Couch 94 - Blowtorches R' Us

My son just finished a presentation for his final tomorrow for his AP Lit class - it's about Dante's Inferno. Holy SHEEPfrogs.... my son has some great insights.... he let me read his paper and I am floored. I did not have nearly that kind of maturity when I was his age, to come up with some of the things he wrote. I took AP Lit, even.... we read Chaucer, but I don't remember writing anything even approaching what he wrote about Dante. I am so impressed with my boy right now.

Guess I've monopolized the couch enough for one evening lol it is time for this one to head to the dream time. G'night (or g'day)!

Evening couch. Middle of the night here. I had a so-so day at school-job. Had the creepy kid call me a "f-ing B" onyl he said the actual words because I asked him not to pull his classmate's hair. I am so done with this school year. 8 days.

Someone at CVS-job tonight asked when kids were out of school. I openly told her. The pharmacy manager overheard sort of and asked me to repeat it. I did and he follow ups with so you will have open availability then? I say for the most part except when I have doctor appopintments. His eyes light up like a little kid in a candy store and he gets a huge grin on his face. I almost felt like I was dealing with one of my kids at school they way he got excited. Oh well. Guess that means I will not have to worry about getting enough hours this summer. Probably a good thing.

Well, I should probably get to bed. I just wanted to catch up on the couch and check in. Ate my dinner. Too late to shower (don't want to wake others up), so that will be done in the morning.

Night.

What CVS is this?

It sounds like a pharmacy chain like Terry White or Chemist Warehouse here

Today was unusual in T . I actually expressed anger towards my T and we talked about it. Something happened on a deep level. I will crawl away and process it.

Tell him he will approach the nth circle of hell if he gets a driving ticket!

I hope you and h can talk it out. Maybe tell him you learned in t, its still there whether you talk about it or not. Maybe talk about stuff with the boy in front of the h more openly for starters? About the boys stuff, not the h's. This is probably the most important thing i learned in t, with current t - to speak up to save and defend myself; ie save myself from dubious entanglements!

I will ask him. It's hard in summer because Sweden basically shuts down after Midsummer (21 June) and very few people work during July. I suspect that only emergency services are staffed during those weeks. And also there's the issue of finding a T who works within the system so I don't have to pay out of pocket. But yeah, I'll ask, and maybe that will lead to some other kind of bridging-over solution. Thanks.
(No, I don't have anybody to talk to, not really.)

Exactly. Im so proud of our little squirrel!! She used to have a hard time affording her meds - i loved her posts about her budget accounting, so creative - but pretty soon the S in CVS will stand for Squirrel

What is it with men and beards? Hubby's growing one. Then T walks in and he's growing one as well. At least it suits them.

Good idea about the nth circle... !

Yes... the speaking up and defending myself is something I have worked on in t also... I used to be a complete mouse around everyone/everywhere including h, I've gotten so much better with everyone ELSE, still struggling with standing up for myself to him. t always says "I don't understand the dynamics of your marriage." Neither do i, t, neither do i. I am able to do it sometimes, like before I went on my trip last month and he didn't want me to pay to check a suitcase and I told him "I work 40+ hours a week and I'll check a bag if I want to", but I'm in super-mousey mode right now and still trying to pull myself out of it!! I'm not sure what I think is going to happen if I do speak up and tell him how I've been feeling. The floor's not going to open up and swallow me, for heaven's sake. And I'm going to be seeing t next week for the first time in SO long, do I really want her to see me in pathetic mousey mode?! No! Thanks again for listening ya'all. "talking" things out here is SO helpful for me.

I might forgo the couch for my bed today! Recuperating from 3 days of negativity. Took that negativity home last night. Hoping the depression will lift quickly.

Artemis your T is there to help you so be however you are honey! You are a tiger not a mouse you are tackling tough issues so that makes you strong!

I mean dubious.

(((Art)))
Change is hard, and change in a marriage is extra hard. It's easier to stay the way we are than to walk the path of change. On some level I'm sure your H knows what you want to say and he's pulling out all the stops to not have to talk about it (poor guy!). It's scary...

But fortunately for you both, he's not like my stbx-H...

You'll have to be the strong one here, and probably drag him along kicking and screaming for a bit, but if he wants your marriage to work (and it sounds like he does)...

Sometimes you gotta be cruel to be kind. And sometimes caring for others means putting yourself first. Those might be two of the most important things I've learned in therapy.

(((Mast)))
I know you like to avoid PC when you're feeling low, but if you do want/need to talk send me a PM... If you want...

Morning.

*grabs blanket and sits on couch*

Can you guys help me double check my logic because H is totally pissed at me and acting like I am unreasonable. D got a check for her graduation. Put it on the counter in our kitchen where we always put important things and asked me to take it to the bank for her. We all agree the check was there when D and I left town for the weekend. H and S agree that the check was still on the counter during the weekend, while D and I were gone and H and S were cleaning up the kitchen. HOWEVER, they both claim not to have touched it. Monday morning, when I went to grab the check to take it to the bank, it was gone. H and S are irate that I asked them where the check was. Both are incensed that D and I are not taking any responsibility for the check being missing. WE. WERE. NOT. HOME. If the check is gone, then clearly one of the two people in the house during the weekend moved it, right? What am I missing here?

In my house - a pet could well be the guilty party. One of my cats is drawn to sheets of paper - he likes to bat and chew and carry around paper. Post-its are not safe from him.
Could it have gotten blown off the counter from other movement- like if other stuff was being moved - then the check could have been knocked/blown sort of off the counter? Check paper is rather light and paper can slide in ways that amaze me.

The check was inside a card inside an envelope. If the cats took it, it would be on the floor somewhere and we have looked all over the floor.

This speech kicks *** - had to share. Given by former Irish president Mary McAleese ahead of the upcoming marriage equality referendum.

Did it fall down the side of a cabinet maybe? Accidentally get mixed up with junk mail?

Lawyer texted saying papers are ready, he's emailing them for me to review.
I'm just... I don't know... This sh^t hurts.

(((((((Shakey))))))))

(((JS)))

Well done!