If your therapist could do anything for you what would you want?

yeah, this too... I wish any of my T's helped me cry, and reminded me it was a safe place to do so...

I have sometimes wished the same, but looking at it from a distance I believe it would be more harmful than helpful if it were to happen... (I'm not saying it is harmful for other people. I'm simply trying to say that I can understand this wish even though it would not be good for me personally.)

OMG I am the same way. Sometimes I want to cry but the only people I cry with his hubby and kids, a couple of times I have cried with my best friend. With T though, I have gotten a little teary eyed but not a cry. I keep thinking about bringing it up to T but it sounds like a stupid request so I don't/

The only other thing is that we could push an easy button and all the horrible memories could be gone. I have mentioned this to her a couple of times when discussing these issues. She gets really compassionate and says she would do anything to have the power to do it.

I've been in therapy for about 25 years with 5 different Ts and never cried once. Many times I started crying as soon as I got out of the building or into my car. I think the reason is that I don't like other people to see or hear my bodily functions, and crying is included. I feel totally safe with my T yet I can't get the tears to come in the session even when I'm sad. I hope I will be able to cry with her about my H. Sorry I didn't intend to hijack this very interesting thread.

For her to change her mind and say she's not leaving.

Move back home.

understand.

Get me unattached to him without feeling pain.

For her to hold me in her arms. There's no touching whatsoever in my sessions. I crave her touch but she said she won't do it.
To offer me a drink spontaneously (tea or coffee) when I show up for my session at 8am

I would have loved a hug

It's a little thing...but she's a bit abrupt closing our sessions. We've talked about it, she's not actually happy to get rid of me, but her manner is still chilly and incongruous with the "take care" offered as she opens the door. Just sometimes I'd like her to have eye contact or say an extra word while we're both standing. I'd feel more equal and respected.

To lead our sessions and to convince ex-T to have contact with me.

Give me a hug.

YES. Exactly what I want from my T! I could do an hour easily. Even if they had those sessions, I would feel awkward asking for one. It toke me a ton of strength just to ask for a hug.. Lol

A little more extreme would be for her to spend the night with me and hold me for the entire night. More extreme, live with me and have her take me in, as like a mom or something.

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I want two sessions a week. T and i both know i need it, but I can't afford it, and he already discounts the session i have, so it's not possible.

It's just so flippin' hard trying to process twenty years of chronic abuse (physical, sexual and psychological), inflicted by both attachment figures in different ways (and in collusion), one-hour-a-week at a time. I'm just so fortunate that T gets that and provides a lot of contact between sessions as well. But two sessions a week would help so much more in terms of attachment and containment.

Spend time with me outside of our sessions. I understand why the boundaries are there and why it will never happen but I want her to be a part of my life other than the 1 hour I get every week.

Come sit on the beach with me and just talk

If Im honest... I want him to kiss me and touch me hard.

yes! this.

Let me fly out to her location and have a few days of double sessions in person. It would be very special to see her and share space after all this intense therapy we've done.

Hold me. Tell me that I'm one of "her people", just like she is one of "my people." Tell me that she cares about me as much as she cares about her family and friends.

Come back.

I just want an ethical therapist who won't abandon me or hurt me.

Free sessions for life!

Okay... for real though, probably say we can be friends in real life. I know it couldn't happen, but once I'm done with therapy, why not?! We have so much in common, it's not fair!

Marry me.