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Mar 15, 2015, 02:40 PM

Everything makes me so angry these days. I wish I understood why.

Also, I haven't been online much this weekend and have a dozen couch pages to read up on...

Also also, I'm reading the novel T recommended to me a few months ago. I ordered it at my local bookshop (which is the kind of bookshop that people travel to my town from other countries in order to visit) but the owner forgot to tell me when it came in, so I suddenly saw it on the shelf in the shop a few weeks ago. Needless to say, I made fun of the owner. He is a good friend (as he should be, seeing how many books I've bought there over the last 20 years.)

Anyway, I really like the novel, which is a relief since it would have been vaguely embarrassing to admit to T that I didn't like it. I've reached the point where I wouldn't lie to him and say that I liked it, if I didn't. I think that's a good thing, actually.

KayDubs · Mar 15, 2015, 02:42 PM

Love love love me a great bookstore!

catonyx · Mar 15, 2015, 02:47 PM

We have a big chain of bookstores here that I go to. After my last session I wandered through most of the non-fiction sections looking for something to read on the plane tomorrow. Nothing jumped out at me. Usually I can find something... Castles, Astronomy, Music, Biographies... anything. My T suggested a couple therapy books so I went out the other day and picked them up. I am sure my day of airports and planes will be more tolerable with books. I am actually looking forward to reading them.

healed84 · Mar 15, 2015, 02:49 PM

I miss bookstores.. we don't have any around me anymore. The closest one is a little over an hour away from us

stopdog · Mar 15, 2015, 03:31 PM

Okay - i have started a positive thread. Have at it.

stopdog · Mar 15, 2015, 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by lolagrace

That might be because you don't tend to post positive experiences with therapy so you aren't on the receiving end of it.

What is wanted? What most people want; simply to be heard. Not be told we were just lucky or we have our therapists on pedestals, etc. Not to have our own therapy picked apart simply because its a different modality than others use or like.

When people with positive therapy experiences start not sharing their own experience because they know they'll just get received with cynical and negative responses, then there is something wrong here. And trust me, there are many of us who have just chosen not to share as much because we get tired of having to defend our good therapy from those who insist that pretty much all therapy and therapists are unethical swindlers who are preying on the gullible. It hasn't always been this way here. This IS a change in this forum over the last year or so that just isn't good for me personally. I suspect I am not the only person who has started distancing from this forum (think of how many fear wandering from the couch because only the couch is safe).

I find that when I post about how I do it, I get the reaction of others picking my experience apart, telling me I am doing it wrong, wondering why I do it and so forth. I don't think either (any if not just 2) view is immune from having others want to talk about their different experience and questioning the one the other posters have.
In my view it still seem most people here do all sorts of things to defend therapy and therapists in general. But I see that others do not have my view and that is part of forums I think - and I think the various view points are good. I still enjoy it and the debates and sometimes even the disagreements. It ebbs and flows I think.

Crescent Moon · Mar 15, 2015, 04:34 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Okay - i have started a positive thread. Have at it.

I'm impressed that you stuck your neck out there like that and started a thread... since it's against your policy and all

stopdog · Mar 15, 2015, 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Crescent Moon

I'm impressed that you stuck your neck out there like that and started a thread... since it's against your policy and all

We shall see if others flock to it.
I do like to play with blow torches.

NowhereUSA · Mar 15, 2015, 04:44 PM

It would figure that up until today I would have been like POSITIVE THREAD YAY.

Now I'm bummed. I realized I have some frustrations with the way my T handled some stuff. It's kind of a long story. To be fair, it's been six years and I haven't really felt frustrated with him, so he's bound to do something at some point :P

Still. I don't like to admit to feeling upset. And he keeps telling me that I need to stop belittling my emotions. I don't think he realized that this was going to trigger me to be upset with him *facepalm*

healed84 · Mar 15, 2015, 04:47 PM

Wow, just watched an awesome b-ball game!

Crescent Moon · Mar 15, 2015, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

We shall see if others flock to it.
I do like to play with blow torches.

The oxymoron nature of your name being at the start of a thread of that name oughta be quite enough to have everyone flocking to it like moths to light.

You and your blow torches.

stopdog · 05:16 PM

I know - I am a little concerned my first post there was too soppy and gushy.

Crescent Moon · Mar 15, 2015, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I know - I am a little concerned my post was too soppy and gushy.

Naah.. adds to the mystery when stopdog has a rare moment of leaking a smidgen of emotion.

