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Originally Posted by PaulaS
I understand what her answer means, thatīs not what I was bothered about. The T saw my question and as we are about to see how our weekly schedules could fit together and to find an appointment time I know she understands I want an answer to whether she works on Fridays or not.
Even if I understand the message she gave me for this week, she canīt see me on Friday, knowing her availability for therapy sessions is still a question. Even if Iīd choose say having meetings on Wednesdays there might be situations when I want to schedule a meeting another day and perhaps on a Friday. I just mean, thereīs no gain in not answering my question as the question will perhaps come up again.
If thereīs no boundary crossing by answering I think itīs just unneccesary not answering such a simple question. Perhaps she was in a hurry and just wanted to answer me quickly but as she kind of ignored the question in meeting as well, I think she just doesnīt want to "confess" she doesnīt work on Fridays or that she works somewhere else on that day.
Iīm not her client yet and Iīll let this thing pass as I donīt think itīs anything personal about it. Itīs just me whoīs very careful in answering people in a thoughtful way and not leaving unneccesary questions hanging. If an answer will take one minute more, then be it.
Iīve schduled another meeting with this T anyway as I know Iīll never meet a person who doesnīt disappoint or bother me in some way. Not to brag or anything like that, I donīt do such things, but when I think about it, noone have ever told me I got them disappointed, I really try not to.
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No, don't let it slide- not a good start. Ask DIRECTLY for what you want to know: Do you work on Fridays? From what you shared here you are doing a lot of inferring- from this specific convo I wouldn't even think you are asking about her availability on Fridays in general- just this Friday. Whether she can't make it because she is booked solid with other clients or because she doesn't work on Fridays is not the point there.
It's not a boundary crossing- not unless you want her to tell you what she does on Fridays (i.e. why is she not working). She might refuse to answer such a personal question- I think it's still OK to ask though. Just don't be surprised if she's not willing to tell you.
My T does individual therapy Mondays, Wednesdays and Thursdays. I'm not sure what he does on other days- some teaching at Uni and some supervising probably? Don't know, never asked cause I don't really care. Few times I saw him on a Friday- needed extra session and he had the time. However, he doesn't offer weekly slots these days.
Feb 11, 2015, 07:20 PM
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