Can't decide whether to quit or not. Quitting seems to be harder than carrying on. I can't possibly know the outcome if I carry on, whether it will be beneficial to me.

I hope that if you do decide to quit, it' because YOU are ready to and that you have dealt with some of the issues that brought you into therapy in the first place. If not, then it's not time to quit. Talk to your t about it. Maybe, the t you have, is not the best fit. Whatever you decide, needs to be what feels right for YOU. Xxx

I haven't resolved my issues, it would be because I feel we are not a good fit.

[brokenwarrior]

Originally Posted by Brown Owl

I haven't resolved my issues, it would be because I feel we are not a good fit.

You will not get any good therapeutic work done if you believe you and your T are not a good fit. I would recommend to start seeing some other Ts on the side until you find one you click with.

It's so hard for me to know whether or not we are a good fit, whether we could somehow work through the issues I have with her. There's something quite fundamental to me that I think she has got wrong. I keep saying to her that I don't agree.

[ScarletPimpernel]

Looking back, I know I wasted 2 years on this one therapist, but I didn't completely realize it until after termination (if you could even call it that). I stayed because I was too afraid to be w/o a T. I had already lost everyone else. I stayed hoping this T would change. But it was a complete waste. She helped my fiance and I feel MORE insecure in our relationship and with sex, I wound up regressing, and she wound up being yet another person who abandoned me. The only thing I gained from her was help with some anger and her telling me in her termination email that I was smarter than her and to not let anyone's degree sway me into thinking that they are smarter than me.

It's a difficult choice to leave any relationship. But sometimes it's for the best. But only you can make that decision.

Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

Looking back, I know I wasted 2 years on this one therapist, but I didn't completely realize it until after termination (if you could even call it that). I stayed because I was too afraid to be w/o a T. I had already lost everyone else. I stayed hoping this T would change. But it was a complete waste. She helped my fiance and I feel MORE insecure in our relationship and with sex, I wound up regressing, and she wound up being yet another person who abandoned me. The only thing I gained from her was help with some anger and her telling me in her termination email that I was smarter than her and to not let anyone's degree sway me into thinking that they are smarter than me.

It's a difficult choice to leave any relationship. But sometimes it's for the best. But only you can make that decision.

Thanks, it's helpful hearing other's experiences.

I think you know if you are a good fit. I have been with my t for 15 months. We have had some really difficult times. I have hated him with a passion, but he's always encouraged me to work with him & through those difficult times. I think that if you can talk honestly & openly, even when you find it almost impossible to do, then you WILL know if you are a good fit. If you have any doubts, please please talk it through with your t first. You are worth more than you are feeling you are at the moment. Take stock, bite the bullet @ tell you t just how you are feeling towards them. Xxx