but without a life of abuse.My new partner is understanding, patient, and willing to help me rather than abuse me.

[robby]

I HAVE SPENT DAYS LOOKING ON EVERY WEBSITE I CAN THINK OF TO SEE IF A PSYCHOLOGIST IF LISCENCED IN A CERTAN STATE. I AM LOOKING TO SEE ABOUT ONE IN THE STATE OF OKLAHOMA AND IF HE IS NOT WHAT CAN I DO ABOUT IT?

[Rapunzel]

It depends on why it matters to you. If you want to go to him for therapy and have insurance, they might not pay and you might not be able to go to him. If you're paying for it yourself you can do what you like, but you might want to ask him why he isn't liscensed. If you have a complaint about him, that would be a different matter.

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[object_relation]

Originally Posted by robby

I HAVE SPENT DAYS LOOKING ON EVERY WEBSITE I CAN THINK OF TO SEE IF A PSYCHOLOGIST IF LISCENCED IN A CERTAN STATE. I AM LOOKING TO SEE ABOUT ONE IN THE STATE OF OKLAHOMA AND IF HE IS NOT WHAT CAN I DO ABOUT IT?

Here's the link to the Oklahoma State Board of Examiners of Psychologists.
(Sorry this site won't actually let me post links until I have a bigger score. This seems totally stupid but I can't do anything about it.)

They have a search page where you can search a particular name to see if that person is a registered psychologist of Oklahoma:
(can't give you this link either)

Other than them you can contact the American Psychological Association: (guess what??? I think you've figured it out by now...)

But it's probably best to start with your state's organizations first.

Good luck!

[yiezeianna]

i was trying to get help with memory that i cant remember what kind of doctor would be remended for that job

[Rapunzel]

Since you said doctor, you might be thinking of psychiatrist. You could also go to psychologist (maybe ask for a neuropsych evaluation), or any mental health professional could probably help you work on memory and makd appropriate referrals as needed.

Welcome to PC.

Rap

[the_snumeister]

It's so cute how you guys call therapists 'T' here.

[Lizabelle]

So, I just got started at this site, and I've got a question- what is psychotherapy? Is it like therapy where you talk about your feelings and stuff? Cuz I have done that before and I hated it. In fact, all three times that I have done it is because my parents made me.

And, does posting your question on this site and getting an answer from one of the people that is supposed to answer it count as psychotherapy?