Does therapy make things worse?

I think therapy can make things worse for some people depending on where they are in their life. And, also if you get hooked up with a bad therapist as we see continuously on this forum.

I think I'm missing something and am starting to conclude that this is a good thing.

With ex-T I did care about her and for a few months I felt something approaching the kind of dependence people post about on here but that's really not my M.O. I stayed so long because she was the first therapist I felt any kind of connection with so I stayed out of hope that she would change and do what her website indicated she does and that would help lessen my anxiety. But, as enmeshed in whatever we were enmeshed in, when I left I never looked back and she left an enormously positive mark practically but nothing psychologically.

With current T I'm taking disclosure risks and making sure I'm talking to him, not just talking, and trying out new behaviors when they are congruent with my goals but I don't miss him between sessions except when I was having some problems I needed help with. I'm not looking for an emotional connection. And I'm starting to do things that scare me and reevaluate things and right now I'm really happy.

I know my reactions are not the norm. My T said I have low affect. I spent a lot of time trying to force myself into the typical mode in order to be able to work in T in order to make my anxiety less. So this thread is interesting because it shows that the "basic trust" I've always been accused of not having doesn't work for everybody, anyway.

Therapy hasn't made it worse. My depression sucked and I wanted it to be over before. I think I've become more effective in coping even if my depression isn't better. But it isn't lack of effort on my T's part. I do DBT though which doesn't spend a lot of time digging into whatever subconscious. Things are looked at in terms of pattern of behaviors and whether or not I'm repeating old habits.

It's been useful.