Do they even know the impact they have on us......their clients?

At the end of every single session I fill out a quick questionnaire that I give back to my T. Then we go over it right away. It basically tells T what I found helpful, what T can improve on, and whether it is helping me or not.

I have openly expressed the impact T has had on me. It's all positive of course. I don't actually have any complaints so far.

So my T does know the impact she has on me.

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If we express the impact they have on us then they would have some idea. I don't they automatically know. I am sure the notice our growth and get satisfaction out of that but probably not the full impact. I have told to multiple times and in multiple ways how thankful I am to have her in my life. I sent her a card around mothers day thanking her for helping me to be the mother I always wanted to be (didn't feel like a horrible person before but I have always second guessed myself). I also express in times of crisis that I am so thankful to have her on my side and that I feel safe.

I am sure she doesn't think about me all the time. I know she thinks of me though. I am sure it is like any other profession in that they think about work at home. I don;t know of any profession where people say they don't think about work when they are at home. However, she does have a family and personal life so I wouldn't want it to be a frequent thing.

As far as thinking about not needing them during breaks I do that all the time and the longest break she has taking is 1 week. I think it is my way protecting myself dealing with missing her.

I do not believe they have any idea of their impact. Even after telling them straight away how you feel, they still have no idea. Perhaps they disassociate during our sessions when they don't want to hear you?

I hope my t knows. I think she does. I've never told her in exactly those words, but have in my own way. Perhaps I will ask her to make sure she does know.

I am pleasantly surprised that your therapist takes care to get your feedback every session and adjusts her work accordingly. Wow. That's amazing. This is how therapy should be conducted in my view, but it rarely happens. In fact, this is the first time I hear about T doing that. Thank you for letting me know.

I read somewhere one therapist advising a client too think of their experience as a kind of teacher/student. A teacher had many students. The relationship is by necessity An unequal relationship. The student will-and should be- thinking of home work and lessons while not in class. It's the student that needs the information and work. That's just how teaching works.

But that doesn't mean a (good) teacher will dismiss the importance or the accomplishments of the individual, nor does it mean that a teacher isn't in some part invested in some part in the individual's success.

No problem. It is great. I've only had good experiences in T.

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I think my t knows how much her behaviour impacts on her clients. She's consistent, reliable and empathic in everything she does - including when she takes breaks or needs to reschedule a sessions. She knows when I need help while she's away and she knows when I don't need it. I believe, that good ts do understand they have an impact on the people they work with, especially longer term clients.