Has your T ever cursed at you in session?

Like when they got really frustrated with you? Something along the lines of;

"You're gonna ******' ask me again? Why?"
"What is the point of asking the same god-damned question?"

nope. never. none of them. not even when they were really visibly pissed at me for something majorly stupid I had done...

No. Never.

No. And I think it wouldn't be good if they did.

Not even a mild "damn" from my T. I agree with chummy, that would be the last time that T ever got a chance to curse at me to my face.

IRL did this happen to you?

Not at all and I hope that didn't happen to you!

Nope. She did once say "I hate that people ****** you over so much that you feel this way" but never ever directed at me.

Never, and I would leave if she ever did.

My T has cursed in session, but it was in reaction to a situation I was telling her about. She was expressing displeasure at the situation, and not in anyway directing it at me.

Yes.

"Grow some balls."

"I had ******* pneumonia, it was nothing to do with you."

Probably a few more gems in the archives of my mind too.

In an email I sent once I said she was talking *******, for ignoring the fact I had no money to pay for sessions and insisting I could still come without saying it was pro bono. She was not one bit pleased at what I said, and called me abusive.

To me, there is a difference is saying **** or whatever when speaking (we both did this) and directing the profanities at somebody aggressively.

OMG Never. I on the other hand, told him to go f**** himself. Bad Moxie Bad. I had to apologies. He refused to communicate with me if I could not conduct myself in a non abusive manner.

No. That would be the end for me. I will not be cursed at by a therapist.

Based on what I do all I don't let anyone swear at me. I tell them that I want to discuss things and will do when we can both be respectful.

Sounds like our T's might have been sisters in another life :-X

Why do we get so attached to them??????????? I feel so confused.

No never. My ex t told me that Im stupid and thats why I terminated lol.
They have no rights to do it.

Good grief. If mine ever cursed AT me, I'd be done. My parents curse like sailors, so I got enough of that growing up--I wouldn't tolerate it from someone I voluntarily choose to see. He's dropped a few here and there (I personally find it entertaining because he's usually so even-keeled), but nothing more than b****ing or a**hole and never, EVER directed at me. I can't see how in the world a T would get the idea that it's okay to curse at one of their clients.

She apologized a few minutes later.

I don't remember exactly, but something close to, "Have you ever been with a kid that kept asking the same question over and over, "are we there yet, are we there yet, are we there yet" and then you just snap and yell at them? That was me snapping, and I'm not proud of it, you didn't deserve that. You were being annoying, but you didn't deserve that.

I still didn't respond, though. Eventually session ended and she just said see you next time.

Has he cursed? Yes, very rarely. BUT never AT me. That would absolutely be unacceptable. I don't curse at people and I don't accept verbal abuse from anyone. I consider cursing AT people verbal abuse. I don't accept that from my family. I don't accept that from friends. I don't accept that from students. And I certainly wouldn't accept it from my therapist.

A previous therapist very randomly called me a b**** during a one and only spontaneous role play in which she was the only one to "play" and the person she was pretending to be was not the kind to say something like that, so it was jarring and off-putting because she had called me that but used the excuse of a role play (again, which didn't even fit the topic).

What yours did was horrible, but not surprising given what you've shared about her.

She has cursed IN session, but never AT me. That would be abusive and unacceptable.

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No, but he has encouraged me to curse because I'm wrapped a little too tight.

It seems to me there are two separate things going on in this post, but both are about how we communicate with our t. One, do we ever use profanity? Yes, we might. Because we both might in our personal lives, and after almost ten years we are probably comfortable enough with each other to handle it.

But the other thing i see here is, i cant think of anything that i think my t would have an answer for, that he would be withholding from me. I have the answers to me, not him; im the expert. Hes more the sounding board. so that part of your question confuses me.

hankster, I asked her if she thought I might be successful in graduate school, and she said "yes." I said why? she said "because youre human and you have potential." i said okay, but what is it specifically about me that makes you think that I could be successful?" and she basically just kept saying the only reason I'd fail is if I wanted to, bc I had potential bc I was human and alive.

So she got tired of me asking her to elaborate on something specific to me, more than my species and beating heart, which I share with everyone else living on the planet. So she got mad.

Thats i think a good example of you being the expert on you. You know you are intelligent enough to succeed in graduate school - you dont need her to tell you that. She cant predict what you would do during those 2 or 3 years. Those would be your decisions, your challenges, your choices.

About ten years ago, i was thinking of going back to graduate school and told my family. My brother told me the faculty would laugh at me. Hes a psychotherapist. You can have that response if you prefer. My t is so mad at him he could spit.

hankster. I have severe anxiety, an overactive eating disorder and am quite literally a klepto. I'd be appalled to discover these traits in my therapist. If the eating disorder doesnt take me down, the stealing certainly will. It feels like a lot to overcome in the 1-2 years til I start seeing clients. If I'm not in jail for petty theft, that is.

These are SERIOUS concerns, and I am worried that one if not all of these and more will serve to block my aspirations, even on the offchance I do not experience a severe depressive episode and manage to make it through the coursework.

I am by no means "healed." I only went back to school bc ive been out for five years and stuck in the exact same place and felt I needed something to unstick myself, and thought that being a grad student might positively influence me to handle my anxiety another way (ie keeping my sticky fingers to myself).

No, she never has, and I know she never would. She's used words, yes..... typically because I do, or because she's reacting to something I've said (directed towards others, not me). But I'm quite sure she would never swear AT or TO me, or call me names. She did tell me recently that I'm stubborn, but then added "just like I am".