The last few sessions I've found it hard to talk about anything.
Each session I've sat and almost moaned about it.
Today was no different. I begun to get angry. Told T that I feel if I don't do something, T will remain 'dead' just sitting there.
T said, "do you think I'm just sitting here enjoying the silence?"
I said yes, we'll she added, I'm not, it's not a comfortable silence and I'm wondering what is going on.
I can't remember exactly what I replied, but moaned a bit more about the silence and wanting T to rescue me or something.
T replied, I know it's uncomfortable for you, but sometimes it is best to wait and see what happens.

With that she had me. I know some things going on but am frustrated it won't hurry up and happen.
The patience a therapist has to sit with the discomfort and silence giving the client space to let what is happening surface is quite impressively really. If only I was in the mood to see it that way. But at the moment, I'm not.

[gayleggg]

I'm sorry that your sessions are not going the way you would like. Have you tried journalling in between sessions to help find things that may need to be addressed? That might be a way to break the silence.

I hope the silence leads to something productive.

i find that silences tend to be a way of building up to something you really want to talk about.

[Chummy]

I hate those silences. I don't know what to say and I hope my T will come to the rescue. That she or he will ask or say something. Those silences make me so uncomfortable, I just want to run away.

[Mike_J]

My therapist has given up on long silences hoping the discomfort of the silence will prod me into pushing myself. She figured out that I'm more than happy to sit there and stare into her eyes, I find it very relaxing, with her, not with others, long silences with others is an issue, but one I'm usually prepared for. Having a book handy usually does the trick, but not something you can really do in therapy.

[Seeking_Peace]

LOL my T knows that I disassociate and I assume has figured out that I'm comfortable with silence. If there is silence, T does not let it go on for more than 1 minute. In fact, if I look away (either look down or look somewhere else other than T's eyes), he says something asap. Usually T breaks silence by asking what I'm thinking.

[laxer12]

Maybe spend the rest of your week thinking about things you want to talk about or think about why it is so hard for you to find a topic. Another option would be to ask your T something at the start of the session. I'm not sure if she is the type to deflect questions or answer with a question but it could at least get things started. When I don't want to talk I usually find something to ask so that T has to say something to me.

I'm pretty comfortable with silence in session. Sometimes it is actually because I'm deep in thought, other times I simply just run out of things to say. When I don't know what to say, I make eye contact with T so she knows I'm done thinking. This usually prompts her to say something which I really like. I could sit in silence all day but I don't want to waste my money by just sitting there for an hour.

I hope you are able to figure out why you're having difficulties. It can be really frustrating sometimes but often, it's the frustration that means things are happening and you're getting somewhere.

[ShrinkPatient]

Right after my session, I process what we talked about and "things" I think I pick up in her mannerisms, such as tone of voice, body language, ...etc.
While I'm processing, I write down some of my thoughts about all of it and I go through the list at the next session. It actually helps us with the flow of my therapy topics and I get to clarify or expand on out discussion from the last session.
I don't know if that's something that would work for you but I wanted to pass along the idea.
Also, I want to give you a big hug and say hang in there.