[lozza89]

In less than 2 hours now my T will be turning her work phone off and will be heading to the the airport She is going to europe, scotland to be more specific for extra training in DBT. She does't get back until late on the 22nd Feb and I see her (if she comes back) on the 24th..

I am freaking out though cuz last time she went overseas it was only meant to be for 6 months but she stayed overseas for 9 months in total and what if she does it again this time and doesn't come back when she promised she will???? or worse what if she just doesn't come back at all??

I am already really struggling and not feeling safe and I have been trying to get onto the T I am seeing whilst mine is gone but of course she is not getting back to me.. I msged her a few days ago now! I just, I don't know what to do.. I just want to cry and drink and cut and I don't want to be here anymore. I don't think I can do this anymore.. but I am trying I am but I just don't know..

I don't really I don't know... it's not really fair for me to msg or call my T now either with it being so close to her turning her phone off and leaving

I can't do this

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Going to Scotland in February? A truly horrible thought. I very much doubt she will stay long. You only have to hold out for a fortnight. Good luck.

[ThingWithFeathers]

Yes, it might help to remind yourself that this time it's 2 weeks, not 6 months. Sounds like she's going for professional development purposes and, in the long run, this will be beneficial to her clients, including you. I'm glad you've got a back up t to see. It's hard having your t away, but you will get through it.

I understand. My t left for a Family emergency to another three years ago and hasnt been able to come home yet. We talk on the phone but it isnt the same. I miss her constantly. I went to visit her and she came back to visit but it isnt the same.

[lozza89]

Thanks guys.

I'm really not coping right now. Replacement T still hasn't responded and I just can't stop crying and not feeling safe. Called local mental health team but surprise surprise it went to voice mail.. like seriously??

Hopefully seeing a friend soon but I need to go now but she has family over so I need to wait but I don't know if I can or what to do. I can't do this anymore

[growlycat]

I would tell replacement T that you are worried about feeling safe. Sometimes I don't think they understand what it is like to be the patient, how painful it can be. They need reminding.

If replacement T felt what you are feeling, you'd get a call within hours. My opinion of course. Empathy isn't automatic.

[lozza89]

Originally Posted by growlycat

I would tell replacement T that you are worried about feeling safe. Sometimes I don't think they understand what it is like to be the patient, how painful it can be. They need reminding.

If replacement T felt what you are feeling, you'd get a call within hours. My opinion of course. Empathy isn't automatic.

Thanks. I msgd replacement T again today but no reply still ..it makes no sense though cuz when she was a student and doing my assessment she was so good with phone contact.. but now I don't know.. maybe she just hates me? Everyone does so it would not surprise me I will try to talk to her tomorrow though..

Feeling a bit brighter today well I was.. I went to the pound to help out before which helped and then we were arranging me to transport a cat and dog up to melbourne tomorrow (I see my replacement T in melb tomorrow so am up there anyway) but the place the dog was going too, they are not answering the phone so we don't have confirmation they will take the dog into care and the cat well she's really unwell and I need the pound keeper to call C from the rescue group I'm meant to be taking the cat to to give the all clear and that the cat has a good prognosis to recover as well as she can and be happy and not in pain but the pound keeper isn't getting back to us and now I feel really badly again and I don't even know why I bother? I try to help and do what I can to save animals in need but sometimes people make it so difficult when they don't answer or return bloody phone calls