Asking T for referral just for support?

I am really struggling. My transference is worse as I approach a difficult subject and spacing my sessions to every two weeks. I keep thinking I want someone to help me and I wonder if it would help to talk to another T. But I want it to be one that my T recommends and be honest about it.

Have you ever asked your T to suggest someone to talk to?

Yes, I've mentioned a support t for when T's vacation comes, but didn't have the nerve to press it. Transference feelings make it so hard to ask for things or sound dependent at all, so I see how this is touchy for you. With transference so strong as you have, it sounds too early for T to switch you to every two weeks. Do you know why that change was made? if I couldn't discuss it with the therapist, I would just quietly start filling in with another T then tell my T later. Theoretically, I really don't believe it's correct therapy to make sessions every two weeks when transference is still painful and strong, and I wouldn't feel so loyal to my T if she/he did that. Spacing out sessions, per se, doesn't make someone more independent. If your T is doing it for that reason, I would question her training. yet being attached makes it impossible to question or leave the therapist. Another reason to add support T. You have to do what you have to do. And your "inner child" needs your help for her in whatever way is necessary to make her life bearable.

Yes, under different circumstances (traveling). Why not ask? Presumably she can think of a few people right off the top of her head, and if she takes her job seriously, I would think she would do it.

I was actually doing really well in June. I was ready to space because I thought maybe it would help lessen all these feelings. I usually take 3-4 days to process so with my sessions being weekly, I was never giving my mind a break. By the time I processed, I was thinking about my next session. I thought this would be a good way to have a week of processing and a week of a break. And, my transference was less. Finally, I had made a lot of great realizations to the point that my T. was pointing it out. It's like I could think better because the crazy feelings were so much less. I had also actually thought I could do without therapy and figured I had about another year and I would go to monthly and so on.

I think that subconsciously when we scheduled the bi-weekly sessions, some issues I haven't discussed came roaring to the surface. When I realized things I hadn't told her yet, I think my transference came back full force. Earlier tonight when I posted this, I felt like I had gone backwards by 6 months. I was crying thinking I am so tired of all of this. The only way out is to quit.

I seem better now which makes me think I'm better at self-regulating now. I'm going to keep track of my emotions and try to make it until next Thursday when my next session is. If I'm still teary/weary tomorrow, then I'll text her. I've asked for extra support once or twice and she's fit me in. I just try not to use it.

I guess I thought maybe this would be easier if I had another T. to help me understand the crazy feelings. But, now that I think of it, it wouldn't help my mind get a break. I don't know. Still thinking out loud.

I expect my therapist to provide the support I need, if he was unwilling to do that he'd be the wrong therapist for me.

I have thought of this same thing. My transference and attachment is so strong for my T that I am crying a lot and having a very hard time. I thought about having another T for the short term to help me with it. Now I don't think i can see someone else. It doesn't feel right. As msxyz said above, if my current T can't give me the support i need then she is not the right person. My T is the right person. She is amazing. I now know i need the support from her even though my feelings for her are so strong.

When I needed some perspective or extra support, I did one-time consultations with other therapists. I did tell my therapist, but I didn't get her referral, I selected them myself.

It was very helpful. Once, it did cause a small rift in our relationship, she felt insecure I think that I would do that and find it so easy and useful, but it was not serious. All in all, it was invaluable for helping me evaluate my therapeutic relationship and progress. That was... probably more than a year and a half now.