[Freewilled]

So I haven't been here is awhile...so much has happened. But the most relevant is that my T is moving out of state. I haven't seen him in several months because....well for lots of reasons. I have been going through one crisis after another and it just wasn't plausible to continue. Anyway, he left me a message last week asking me to call if I wanted "closure" before he moves away. I don't think I can do it...it feels too traumatic as it is. But will i regret not calling? Will i regret it? Maybe I should email him instead.

I don't know. I saw him for over 2 years and we were meeting twice a week at the end there...it was a lot. I hate therapy

[junkDNA]

so sorry

[gayleggg]

I'm sorry. It is always hard losing a time that we had for a long time. I hope you can resolve it either on your own or with his help. It is your choice.

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I'm so sorry.

[Petra5ed]

Sorry that sounds rough. I can only answer for me, from my perspective. I personally would do a closure session, but I would recommend you trust your gut on what will be least painful for you.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

If it were me I would want/need the closure session or phone call. Ask yourself how much you care about your T and if you would regret not saying goodbye. You will find the answer within yourself. Best of luck to you!

...one crisis after another and it just wasn't plausible to continue....

Huh? That's the exact reason to go to therapy.

[Freewilled]

Originally Posted by _Mouse

...one crisis after another and it just wasn't plausible to continue....

Huh? That's the exact reason to go to therapy.

Yes - I know. But it was very complicated. There were many reasons including the distance to drive to see him while I was in a severe, debilitating depression. I almost lost my job....I had a few phone sessions as every time I would try to set out to his office I would feel such fear and dread/panic I had to return home. My husband was very anti-T and that made it hard. Plus, my T started advising me about my marriage and my job and that was so unlike him as he was always about empowerment and not telling me what to do....anyway, what's done is done. I don't regret my decisions because I know for certain it was the very best that I could do at the time. Had my T's office been right around the corner I would've most likely continued. That was the biggest barrier. I started to get symptoms of agoraphobia.

As far as needing closure...I'm feeling that maybe our last phone conversation may have been closure enough for me...I don't see the point of one last session to say goodbye. Especially in light of how my progress went downhill at the end of T. I was hospitalized twice and put on meds. I had NEVER before been hospitalized or taken psych meds. Everything went downhill. I hope I won't regret it but the more I think about it, the more I think I might just email him a thank you and move on.

[iheartjacques]

(Hugs) so sorry