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#1
Jan 06, 2015, 11:38 AM
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In my session yesterday, I admitted my ET and everything to my T after 8 months of suffering! I'm hoping this will be encouraging to others with transference in general.
I've had positive and negative towards her. So negative that I was convinced she was acting like my mom on purpose to make me mad. I picked her apart so that I wouldn't care or have any feelings towards her. At the same time, my 7 year old self wanted her to tell me she cared about me, would be there for me, I would be ok, etc. She wouldn't say it at the time which made me think she didn't care. She said she had shown it to me. Last week on her own with tears in her eyes she told me she cared about me. I was trying to tell her more about my feelings/ET and couldn't get it out. Last night I read her everything and she totally accepted me without judgment. I also told her my feelings including that I love her (not romantically, just for being there for me). Finally, for the first time I asked her if I could hug her as I left. I never wanted to before but I wanted to make sure that she really was accepting me. She said absolutely and then told me I would be ok. Some of you have followed my story so I thought I would share and hopefully inspire others to talk more to their T's. It was the most difficult and terrifying thing I have done but it was so worth it. Now, I don't feel a need to guard what I'm saying but I do miss her. |
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Jan 06, 2015, 11:47 AM
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I'm so proud and happy for you!!!
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Jan 06, 2015, 12:36 PM
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#4
Jan 06, 2015, 01:39 PM
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I love the dancing pepper! I almost sent you a private message. You were and are a huge support for me! 
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Jan 06, 2015, 04:11 PM
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Wow, I think you're so brave. And I'm glad your T responded so well to you.
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INFP Introvert(67%) iNtuitive(50%) iNtuitive Feeling(75%) Perceiving(44)% |
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Jan 06, 2015, 04:45 PM
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That's great! Thanks for posting because it gives me (and I'm sure others too) both courage and comfort. The courage to open communication with my T and comfort to know I'm not alone!
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Jan 06, 2015, 05:32 PM
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Awesome news! You should be very proud!
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Jan 06, 2015, 05:46 PM
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Congratulations! What weight of your shoulders! You must be feeling so accepted.
Did she seem surprise by your "revelation" or did you get the sense that she knew already? I've been wanting to tell my T, but I don't know how to phrase it or what good can come of it. You are very brave! Quote:
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Jan 06, 2015, 06:37 PM
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I am so happy for you! I know from experience how difficult it is to tell your T how you feel about her or him, but it is such a relief when you do. I'm glad you could ask for a hug too!
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Jan 06, 2015, 08:58 PM
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Can you talk more about her reaction or what she said?
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Jan 06, 2015, 09:01 PM
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So she knew a little but not the depth. I had a hard time talking to her because I didn't want her to figure it out. She had to have known to a degree but says she never assumes. |
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