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Apr 30, 2015, 06:23 AM
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How do you get over/ cope with intense abandonment feelings, both in therapy and real life?
------------ TRIGGER WARNING ----------- I'm struggling with it on both parts. I've been doing it for my entire life as result of attachment and when abandonment feelings get super intense I tend to SI. I think about it all the time. So I would like to know how others cope and find ways to feel better or at least find something to hold on to. Thanks  ️
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Apr 30, 2015, 07:03 AM
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Does abandonment and rejection feel the same for you? I have had feelings of rejection the past couple of months, and it's leaked into my personal life and the relationships I have with others. I hate it. But I'm sure I know your pain...and it really sucks.
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Apr 30, 2015, 11:57 AM
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Thanks for your reply Musinglizzy.
Wow, good question.. I don't know! I haven't thought about a connection between the two, but I think the two are connected at least in part. So it comes mainly from feeling rejected and at times from feeling just forgotten, by both my T when I have a rough time and don't get acceptance (I usually solve it when I see her again but when it happens it's really painful for the whole week) and other people in my life. I am tired of living like this and getting so fiercely attached to some people, I don't want to feel like junk forever - but I don't seem to find my own balance and strength. I live on my own and am quite independent, but I'm a little needy child inside and constantly grieving. I think I'm depressed but no one in my life realized it and not even my T. Sorry for the rant.
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Apr 30, 2015, 02:20 PM
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The only way I know how to work through attachment and abandonment is to just keep working on it. Being open and honest, and aware. Processing what needs are being met by attachments and what are by abandinment and then trying to meet those needs yourself.
If you don't count my T's recent abandonment, my attachments have improved and are not as severe. My fear of abandonment still existed and now it's even worse. So the only advice I can give is baby steps, admitting it, and being honest.
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