I miss my T a lot. I recently started seeing him again and we had a session a few days ago and I miss him so much.. I had such a rough day last night so I texted him and he called me a few hours ago, told me to take things hour by hour, and that I am doing well. Now, I just miss him.
I am sorry if this has been posted here before. I am new here!

What do you guys do when you miss your T?
Do you ever miss your T or is it just me?

[ThingWithFeathers]

I miss my t between sessions. You're not alone in missing your t.

[precaryous]

Welcome here!

Yes, I miss her. I just saw her yesterday. I will miss her for a day or two. Then, if nothing traumatic happens...the need feels less and less until I see her the following week.

I like her consistentcy, safety, and comfort. She untangles my chaos.
I'm glad you have in between session contact with your T if you need it.

[stopdog]

I do not miss the therapist specifically, but there was an occasion where I made an extra appointment due to a distressing situation.

No. I like her, but I do not miss her between sessions.

[RedSun]

I used to miss mine all the time, a d think about her sooooo much.
It's better now. It passed with time. If I miss her, I tend to make some notes in my journal of things to take to next session, so I feel connected.
If its really bad, I look at her photo on her website, though this doesn't help much cos it doesn't really look like her I must tell her some day....

I don't do anything, just sit with the feelings.

[angelicgoldfish05]

It has taken time but it has certainly got much better. How I deal with it: I have a journal dedicated just to him that I write in when the need arises. I may or may not ever share this with him... I focus on building my relationship with God (or spirituality, meditation, etc). I go to AA. I write to him, reread things he has written or look at his picture. I have also found medications to be helpful.

[brillskep]

If I'm missing my therapist, I reread his messages / look at his picture / reread his book that he gave me. Something like that ...

[ScarletPimpernel]

If I miss my T, I re-read emails, look at her picture and/or websites, or read her letter she wrote me. If it's really difficult for me, I'll email her asking for a check-in just for reassurance. Sometimes she can't do a check-in though.

[ragsnfeathers]

I just started with a new therapist and I already miss him between sessions with the same intensity, or stronger (he's a better fit for me) than my previous therapist before things got bad there. So I'm thinking it's a combation of my therapist and the therapy experience.

What I do: I journal on my laptop right after my session. Later when I need to I edit that for more precision and add new insights. I pull up my therapist's website and reread it and look at his picture. Or I take a different route and distract myself by keeping busy or talking wlwith someone, not about therapy-type stuff or even personal stuff necessarily but someone I can (and want to) talk deeper with. Also count how many hours till the next session.

[growlycat]

I ask for check ins all the time.

But I'm really working on distraction and "What can I do to make my situation less Sh**tty "? Or I think of it this way "I feel crappy but if I do my laundry, "future me" will be thankful I did this."

[wotchermuggle]

Sometimes I miss him and other times I don't think of him as much. I will email when I miss him.

[MoxieDoxie]

Is there anyone else in our lives we think of and miss this much? I have never felt this way for any other person now or in the past. I am grateful to be able to feel this kind of love and attachment, because I thought I was not capable, but at the same time it is very painful because it can't be for a lifetime. It is very conditional, with rules and boundaries and one sided. I live in fear of losing it at any moment. If I knew he could be my mentor for life I could soar to new heights and takes risks that are needed to fulfill a dream.

[ThisWayOut]

I like how you put that ragsnfeathers: it's a combo of the therapist and the therapy experience. It rings pretty true for me. While I don't miss my new therapist, I do miss the opportunity I get in session to be vulnerable and heard...

Originally Posted by ragsnfeathers

I just started with a new therapist and I already miss him between sessions with the same intensity, or stronger (he's a better fit for me) than my previous therapist before things got bad there. So I'm thinking it's a combation of my therapist and the therapy experience.

What I do: I journal on my laptop right after my session. Later when I need to I edit that for more precision and add new insights. I pull up my therapist's website and reread it and look at his picture. Or I take a different route and distract myself by keeping busy or talking wlwith someone, not about therapy-type stuff or even personal stuff necessarily but someone I can (and want to) talk deeper with. Also count how many hours till the next session.

I text my t when I need to feel more connected. He always texts me back. I also have a Transitional object from him (a stone, which I take back to him regularly to reenergise for me & he holds it through our session). I hold that when I feel that I want him closer to me. Distraction is not a strong enough strategy as he will just pop back into my head. I hope you can find something together to help you. Talk to your t and see what they suggest. Xxx