[PaulaS]

I was in therapy for some months and now I really suffer from an unwanted termination, my T choosed to terminate me from different reasons. I´m now looking for a new T.

This is quite painful but I also realise, and that´s why I´m now writing, that I really feel lost and unsure about what to do in life. I´m now not talking about destructive behaviour but what career to choose and how to go on with my life.

I was unsure and lost before I started therapy as well but after therapy I now feel even more unsure. I have a university degree, I´ve studied for many years and to study even more is not an option much because of finances. I have to in some way figure out how to use my university degree in something I would like to work with but I don´t now how.

I´ve also been unemployed for several years after I graduated, (I´m some years above 30) and the unemployment has to do with my other problems, that is feeling lonely, I´ve never had a relationship, I live in a town where I have no relatives. I have a somewhat distant relationship to both my mother and my father.

I really feel empty and I´m also very scared that I won´t be able to find my way in life, just floating around in some kind of "half child, half adult" state where I don´t know what to do.

I´m in a way grateful for realising this and I don´t regret I went to see a T but I now realise more than before that I have problems and issues that hinders me in life and that scares me.

Anyone who perhaps feels the same or felt the same? What to do and how to think? (Talking about it in therapy is obvious but I didn´t find a new T yet)

[jelly-bean]

What is your degree for? I think you should post in the work and careers forum and see what they suggest. You are not the only one with this problem and they may have some answers for you.

[wotchermuggle]

I just wanted to tell you that you're not alone in your confusion about how to move forward.

[Ididitmyway]

Life is fundamentally confusing for all of us, so you are definitely not alone in this spiritual and psychological search for your true place in this world. We all do that and we constantly find ourselves at crossroads every now and then.

From my experience, I can tell that it's possible to get help outside of the formal mental health system. I don't know about all the options in your country, but here I sought help from different practitioners such as body workers a.k.a massage therapists, holistic doctors, medical intuitives. Yoga classes have been helpful every once in a while. Meditations help me to get in a state of balance that is essential for getting a better sense of where to go in life. I also find solace in reading about various subjects that interest me: spirituality, history, biographies of famous people, mysticism, quantum theories and anything that reminds me of the fact that this physical dimension of our life is not where the most important stuff is happening :-). I found it paramount to develop my attunement to my intuitive guide in order to navigate through the challenges and confusion. Your inner guidance system is always with you even when no one else is. This is your core. If you are well connected to it, it will help you find the right people and the right environments for you to grow and develop. You will make mistakes along the way and it's okay. If you stay committed to maintaining your connection with your inner guide, you'll find your way through this life.