[Amandasmom]

My mom died in February and I'm having a hard time with it. I feel so alone and empty. I'm not married, have no kids, and my only true friend is 1200 miles away and we speak when we can but she is busy a lot.

I only have my T. She was great when I was away from therapy at the funeral, had to fly back home etc. she sent me an email everyday. Was really caring.

Now she says I'm "wallowing" in my misery. I'm depressed.

I been thinking it would be so easy to just take the bottle of my sleeping pills and be done. I know I would never have the nerve to do it but I think about it. I'm afraid if I tell my T she will tell my pdoc and they will put me in the hospital. It's only thoughts. I don't have the intentions. I don't want to go to the hospital. Should I tell my T or not? If I tell her, do they put you in the hospital for thoughts. I live in the U.S. Thanks!

[unaluna]

Someone else on here was seeing a grief counselor from her MIL's hospice who sounded more sensitive to the situation than your t does. Maybe your primary care dr can refer you?

[stopdog]

Wow. When my mother unexpectedly died, I basically stayed in bed for two months and only got up to feed the dogs or if I had court. I think it may take more than 2 months to get over it. There are grief specialists and support groups- i hope you find someone more useful than the therapist sounds on this situation.

[Victoria'smom]

Please do tell t.

[Amandasmom]

So will a T hospitalize you for thoughts of suicide but no intentions of doing it?

[tree7car]

Typically, you will not be hospitalized unless you have means/plan. Suicidal thoughts are often a part of depression and many other mental illnesses. Most therapists know to expect them at times. But that does not mean that he/she might not over-react.

If you think you are in any type of danger of actually following through with your thoughts, say that. If they are just thoughts, say that. Thoughts are scary but can be changed. That's what therapy is for.

[stopdog]

It depends on the therapist and how twitchy they are. Some will try and some will not. The ease with which a therapist can do such a thing that results in actual detention depends upon the jurisdiction you are in, the people at the hospital and the process once you get there. But certainly it is a possibility for the therapist to try to get a client detained.

[bounceback]

Your post irks me. For God's sakes your mom only died two months ago. That is nothing. Grief takes as long as it takes. There is no time limit. You have the right to wallow and be sad and whatever. After my mom died my mom last March my T asked me when I plan to be over this. That irked me also. You are allowed to grieve as long as you want. I went to a grief group because even though I love my T and didn't feel she understood. She had her mom. I had no parents anymore. She doesn't realize it is different when you don't have any parents anymore.

I am sorry she said this to you. Whatever you feel is right. Anybody who specializes or is knowledgable in grief would tell you this.

[SoupDragon]

If you have the means and the thoughts, even if you don't have intentions, I would consider getting your sleeping tablets out of the house.

My T is aware of my thoughts that I get from time to time and I trust my T not to act over the top with me - I guess that must mean that my T trusts me too.

I also think your T is not being very compassionate in saying your are "wallowing in misery".

Take care - Soup

[Amandasmom]

Originally Posted by bounceback

Your post irks me. For God's sakes your mom only died two months ago. That is nothing. Grief takes as long as it takes. There is no time limit. You have the right to wallow and be sad and whatever. After my mom died my mom last March my T asked me when I plan to be over this. That irked me also. You are allowed to grieve as long as you want. I went to a grief group because even though I love my T and didn't feel she understood. She had her mom. I had no parents anymore. She doesn't realize it is different when you don't have any parents anymore.

I am sorry she said this to you. Whatever you feel is right. Anybody who specializes or is knowledgable in grief would tell you this.

Thanks Bounce! You make me feel better. Yes, I have no parents left. I feel so alone and only have my T right now and giving me tough love is not the thing to do right now. Thanks Again. She is very friendly with my pdoc so I'm nervous. When I rescheduled my pdoc appointment for 1 week later, she told my T!!

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by Amandasmom

Thanks Bounce! You make me feel better. Yes, I have no parents left. I feel so alone and only have my T right now and giving me tough love is not the thing to do right now. Thanks Again. She is very friendly with my pdoc so I'm nervous. When I rescheduled my pdoc appointment for 1 week later, she told my T!!

Did you sign any paperwork allowing your T to share information with your pdoc? Technically, you should have to do that, even if they're in the same practice (I did with my T, marriage counselor, and pdoc, and even my T says she will still only share something if I give explicit permission.) And I was told I could take back that permission at any time.

[Amandasmom]

Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Did you sign any paperwork allowing your T to share information with your pdoc? Technically, you should have to do that, even if they're in the same practice (I did with my T, marriage counselor, and pdoc, and even my T says she will still only share something if I give explicit permission.) And I was told I could take back that permission at any time.

Yes, I signed paperwork so they both can speak with each other. I just think it's crappy my pdoc "told on me" that I rescheduled my appt and took the week later appt. So today I called my pdoc to renew my Klonopin. I sent an email and told my T. This way I feel better if I tell my T first. Lol

[stopdog]

You can always revoke consent. They are not your parents.