[Fuzzybear]

"You're very wise not telling anyone you don't know well about that, Fuzzy.
And I understand why baby bear needed some love..."



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I don't know how this happened, I was typing out a post about something else, and instead this posted. I'll change it as soon as I can

PS thanks to whoever posted this, I hope it's ok that I, or rather my computer, quoted you (if not please let me know and I'll ask for it to be deleted.

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sorry about this confusing post, I'm tempted to delete the whole thing

[Fuzzybear]

It feels like I didn't even know the T who I saw for several years well... I was starting to trust him and he turned on me. I wonder if he was trying to stir up a response in me with his repeated invalidation of me and my pain

He said some people are "beyond help" . I strongly disagree. He didn't say that about me and I see no point in his comment. I was such a fool to trust him and to be sucked in by the "transference". If he hadn't abandoned me when my mother was dying we might finally have been able to make some "significant changes" but he didn't care enough to hang in there with me. I feel like I was left at the side of the road, a bear cub in a basket, someone promised to care and to help, he said he didn't know how to get me to trust him. And he abandoned me and retraumatised me. Maybe I am "beyond help" ... So many horrible things have happened to me, none of which I deserved. It makes me so angry when people who we pay to "help" instead harm us.

I now do have some funds to see someone privately for a short time... I so don't want to do this. Again

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I wonder if he was trying to stir up a response in me with his repeated invalidation of me and my pain

I do not have much experience with therapists (I have more experience with psychiatrists). I do suppose it is possible some percentage of therapists might use a tactic like that to elicit a response. Some of the posts I've read at PC over the years lead me to think that is at least possible.

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

He said some people are "beyond help"...

Right then I would have asked (had I the presence of mind to do so):
1. Can you give me some examples of people "beyond help"?
2. Do you think I am beyond help?

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I so don't want to do this. Again

Is it possible for you to get "pre-therapy counselling"? Could someone take a look at your whole case and history, including the history of the treatment/therapy you have received, and advise you what kind of treatment or combination of treatments would be most valuable for you?

((((((( Fuzzybear! ))))))

My T once said that some people find therapy too hard. It seemed as judgemental a comment as what your T said. Nobody is beyond help. I'm sorry you had a bad experience.

I was severely hurt by a therapist I trusted. I am so sorry.

[ECHOES]

I wish you had a T to help you toss that old one out. Everyone deserves help and/or support, and the freedom to do therapy at their own pace.

- said Fuzzy's friend who is in the 7th year of therapy with my wonderful T

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((((((((((((((((fuzzy)))))))))))))))))) NOBODY is beyond help!
that makes us angry for you! you are awesome and amazing and never let anyone tell you otherwise ♥