[BayBrony]

Trigger warning for Stopdog. it will make you go "ick"


My T and I have been working through a lot of issues around my ability to maintain connection or a feeling of love from her when I am apart. Basically I can't do this with anyone. I worry that even my partner of 17 years thinks secretly that her life would be a lot better without me. Today she said this.

"Our souls are connected through time and space. They remain connected no matter what is going on around us or what distance lies between us
Remember I always love you"

OMG...now I am supposed to use this to help me maintain the feeling of connection by repeating these words. But I am just stunned by how amazing she is...

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

My T maintains a connection is a rather more prosaic way - 'See you in a fortnight but first I want fifty quid off you'.

[musinglizzy]

My T used to be almost awesome like that. Not THAT sweet, but close. You are lucky to have her bay, don't let go of that one! Your T sounds amazing. I would probably bawl my *** off if someone said that to me. Anyone. Ever.

[BayBrony]

Originally Posted by musinglizzy

My T used to be almost awesome like that. Not THAT sweet, but close. You are lucky to have her bay, don't let go of that one! Your T sounds amazing. I would probably bawl my *** off if someone said that to me. Anyone. Ever.

I ...armor myself against stuff like that. My mom would always tell me abuse was because she loved me so I just try not to listen or believe much of what people say. Otherwise I'd bawl. It takes forever for me to take something like this in. That's why I'm supposed to keep repeating it. She is pretty amazing and at this point our connection is very deep. Today she also said "you have given me as much as I've given you"

[stopdog]

If it is good for you, then I am glad she said something (regardless of how it creeps me out) that was useful to you.

That's beautiful. I have that kind of deep connection with my t, too. It's how we were able to do phone sessions for 2.5 years so successfully, every time we talked I felt connected to her. Well, there were a few times where I didn't feel the connection at first, and we talked about it, and got it back. I plan on asking her in a little bit when I see her, just what I am supposed to do with this connection now that we are no longer having regular appointments. I feel it sometimes, out of the blue, and don't know what to do with it.....

Thats awesome. My t said something very similar a few years ago and i still hang onto it.

[BayBrony]

Originally Posted by artemis-within

That's beautiful. I have that kind of deep connection with my t, too. It's how we were able to do phone sessions for 2.5 years so successfully, every time we talked I felt connected to her. Well, there were a few times where I didn't feel the connection at first, and we talked about it, and got it back. I plan on asking her in a little bit when I see her, just what I am supposed to do with this connection now that we are no longer having regular appointments. I feel it sometimes, out of the blue, and don't know what to do with it.....

I try not to think about that day coming. We still have a LOT of work to do though

[BonnieJean]

I'm glad T said something that was so meaningful for you.

I have similar issues with T but a statement like this doesn't feel helpful to me. I think I've lived thru too much loss.

[BayBrony]

My T and I have been working together for 3 years and we've tried a number of things that were NOT helpful. Right now this is helpful for me. Everyone is so different. I'm grateful my T is attuned and flexible enough to work at finding things that help me maintain the connection.