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Old Jan 25, 2015, 01:55 AM
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Today I was overcome with the desire today to go curl up on the sofa in T's office and take a nap. He could be there or not I don't really care, as long as he would be busy doing something and not just stareing me down. I don't have any sort of romantic or sexual feelings for my T, so I know it isn't that. Anyone have any therories?
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Old Jan 25, 2015, 03:25 AM
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Comfort, safety. Maybe a feeling of homesickness for the place you feel safest. Idk. But I don't actually think it's too odd, as long as you're clear that you're not feeling erotic about it, just seeking safety and comfort and a nice place to nap where you can close you eyes and let your worries drift away.

I used to feel that way about a nook in my dad's office, although my dad had a bad temper. But the nook was cozy and clean and the very best part was that I never had to clean it. Never. That was a big attraction for some reason. Not having to clean it was like taking a mini-vacation. It made all that much more attractive.

I hope you find a place for some good ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZs.
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Old Jan 25, 2015, 06:30 AM
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I've felt that way before. For me it was about safety and comfort...
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Old Jan 25, 2015, 08:57 AM
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There have been many times that I have thought about doing that.. When life was crazy, or just not good. Just being at his office seemed appealing to me!

His office is a place of safety.. So, it makes sense that I would want to flee there sometimes.

I thinks it is a pretty "normal" desire.
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Old Jan 25, 2015, 09:12 AM
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I've told my T that I would like to just be in the same room with him all the time. I agree it is just a safe place to be. Nothing erotic in my head I just want to be near him.
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Old Jan 25, 2015, 07:54 PM
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I have felt this way before too. If you are hyper vigilant /anxious , having a trusted person in the room is like having someone on guard duty. You can finally truly rest because you don't have to keep your guard up.
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Old Jan 25, 2015, 08:55 PM
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It makes sense to me. I have fallen asleep on the couch in my t's office a few times and slept well. One time we had a session late at night and we BOTH fell asleep and I had my head on her shoulder and it was very comforting.
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Old Jan 25, 2015, 10:21 PM
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Wonder if I may have some sort of paternal transference going on because the thought also popped into my mind, not sure of the right words here, but something like homesickness. Like I had said in a prior post, I'm ill, overwhelmed, and my husband is out of town. Even as a grown adult with a family and homs of my own I think that I just wanted to feel something safe, familiar, and cared for. Hmm interesting, it may explain a lot.

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Old Jan 25, 2015, 10:28 PM
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You must feel safe there. And it feels really good to feel safe.
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Old Jan 25, 2015, 10:44 PM
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You must feel safe there. And it feels really good to feel safe.
I think I do. I don't know that I ever quite realized it prior to today. Now for the big question. Do I tell T, or keep it to myself? If I tell T, he would likely get all mushy. Yuck. On the other hand maybe I really want/need to hear what he has to say.

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Old Jan 26, 2015, 07:49 AM
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I understand that feeling. And I once actually did something like that. I went to his office (he had offered) and took a little nap in a back room. We didn't talk that day; he just woke me when it was time to go. I just needed to feel that I was literally in a safe place given that there was lots of disruption and I was virtually without anything resembling comfort. But I didn't feel the need to process it with him or even personally. It just was something that fit for that moment and plus I could sense that he understood and it was no big deal to him so even though we tend to discuss our own interactions we didn't with this.
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