 |
| FAQ/Help |
| Calendar |
| Search |
|
#1
Nov 22, 2014, 09:14 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Does T-transference end?
When? How? What replaces it?
__________________
Mr Ambassador, alias Ancient Plax, alias Captain Therapy, alias Big Poppa, alias Secret Spy, etc. Add that to your tattoo, Baby! |
|
#2
Nov 22, 2014, 09:19 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
I think it sort of sounds like infatuation and that ends. I have never felt towards a therapist the way many on here describe it, but the descriptions sound like crushes or infatuation to me.
__________________
Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
 CantExplain
|
|
#3
Nov 22, 2014, 10:26 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
I think it does end. Its like a hole in your ego that finally gets patched up.
|
| CantExplain, Crescent Moon, harvest moon, jaynedough, Rainydaiz
|
|
#4
Nov 22, 2014, 10:49 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
I think once you deal with the issues that are behind the transference it can help it stop some.
|
| always_wondering, CantExplain, Creamsickle, pbutton, Rainydaiz
|
|
#5
Nov 22, 2014, 11:09 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Transference is not always loving. It can just as easily come in the form of hate.
|
| CantExplain, Creamsickle, pbutton, precaryous
|
|
#6
Nov 22, 2014, 11:12 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
My T says it does but there's no way to know when. Mine has lessened over the months as I have become more aware. She said it will be like waves: sometimes not much at all and then something will trigger it and it will be stronger and then go back down.
Keep pushing through! |
| always_wondering, CantExplain, Rainydaiz, SoupDragon
|
|
#7
Nov 22, 2014, 11:32 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
What did you mean by the word transference?
If its projections I dont believe it would ever end because we used to yransfer and project similar situations etc. If its feelings - it can end sometimes and sometimes it can never end. It really depends on situation and people. You can fall in love with someone else and forget your t. The more you see your t the harder is to forget him/her. But maybe seeing t even yhere are feelings it sometimes slowly fades away. I dont know... |
| CantExplain
|
|
#8
Nov 23, 2014, 12:16 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Mine ended by being completely and totally rejected by my T. Worked a charm
|
 Anonymous37961, CantExplain, learning1, moonlitsky, musinglizzy, precaryous, rainbow8, Rainydaiz, Sawyerr, SoupDragon, VelvetRevolver
|
| CantExplain
|
|
#9
Nov 23, 2014, 12:37 AM
|
|||
|
|||
|
I'm SO sorry IRL....
|
| CantExplain, iheartjacques
|
|
#10
Nov 23, 2014, 01:38 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Mine did. And it didn't take forever, but mine wasn't particularly painful. It was a gradual thing. I like the way Hankster described it... That was perfect!
__________________
|
| CantExplain, unaluna
|
|
#11
Nov 23, 2014, 04:10 AM
|
|||
|
|||
|
All feelings end so why not transference?
|
|
#12
Nov 23, 2014, 08:06 AM
|
|||
|
|||
|
Quote:
|
| jaynedough
|
| Sunflower Queen
|
|
#13
Nov 23, 2014, 08:28 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
If the feelings are actually transference I think they'd end sooner. Feelings of attachment, affection, infatuation, etc., are different. I don't think they are the same as transference and can take longer, but do end. The best think is to distract yourself from thinking about the person and to stop communicating if you can.
|
| CantExplain
|
|
#14
Nov 23, 2014, 12:43 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
As painful as it is, transference is good. It means the therapy is working (quoting my brother who is a PHD in psychology). It gives your T so much insight into how you handle relationships
|
| CantExplain
|
|
#15
Nov 23, 2014, 02:32 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Actually opening up about it helped keep mine at bay. I have it, but nothing like I did before telling my T.
__________________
I'm her...new...cool...meat. She pops the trunk, and she removes me, the machine takes pictures of us, and my jaw and my teeth hurt, I'm choking, and gnawing, on the ball....and just before I come to, I move to the back of the car, she makes me touch the machine, new murderer. Soon I'll let you go, soon I'll let you go, so she says. |
| always_wondering
|
|
#16
Nov 23, 2014, 05:47 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Quote:
__________________
Mr Ambassador, alias Ancient Plax, alias Captain Therapy, alias Big Poppa, alias Secret Spy, etc. Add that to your tattoo, Baby! |
| Lauliza
|
|
#17
Nov 23, 2014, 05:58 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
I don't think it ends. Or rather, it ends and begins again. Essentially every time you hit on something important relationally, it's possible that you will project those things onto the T and have to work them through the relationship. Not all transferences are bad or tough, obviously. I went through an idealizing phase. I think the only thing about transference is that it's not real. And that it's intense. But it will come and go. Let yourself go into it and it will pass.
|
| CantExplain
|
|
#18
Nov 23, 2014, 11:38 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
As long as the emotional drivers that underlie the transference are unresolved, the transference will remain. It may shift and be imposed on a different person, but it will live on.
|
| CantExplain
|
|
#19
Nov 24, 2014, 12:29 AM
|
|||
|
|||
|
Quote:
|
|
#20
Nov 24, 2014, 02:12 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
I think it depends on what exactly you feel towards your T. If it really IS just reflection of past experiences (I "loved" my T because he was giving me what I missed in my marriage - empathy and no judgement), this will end when you realize these things.
However, my T recently moved from the city and senf me only a note by email... no "take care" or something like that. Now I would like to tell him something unpleasant and I don't think it IS transference at all... 
|
| CantExplain, Lauliza
|
| Reply |
This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
|
My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.
Linear Mode
