My T got a job somewhere else...

Today after our session my therapist told me she got a job some place else. She'll start there in April. This came as quite a schock to me. But then she told me that I could ''go'' with her. I could stay in therapy with her at the new place she'll be working. The only thing is that it isn't close. She said that I should think good about what I want. If I want to stay at the same plave, then I'll be getting a new therapist.
The new place is about a 50 minute drive by car. And with public transport it's about 1.5 hour.
She'll be working there for 5 months, replacing someone who's on pregnacy leave. And after that she'll be going to another place. That place isn't that far.
I don't want another therapist. I want to stay with her. I don't know for how long I'll still be needing therapy. It isn't like I can't ''live'' without her. I went about 1.5 year without seeing her. That was because she went on pregnacy leave, and I had something with school. And then I kept putting it off to call for starting therapy again, while I really needed it. But she has been the only therapist who understood me, my feelings and problems. She's the only one who was able to help me reduce my anxiety. And if there's anyone who can help me to become less depressive, it's her. I had lots of diferents therapist before her. None of them seemed to understand me. And I'm afraid that it won't click with a new therapist, and that he/she won't understand me as my current therapist does. Even thought they all work at the same place.
So I rather stay with her. Even if I have to drive 50 minutes to there and back again.

It isn't weird to drive 20 minutes to see a therapist? It would only be once a week, and maybe after some time it will probably be every other week.
I always had therapy in a city near me. (Except for the time I was in therapy for 5 days a week and also lived in this house with my group members.)
I should probaly also discuss this with my parents. If I can borrow the car, then I could stay with her.

I don't think it weird. The first one I hire has said some clients have moved away and driven back to see her even though the drive was 2-3 hours.

I think it's worth the drive if you have a good relationship, especially if she will be moving closer in 5 months. It's harder to find a new therapist that's not a disaster.

I drive 40 minutes one way every week (longer, depending on traffic). I like seeing a therapist some distance away. No chance of run ins around town, for one thing, and the drive is a nice way to prepare and process.

I drive 30 minutes each way to see mine. I actually like the thinking time it gives me before and after sessions.

The only option for a therapist I have is an hour away. It isn't weird to drive that far.

Thank you. I just don't want to come over as obsessive or like I can't be without her.
There are lots of therapist near where I live, but it's difficult to find a good one. I had many before her and they all weren't right for me. I don't want to risk getting worser instead of better or going from therapist to therapist.

Mine was going to move almost an hour away and she asked if I'd be okay with that - because of our connection and the work we are doing and the progress we are making I told her I'd follow her to the moon or wherever she went Found a good one? Stick with it if you can

I had driven 1.5 hours at one point because I lived in the middle of nowhere... I now drive an hour (because of traffic at the time of my appointment. it would be about 35 minutes otherwise)...
I think somtimes the fit is more important than the distance if you can find a way to make the distance work. It sounds like you have found a good T that you click with. If it's only for 5 months anyway, it may be worth the effort.

Nothing is weird. I commute everywhere so no it is not weird

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If you have a good therapist, don't let go! They are a rare breed it would seem and 50 minutes by car isn't so bad.

go with her of course. what's 50 minutes compared to the pain of sacrificing a great working relationship?

I drove 1 1/2 hours one way to see PrevT. In the beginning, I saw her twice a week. CurrentT is about 30 minutes away...so, no, I dont think a 20, 30 or 60 minute drive is weird to keep a competent T.

I'm in a similar situation: when I started with T she was 10 minutes away. After a few months she told me she had to leave the agency, but I could follow her into her private practice which was 25 minutes away. This was 2 years ago and I did so. Now she's rearranging her home to work from there. This will be a 50 minutes drive and while I don't look forward to it, I know I'll follow her because she's the best T I ever had.

Hi, I have a similar experience: when I started therapy my T was about 20 minutes away.. after a year I had to move 2.5 hours from my T, I stayed with her for the same reasons you want to keep yours. I was worried but it worked so well, we would arrange appointments on my days off and via skype when we couldn't meet in person. It happened just twice though. Now we both relocated, so it's a 20-30 minutes drive again. Go for it. It is not weird, the right T is worth the effort.