Not that your post was even a little 'soppy' or 'gushy.' It basically repeated what you've always said about the two you see.

stopdog · Mar 15, 2015, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Crescent Moon

Naah.. adds to the mystery when stopdog has a rare moment of leaking a smidgen of emotion.

Not that your post was even a little 'soppy' or 'gushy.' It basically repeated what you've always said about the two you see.

The sop comes in because I actually don't not mean it. Good lord - I am like a squishly ball of goo today.
What next? Who knows what kind of slippery slope I may be on. Kum-ba-ya and holding hands around a campfire? Letting the woman talk more than once every few months? Hugging?

(Okay - I have now scared myself and am off to walk the dogs)

KayDubs · Mar 15, 2015, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

The sop comes in because I actually mean it.

This is like a Full House moment, where someone says something adorable and the live audience goes "aaaaawwwwwwww" and then Michelle or Uncle Joey says something goofy and all is well in the world.

ETA: Now that I think back on it, the "live audience" was probably a laugh track...I refuse to believe it though, lol.

stopdog · Mar 15, 2015, 05:30 PM

Good lord. Being compared to full house is worse than kum-ba-ya around a campfire.
It is, in fact, perilously close to getting hugged in the horrification scale.

KayDubs · Mar 15, 2015, 05:31 PM

Aaaaaahahahahahaha

KayDubs · Mar 15, 2015, 05:33 PM

We totally need to build stopdog's Horrification Scale, much like that old red/yellow/green terror scale that was a thing about a decade ago.

stopdog · Mar 15, 2015, 05:33 PM

I am completely regretting the whole experiment.
This is more awful than I imagined it would be.

After the dog walk I may go blowtorch something dangerous just to make me feel better if it explodes.

Crescent Moon · Mar 15, 2015, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

The sop comes in because I actually don't not mean it. Good lord - I am like a squishly ball of goo today.
What next? Who knows what kind of slippery slope I may be on. Kum-ba-ya and holding hands around a campfire? Letting the woman talk more than once every few months? Hugging?

(Okay - I have now scared myself and am off to walk the dogs)

I think you need a hug

Mar 15, 2015, 05:43 PM

I was talking to my Dad a few minutes ago. He's 84 and in pretty good health and sharp as a tack. But he said he's been having bouts of vertigo for about two weeks now. They are treating him with steroids which seem to help somewhat but not completely. They think it may be Meniere's disease which would be hard on him at his age. It's hard anyway. We have a church choir member about my age (early 50's) who has Meniere's and those spells can be pretty debilitating and outright dangerous. Hate to see it for my Dad. He's had like zero health issues, so this just may be the start of his age really showing. I suppose if my age didn't show until 84 that would be a great thing though, but it's a bit of a blow to that hard-headed German.

NowhereUSA · Mar 15, 2015, 06:42 PM

Does anyone play video games here? I'm trying to poll people about the Mass Effect trilogy and whether I should play all of it, or just the latest one.

Ellahmae · Mar 15, 2015, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by NowhereUSA

Does anyone play video games here? I'm trying to poll people about the Mass Effect trilogy and whether I should play all of it, or just the latest one.

All three have game play differences but the story continues through all three with your choices affecting each game. I would suggest the whole trilogy because of the carry through and it's well done but if you just want to play the new one I don't see the harm.

NowhereUSA · Mar 15, 2015, 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Ellahmae

All three have game play differences but the story continues through all three with your choices affecting each game. I would suggest the whole trilogy because of the carry through and it's well done but if you just want to play the new one I don't see the harm.

I have a friend who went on and on about fem!Shep but I don't know enough about ME to tell you more than that. I love games with strong female protagonists or the option to play as a strong female protagonist and so it's been on my back burner to play for a while. I'm working through my third play through of Dragon Age Inquisition and while I've got a couple of more play throughs planned, I don't have another game on the horizon at the moment and thought maybe I should add it in there. This online friend loves Dragon Age as much as I do so I figure we have similar tastes.

Ellahmae · Mar 15, 2015, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by NowhereUSA

I have a friend who went on and on about fem!Shep but I don't know enough about ME to tell you more than that. I love games with strong female protagonists or the option to play as a strong female protagonist and so it's been on my back burner to play for a while. I'm working through my third play through of Dragon Age Inquisition and while I've got a couple of more play throughs planned, I don't have another game on the horizon at the moment and thought maybe I should add it in there. This online friend loves Dragon Age as much as I do so I figure we have similar tastes.

If you don't have anything else on the horizon to play I would suggest the full trilogy, you wouldn't regret it.

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