On a scale of 1 to 10, how obsessed are you with your T?

1 - Not at all attached
2 - Not attached
3 - Not really attached
4 - Kind of not attached
5 - Maybe/Maybe not/Unsure/varies
6 - Kind of attached
7 - Attached, but I could be functional without them
8 - Pretty Attached, they mean a lot to me and couldn't function well without them
9 - Unhealthily Attached or in love with them and couldn't function at all without them
10- So attached, I should see a different T about my T

I'm at a 10 right now!!! Anyone else? It was lower before. At the start I was like a 2. Then one month in, a 5. Then over the course of 3 years, it want from a 6 to a 8. Then last year I was a 9. Now I'm a 10 and it's 5 years since first time I went to see her.

Sorry this is so subjective, that's why I made the number scale! So I get more accurate answers as a survey. Not just random numbers thrown at me. And sorry if this is a stupid question. I'm just curious. Guessing since this is a transference/therapist forum on a pysch website thingy, most people will give me higher numbers.

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I'm a 7. I'm deeply attached and appreciate the connection I have with my therapist, but I can and do function without her, and if she had to retire or passed away (she's older) I would grieve deeply but certainly still be able to live my life. I've lost a therapist before that I was attached to, many years ago, and found that to be true.

5 down from 10 last summer

I'm an 8 andnow
I find she's leaving

I'm 8-9 with CBT T.

Long term T probably a 9

why did it go down?

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Looked at this again in the context of the title question. I am not obsessed at all with my T. I think equating attachment to obsession doesn't really work because attachment isn't necessarily a bad thing nor does it have anything necessarily to do with obsession.

I originally answered 7 because I am attached but can definitely function without him, but framing that against the title of the thread I guess I really don't have an answer. I have a healthy attachment for my therapist (not an obsession in any way, shape, or form) and do much more than just function without him. None of the answers on the scale really fit that.

Omg, I'm so sorry I feel so bad

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I'm glad you could move on and I'm sorry you lost your T ️

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Went down due to emotional exhaustion... realizing the futility of wanting to seduce her...no dice. She's entirely professional. All that mental s*** was just making me sicker.

I would definately be a 10 at this point in time and it's hard!!!

I'm at a 5 with current T. 8 with ex-T.

In my head for PrevT and Current T.....probably an 8.

Reality...for both, more like a 7. I say that because intellectually I know I survived for fifteen years without either of them. Not that I did well...but I didn't have any hospitalizations and no therapist during those 15 years.

But I would grieve deeply if I lost either one.

I would have to say I am a 1. I have been seeing her for about 10 months now.

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I didn't mean to imply, 'obsessed', I originally did use that word when writing out the answers... Then I was changing the question from obsessed to attached, because it fit better, and did so in the bio but forgot to change the wording in the question. I didn't mean to confuse you... I didn't mean to equate obsessed to attachment either. Sorry!!!

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That sounds like a mess... Same thing happened with some other teacher, who was a woman I had a sexual attraction to.

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I feel your pain

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7...........

My psychiatrist, who I see fairly often, is barely at a 4. My current T is a 10. My past two T's, I didn't like. One wasn't bad, just nothing there so it was a 2. Then this woman, who said insane and asinine things to me, was at a 0-1.

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Im an 8. At times it is a 10.

I'm thinking about an 8 with my individual T and a 9 with my marriage counselor (was more like a 10 at one point). Around a 4 or 5 with my p-doc, but I haven't been seeing her for that long.

I'm a 7 with my current T now, though I used to be an 8 or 9. I was a 10 with my first T, and 7 or 8 with the two I saw after her. I was an 8 or 9 with the T I saw right before current T.

8..........

7, it would be really hard to end it with her right now but I would be able to cope. Thinking about leaving her makes me want to cry but I was in a much worse place before I started seeing her and I was functioning, not well, but still functioning.

I don't see attachment as being the same as obsession at all. I don't consider myself to be obsessed with my therapist. I am indeed attached to him and the attachment is helping me to make progress in therapy as well as in my life. At this point, it's constructive rather than disruptive.