Update from this post: http://forums.psychcentral.com/psych...abusive-t.html

I cut it off completely with the abusive T. I kept going back. I finally cut it off about a month ago. The trauma he left me hurts. It makes me so ANGRY that he is going on with his life like nothing happened. while I am stuck in PAIN. It's been a months since and I just feel hurt, lost, and alone. I have a new T who is awesome and is super caring. He gives the right amount of contact between sessions and isn't like that ****** T.

Overall, it still miss that abusive T. But I know it will be bad if I text/contact him again which is why I don't want to. Things are tough but I am coping.

[gayleggg]

I'm glad you were able to break it off. I know it is painful now, but hopefully your new t will help you work through it.

[Love Your Suit]

Did you report him?

Originally Posted by Love Your Suit

Did you report him?

It was a huge thing. He manipulated me not to. Talked about it with my new T and it's to late.

[Love Your Suit]

Originally Posted by psychmajor18

It was a huge thing. He manipulated me not to. Talked about it with my new T and it's to late.

Maybe get another professional opinion about it. People like that, can not keep practicing like that or practicing at all. They might do it again.

I am glad, you got out of that relationship! Good job, for being strong.

[Firecracker89]

Originally Posted by psychmajor18

It was a huge thing. He manipulated me not to. Talked about it with my new T and it's to late.

Can I ask what you mean by this? How did he maniplulate you not to? Do you mean that HE talked to your new T or you did? I don't ask to be nosy, I just want some clarification to better understand what you're trying to say.

Why do you say it's too late? This guy did horrible things to you & he needs to be held accountable, not only to protect you but to protect others he may be working with now or in future. I really think he needs to be reported, as what he did is absolutely egregious & unacceptable.

I am not judging you for what you said or your decision not to, I hope it doesn't read that way but I just worry that if he is not reported for this he will continue unimpeded & harm other people the way he harmed you.

I hope you find compassion & healing in this journey with your new T & that he can help you process your feelings about what has happened to you.

[junkDNA]

Originally Posted by psychmajor18

It was a huge thing. He manipulated me not to. Talked about it with my new T and it's to late.

i didnt know there was a time limit on when u can report....

i'm so sorry he hurt you so much. i hope you will be able to talk about it and process it with your new t.

[guilloche]

Really glad that you were able to get away and break contact.

I wanted to second the suggestion that you talk to another person about possibly reporting him. It's hard, but you deserve some kind of justice... you deserve to have someone formally say that what he did to you was wrong, and to put some kind of sanctions on him.

I'm so sorry you had to go through all that, and hope you've got a good, trustworthy T now...

[Ididitmyway]

Good for you. The pain will last for a long time from now, but if your current T is really good and if you keep making an effort to heal your wounds, the pain will lessen over time and you will be distancing yourself more and more from the traumatic experience and from your T-perpetrator. You just need to be committed to your healing and things will get better, slowly, but they will.

[TheDeepGreenSea]

hey psych glad to hear you're out of that situation and hope you're feeling better