I can't do this anymore, health anxiety is killing me.

I am a medical professional I hope it's ok for me to reply.

Now, I'm not going to give you medical advice here but as many others have said there are many reasons why menstrual cycles can be a bit messed up, especially where stress and lack or regular nutrition are involved.

What I will say though is that loads of people dread coming to see medical people, in fact to be honest who really wants to go? it usually means something isn't quite right physically or you are having a check up, but even then we worry that someone will find something not quite right. Most people stress and worry a bit, some people get super anxious, and some people get so anxious it really prevents them from accessing the healthcare they need. It's really a good idea to get this talked about in therapy, try if you can to send an email letting her know that you need to talk about this.

As far as embarrassing things go, well I'm not a T (good heaven's, the very thought) but people have to tell me embarrassing things every day and almost everyone struggles with this. Honestly though, I can tell you there is pretty much nothing I haven't heard (or seen) at this point. And, as far as having to examine people go, well, I do it every day and looking at parts of the anatomy which are generally kept covered are no different from looking at an arm or a leg to me, absolutely no different at all. I understand completely that it is different for the patient but to me the person is a whole person not a set of parts if that makes sense.

I've no idea if it helps hearing it from the other side or not but please remember that even if you do go to see a doctor or anyone else, no one can or should ever do anything to you without you being ok with it. You are in control of the whole thing. If at anytime you want to leave you can, if you don't want to be examined you don't have to be. If you don't understand something, tell the medic they need to explain what they are talking about 100 times if necessary. This is your care, about you and above everything else you are the only person in the room who matters.

Well, you know what doesn't work: not telling her what's really going on.

That leaves a lot of room to try something new.

Could you email her with a note that you panicked and misled her about your level of anxiety? Could doing that be anymore painful and distressing than keeping this to yourself?

Can sending an email feel any worse than you feel right now? ok it might at the hit send moment but I'd place a bet that in the long run you'll feel better just getting this off your shoulders. Most of your anxiety seems to be coming from how to tell your T things, I think there is going to come a point where you might just need to take a risk and try something new because right now you are hurting week after week and are getting no relief. Can you try sending just a simple one line email saying this week you have felt more anxious than you admitted to in session?

Sometimes waiting for motivation is what trips me up. Just hit send.

To slow down the flow, try an ice pack, wrapped in a towel, on your abdomen.

Did you ask her to reply? If you didn't, try not to read anything into this. There are a lot of possible reasons you haven't heard back from her yet. You put it out there and let her know what's really going on. That's what's important. If it's something she wants to wait for session to talk about, at least you will be dealing with your anxiety and not hiding it/making it worse.