How do you relate with your T?

No touch, though I haven't asked. She did once briefly touch my back when I left at the end of a difficult session.
I can text or email out of session, she will respond if it's scheduling etc, and usually responds to other stuff though I've only done that two or three times.
I can call her mobile in emergency but never needed to.

I can ask for a hug at any time and she will. But it has been almost a year since I've asked for one. She never initiates any physical contact. Handshakes were only during the first couple of months.

I do email between sessions when I need to and I try to keep it brief. She always replies but very briefly so I know she's read it basically.

I can text or call her cell phone in an emergency but she doesn't seem to check her phone so email turns out more efficient in the long run. She checks that once a day and it can take a couple of days for her to answer something on her cell...

It's helped me to go on-line and find out how therapists in general believe about hugging, e-mailing, extra time, etc. There appear to be some basic boundaries most of them share, but some are more withholding than others. The classical Freudians are strict and the modern dynamic relationship therapists are more flexible.
But you can be sure that everything they allow or don't allow is for a purpose, not just to be chummy.

My T invites me for a hug after every session. I get my keys, etc and usually when I turn around she's standing there with her arms open. That's usually all the touch there is, unless I've had an upsetting session....if I dissociate or cry she usually comes to sit by me on the couch and she'll hold me, and rub my back. That happened in my last session (I see her twice a week, second time is tomorrow). We communicate, usually, between sessions by Email or text. She encourages Emails, and she initiated the texting herself.

The only time I've ever touched a therapist, including the current one, is to shake hands during the first meeting/hello. None has assumed I would want more, so I don't know if they hug other clients or not. I have my dog with me, and that's all the contact I want in session.

I used to do therapy back in prehistoric days when people were still complaining about learning to use fax machines, so I've never come to rely on email. The last one I saw didn't have any problems with emailing, and said it could be helpful. My current one hasn't said one way or the other, but the one time I emailed, she replied with a full answer.

I could never envision a therapist inviting, or being okay with, a visit that was unpaid and non-therapy related. Many get weird around even the idea of a small gift.

I think it varies a lot here in the US, and sometimes it's hard to know a therapist's preference on out of session contact and hugging until you meet them and it comes up. Personally, I think it gets in the way and ends up becoming too much of a focus instead of the real work; but there should always be room for exceptions.

I can ask for a hug although I only did so after five years. I just... needed time I guess. He occasionally touches my back or shoulder as I'm leaving. E-mails or phone calls are cool although he only occasionally responds if he thinks it's warranted or I ask for it.

It'd be odd for me to show up at his office since he's part of an agency a good distance from where I am.

We hug about once every two or three weeks. We have held hands on a few occasions. I like it when my therapist suggests things like this because he's always affectionate and appropriate about it. I'm usually the one who suggests the hugs though.

My therapist lets me contact him between sessions (and has occasionally contacted me if there was a need to). He does have preferences and wants me to call ... I think he would really mind it if I wrote him a long email about how I'm feeling and what I need etc, but it's okay to call and talk quite a bit if there is a need, and we have also texted and exchanged emails about less sensitive topics or just to share resources / materials.

I have never tried to see him on a holiday without having a session ( on some minor holidays he works). I don't know how he would feel about that, but given that he goes away on vacation, that would objectively not be possible.

I've never touched either of my T's, not even a handshake at the first session or a hug or handshake at the last one. I wince at the thought of someone being in my personal space and, obviously, due to some issues have a great distrust of the intent of touch. It would likely do me service to work with a touch therapist to better learn that not all touch has an adverse intent. One time first T was handing me her business card, we'd been working together 6 months by then, and as she stood near me to hand it I leaned backwards to create more space. She commented that until then she didn't realize how subconsciously I perceived the threat.

Out of session I can leave VM if an emergency but the call back would only be to determine if a crisis where the hospital is recommended. Neither T would call back to discuss a thought or feeling that had come up. Their practice is very clear it is meant to be session supportive only and if as a client you foresee needing more intensive treatment they refer you to a different practice. Makes sense to me as I imagine that practice and T structure would be designed differently.

I quit on Friday night, so I guess it really doesn't matter anymore.... won't be looking for a new one