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Old Mar 04, 2015, 03:49 PM
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No, never

The kind of comments you quote are unprofessional and unethical. Sounds to me like a therapist without the necessary patience to be there for you. A client is entitled to go at his/her own pace, repeat questions over and over, etc. It's the therapist's job to help you as a client to get out of that circle - cursing at you will probably cause more harm than good ...

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Old Mar 04, 2015, 03:55 PM
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My T has never cursed at me in anger/frustration. He has used swear words, usually after I have already introduced them (if I say, "I'm in deep s***" he might ask "what kind of s***?" to make up an example), but that's cursing with me, not at me.

As far as whether the OP's T was out of line, I feel like so much depends on tone, body language, context that I don't know whether the T's in the wrong or not. But if you (OP) found it offensive or insulting, of course that is something to bring up and deal with.
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 03:56 PM
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So do you want somebody to tell you that you CAN'T do it? Or that you COULD do it, but based on prior experience, they dont think you will? My mother thinks thats how to motivate someone, make them mad so they want to succeed just to prove you wrong. Personally i find it undermining, especially if they laugh at you and look at you with crazy eyes.

What do you really WANT to do? I'm trying to answer this question for myself.
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 04:01 PM
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I also think she could have responded to your question a lot better, by either giving a thoughtful answer or explaining non judgementally why she thought it better that she don't answer.
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 04:03 PM
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No. If they ever did I would not only be out the door but I would report that to their employer, their professional organization and to their licensing board if they had a solo practice. It's a verbal abuse and falls under professional misconduct.
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 04:05 PM
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Never, and I would leave if she ever did.

My T has cursed in session, but it was in reaction to a situation I was telling her about. She was expressing displeasure at the situation, and not in anyway directing it at me.
same with my t. i cannot imagine that she would EVER express anger toward me.
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 04:06 PM
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Neither T has ever sworn AT me, but they do occasionally curse.
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 04:39 PM
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Both my Ts cursed frequently. They never cursed at me or cursed in a way that could be misconstrued as name-calling or remotely sexual or angry. Just cursing in the way many people, including me, curse in their self-talk or with their closet friends. It helped me get down to the nitty-gritty of rude thoughts and strong feelings I'd been keeping buried. But it was done delicately, with sensitivity, if cursing like a drunken sailor on shore leave can be called sensitive. (With apologies to all sober non-cursing sailors.)
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 05:10 PM
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My T has never cursed at me. He has mimicked my cursing on occasion, but has never been anything but perfect. He has been irritated with me a couple of times, but I've only known that by reading his expressions, not by him saying anything to me. I love my T.
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 05:14 PM
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 05:59 PM
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no way. he would never do that
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 06:03 PM
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That just blows.my.mind!! I am so, so sorry that happened to you!! That is just unacceptable in my book.
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 06:18 PM
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So do you want somebody to tell you that you CAN'T do it? Or that you COULD do it, but based on prior experience, they dont think you will? My mother thinks thats how to motivate someone, make them mad so they want to succeed just to prove you wrong. Personally i find it undermining, especially if they laugh at you and look at you with crazy eyes.

What do you really WANT to do? I'm trying to answer this question for myself.
good question. are you looking for someone to back up your assessment that you will fail at school?
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 06:21 PM
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I want someone to look at all the pieces and realistically tell me my chances. Not say yes you can do anything because you're alive.
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 06:29 PM
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 06:32 PM
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No, my T has never cursed at me and I know she never will. A previous T swore because I was upset that the pillow I liked wasn't there one time. She said "damn pillow". She was angry with me. I'm glad I'm not seeing her any more though she was a good T.

Are you still seeing your same T? I thought you quit.

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Old Mar 04, 2015, 06:52 PM
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My therapists have never sworn at me. They swear, but then so do I.
I would be heartbroken if they swore at me.
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 07:18 PM
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Yes, my t can get angry and swears when she gets worked up and is trying to make a point or i am driving her crazy, only she swears in our native language and not in english. I dont mind when she swears. Sometimes i swear right back at her.
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 07:36 PM
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no, not at me, but she does curse. she generally mirrors what I say, or uses the same curse words I use. my favorite was when I got her to say "pussywhipped."
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 08:15 PM
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My T has cursed in session but never at me. That is aggressive and very unprofessional.
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 09:08 PM
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Curse at me? Absolutely not!

She has used swear words but only in mirroring my own way of speaking about something or someone. It made me smile because clearly she was just trying to show me it was okay to curse if I wanted to but it was a bit unnatural for her.
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 09:21 PM
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I modified the F word in session once, I don't know who was more shocked! That is my favorite bad word, I try not to have potty mouth in session but that day it was needed. I can't imagine my T using profanity.
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 09:25 PM
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Not that I recall. If the woman did, I would probably just swear back and go on.
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Old Mar 04, 2015, 10:13 PM
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My old therapist would all the time. Once I was having trouble eating due to nerves and it was affecting my job. He told me to "eat a ****ing sandwich and stop the ********." Granted, we both talked like that to eachother, but still...

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Old Mar 05, 2015, 01:24 AM
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No. Never. Not seriously, and not joking either that I can remember. I think if he was angry and swore at me my world would collapse, and I would never be heard from again.
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