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#26
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No, never
The kind of comments you quote are unprofessional and unethical. Sounds to me like a therapist without the necessary patience to be there for you. A client is entitled to go at his/her own pace, repeat questions over and over, etc. It's the therapist's job to help you as a client to get out of that circle - cursing at you will probably cause more harm than good ... Last edited by brillskep; Mar 04, 2015 at 06:10 PM. |
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My T has never cursed at me in anger/frustration. He has used swear words, usually after I have already introduced them (if I say, "I'm in deep s***" he might ask "what kind of s***?" to make up an example), but that's cursing with me, not at me.
As far as whether the OP's T was out of line, I feel like so much depends on tone, body language, context that I don't know whether the T's in the wrong or not. But if you (OP) found it offensive or insulting, of course that is something to bring up and deal with. |
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So do you want somebody to tell you that you CAN'T do it? Or that you COULD do it, but based on prior experience, they dont think you will? My mother thinks thats how to motivate someone, make them mad so they want to succeed just to prove you wrong. Personally i find it undermining, especially if they laugh at you and look at you with crazy eyes.
What do you really WANT to do? I'm trying to answer this question for myself. |
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I also think she could have responded to your question a lot better, by either giving a thoughtful answer or explaining non judgementally why she thought it better that she don't answer.
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No. If they ever did I would not only be out the door but I would report that to their employer, their professional organization and to their licensing board if they had a solo practice. It's a verbal abuse and falls under professional misconduct.
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#31
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same with my t. i cannot imagine that she would EVER express anger toward me.
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#32
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Neither T has ever sworn AT me, but they do occasionally curse.
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#33
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Both my Ts cursed frequently. They never cursed at me or cursed in a way that could be misconstrued as name-calling or remotely sexual or angry. Just cursing in the way many people, including me, curse in their self-talk or with their closet friends. It helped me get down to the nitty-gritty of rude thoughts and strong feelings I'd been keeping buried. But it was done delicately, with sensitivity, if cursing like a drunken sailor on shore leave can be called sensitive. (With apologies to all sober non-cursing sailors.)
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#34
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My T has never cursed at me. He has mimicked my cursing on occasion, but has never been anything but perfect. He has been irritated with me a couple of times, but I've only known that by reading his expressions, not by him saying anything to me. I love my T.
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Current t - Never at me or anywhere close to at me
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no way. he would never do that
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#37
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That just blows.my.mind!! I am so, so sorry that happened to you!! That is just unacceptable in my book.
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Quote:
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I want someone to look at all the pieces and realistically tell me my chances. Not say yes you can do anything because you're alive.
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#40
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"I've told you twice and I'm not going to tell you again."
and "There's no point in apologising to you because you never hear it." |
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No, my T has never cursed at me and I know she never will. A previous T swore because I was upset that the pillow I liked wasn't there one time. She said "damn pillow". She was angry with me. I'm glad I'm not seeing her any more though she was a good T.
Are you still seeing your same T? I thought you quit. ![]() Last edited by FooZe; Mar 05, 2015 at 02:08 AM. Reason: at author's request |
#42
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My therapists have never sworn at me. They swear, but then so do I.
I would be heartbroken if they swore at me. |
#43
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Yes, my t can get angry and swears when she gets worked up and is trying to make a point or i am driving her crazy, only she swears in our native language and not in english. I dont mind when she swears. Sometimes i swear right back at her.
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#44
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no, not at me, but she does curse. she generally mirrors what I say, or uses the same curse words I use. my favorite was when I got her to say "pussywhipped."
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#45
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My T has cursed in session but never at me. That is aggressive and very unprofessional.
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#46
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Curse at me? Absolutely not!
She has used swear words but only in mirroring my own way of speaking about something or someone. It made me smile because clearly she was just trying to show me it was okay to curse if I wanted to but it was a bit unnatural for her. |
#47
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I modified the F word in session once, I don't know who was more shocked! That is my favorite bad word, I try not to have potty mouth in session but that day it was needed. I can't imagine my T using profanity.
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#48
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Not that I recall. If the woman did, I would probably just swear back and go on.
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#49
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My old therapist would all the time. Once I was having trouble eating due to nerves and it was affecting my job. He told me to "eat a ****ing sandwich and stop the ********." Granted, we both talked like that to eachother, but still...
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#50
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No. Never. Not seriously, and not joking either that I can remember. I think if he was angry and swore at me my world would collapse, and I would never be heard from again.
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