[Petra5ed]

Right now I just want him to hold me, but for a long time, maybe an hour or more even. I wish I could pay for our sessions to just be that.

[musinglizzy]

Me too. Not for an hour or anything. But she used to. And she gave that up. All the pain I experience in that room with her....I'd sure appreciate it just once in awhile.

[RedSun]

The only thing I can think of (except the tea, obvs) is maybe a session out of the office. I'm starting to dread the sight of 'my' chair....maybe I will ask.

My immediate thought is more out of session contact, but really, I know his tight boundaries on that are best for me because no matter how much contact he allowed me I would want more. It would feed into my neediness.

[magicalprince]

Actually I don't think I would enjoy anything she didn't voluntarily want to do in the first place

[Chummy]

I would want her to offer me a hug, but without me asking for it. And I would like if she would check in with me during session, if I had a hard session or was in a very bad place.

[ruh roh]

I once jokingly asked her to fix an issue I'd brought up, and she laughed, but really...it would be awfully nice just to turn it all over and have my problems fixed, like taking a car to a mechanic.

[LindaLu]

Buy new chairs. The one I sit with is sunken and lumpy. I have chronic pain that's made worse by sitting in it.

[ruh roh]

LindaLu, that reminds me....I would love a larger waiting room (one with a window) and a separate exit.

[Tearinyourhand]

take more control of our sessions so I don't try to avoid topics I find upsetting. to challenge me to talk about them and accept his support and care.

I'm not sure planning what we want has the same affect as the little spontaneous things that happen.

I can't think of anything I would need him to do that he hasn't. Right now all I need him to do is be available should I need him eventually. I suspect he can do that barring retirement or death, so I'm cool with that.

[granite1]

I would just like her to help me be able to talk about my past more then she does. I don't think I will ever be able to unless she helps me a bit more

[LonesomeTonight]

Individual T--I would like her to give me a hug.

Marriage counselor--This will be a shock to anyone reading my threads, but occasional individual sessions with him. That maybe end with a hug.

[stopdog]

She could get a chair for clients rather than only having her horrible couch.

[ThisWayOut]

I would want ex-t to come to a few sessions with once-again-t to help her catch up on what's happened in the last few years... and maybe help once-again-t express her understanding of how I work a bit better than she has in the past... Oh, and maybe come have margaritas on the beach before I go.

I would want once-again-t to offer a session in her tree hourse b/c omg, that thing looks so awesome!!

[Tearinyourhand]

Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Individual T--I would like her to give me a hug.

Marriage counselor--This will be a shock to anyone reading my threads, but occasional individual sessions with him. That maybe end with a hug.

I hope somewhere down the road both will be able to meet those needs in a way that's healing for you.

[rainbow8]

I wish my T could enable me to cry during a session.

[coolibrarian]

Hold me while I cry. Answer my emails.

[AllHeart]

To make this misery, heartache, and irrational thoughts STOP!
And also to get a comfy chair or couch. The cool looking, contemporary chair may be pleasing to the eye, but very uncomfortable to the body.

[Ambra]

I'd like to get again a hug and be told we can see each other again when she is back next year.

Really the only thing would be her moving back here so I can start having in-person sessions again. But if I'm honest with myself I can't complain about her moving away, because I did some really tough, good work during phone sessions (because she couldn't see me, as in wasn't "looking at me" when I said things.)

[rollercoaster30]

A hug.

[Gavinandnikki]

I wish she would have hugged me- I certainly begged her for one. Yes, begged and pleaded like a pathetic lost little baby. But nope, no touching ever, for any reason.

[Gavinandnikki]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

I wish my T could enable me to cry during a session.

You have never cried in session?? That seems unbelievable to me since you and your therapist discuss a lot of pretty intense stuff.

What holds you back from crying?