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Old Apr 01, 2015, 05:30 AM
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I wish I could explain the relationship better. It's just not at all how it is portrayed. And that is my fault.
Growli, then why do you portray it that way?

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Old Apr 01, 2015, 06:19 AM
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Misunderstood my point. Her making a joke isn't unprofessional. Her use of language isn't unprofessional.
If she were working in a different setting, it might be. But using language when you know your audience isn't wrong.

We have talked about PC in more depth. She gets upset because she feels like me posting here damages my trust for her because it's hard to explain the way we operate to people. It is professional. It isn't conventional.

I post on PC in the therapy section about her because I do have strong maternal transference and we do work on issues I have and reframing. Saying we are just a friendship where she gets paid isn't an accurate description of the dynamic. It isn't a mutual relationship. We laugh and screw around sometimes, but that doesn't mean it's the focus of our sessions or that the dynamic isn't good. I playfully pick on her and tease her. We have explored why I do that. But she mirrors me and takes what I dish out. I'm a very playful person with her and in general probably as a defense mechanism. But I absolutely do instigate it.

I wish I could explain the relationship better. It's just not at all how it is portrayed. And that is my fault.
You can tell LCM anything you want about the postings here on PC. What you talk to her about and her responses are really not our business, unless you choose to make it such. I could care less if she wants you to tell all the posters here to **** off. If she thinks she's being attacked then I guess that's to be expected. To me the real question is why you posted that conversation on here for everyone at PC to see. What was the purpose of that post?
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Old Apr 01, 2015, 06:37 AM
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You can tell LCM anything you want about the postings here on PC. What you talk to her about and her responses are really not our business, unless you choose to make it such. I could care less if she wants you to tell all the posters here to **** off. If she thinks she's being attacked then I guess that's to be expected. To me the real question is why you posted that conversation on here for everyone at PC to see. What was the purpose of that post?

Idk. I drank a bit and thought it was funny
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Old Apr 01, 2015, 06:42 AM
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To be honest it seemed a bit like trying to play LC and PC users off each other. Does it sound like a familiar pattern for you?
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Old Apr 01, 2015, 06:49 AM
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Idk. I drank a bit and thought it was funny
I'm guessing that you're probably aware that it runs deeper than this, but if not... If you care to think about your feelings and motivations more deeply and honestly, you might find some useful insights.
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Old Apr 01, 2015, 07:30 AM
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wow I think growlithing is just playing with all of us because she is board or something and find it completely insulting I feel sorry for the people who spend the thought and time to respond . you are all better then me . that conversation makes me sick
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Old Apr 01, 2015, 07:56 AM
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Growli, I KNOW you've got some serious **** going on, and I sure know how hard all of that crap is to deal with, but I agree with what is being said. I think you are playing games with us here and hun - that really isn't cool.
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Old Apr 01, 2015, 08:05 AM
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To me it feels as LCM is playing a game, "let me say something outrageous and laugh how growli is gonna b.... about it online. " is it all funny for her?

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Funny, I think Growli plays that exact same game with us.
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Old Apr 01, 2015, 08:18 AM
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I would never want to put any energy into anyone who wants to just tell me to F off. it is sad . as clearly she does
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Old Apr 01, 2015, 08:25 AM
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I also believe this is just a fall back excuse .oh this wasn't cool lets blame it on my drinking I guess that is suppose to make it all better. im sure ill be looked at as all mean and unsupportive but hey she wants to tell us all to F off . so just putting it all out there clearly any support to us from her is non existent
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Old Apr 01, 2015, 08:39 AM
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I don't know why.

It really wasn't that unprofessional given the way I operate.
Holy carp. I thought it was funny. And truthful. And insightful. What more would you want from a post? If you dont like growli's posts, then dont read them or comment on them. Ganging up and repeating the same old carp is not being supportive.
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Old Apr 01, 2015, 08:45 AM
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The only thing your post served growli was to tell everyone here to f*** off in a round-about way.

If your LC sees zero merit in WHY people criticize her so much, then holy moly she is way less professional than I'd even thought. And no one, ever, has said that they hate her. I've read and posted in your threads since before you met her, and no one has ever said that.

What you and she need to think about is WHY do people here criticize her? We're not a group of idiots, we react to what we see. Nothing you post about her is professional, and most all of what we see is stuff that is very likely going to be damaging in the long run. People don't "hate" others just for the fun of it.

You give us examples, continuously, showing unhealthy interactions between the two of you. For her to then blow off the fact that people get upset on your behalf - which comes from a place of caring and concern or why else would we waste our time trying to get something through to you? - then what does that actually say about her? Nothing very good.

Anyway. I do think that your decision to tell us to f*** off by paraphrasing LC is possibly the most childish thing I've seen on this forum. At least use your own words and don't hide behind her.

I do believe that I am officially done with you now. I, and others, don't deserve to be told to f*** off when we've been trying to help support you for ages.

If you don't want to keep hearing people's opinions on the things that upset you, then start a damn blog.
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Old Apr 01, 2015, 08:47 AM
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exactly. couldn't have said it better.

growli, none of us are going to give any positive feedback on how your LCM acts towards you, because she's not a therapist and this is the psychotherapy forum.
I hate to say this to you, but please speak for yourself. I dont wish to exclude growli from this forum. She is doing the work.

If someone is using substances and posting, and it is apparent or they admit to it, people usually just mention it or refrain from replying. But i dont think any of us should throw stones (not saying thats what youre doing here).
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